Grotto wrote:
That is for certain. I was just thinking about it today, what a difference it would make if it were possible that the givers and receivers met. The simple but awesome power of a genuine "thank you" and a genuine "your welcome". I think it makes a huge difference for the giver to see the good that is done, and the receiver to see the giver willingly helping. I think it empowers both parties.
It does , and it doesn't. We surely don't want Lady Bountiful to be a conceited bird for us to watch and admire. We don't want to view poor peasants extruding gratitude. So yes, to the suggestion, but only minimally and as a sop to human frailty .After all the very difficult goal of not allowing our left hand to see what our right hand is doing is ethically best. It should rather be a matter of the money-richer person feeling ashamed of the differential which gives her an unfair advantage.
When it comes to the rich distributing money to the poor of the world there is no need for either pride of giving or gratitude of receiving. The poor are poor , in this today's global village , only because the rich are rich because the poor are or were exploited by the rich. This comes about because of inherited money or because of contemporary exploitation and downright dishonesty.
When the gift is given from a position of honestly achieved strength such as good health, or expertise in some employment, it is a matter of common courtesy to thank the giver, so making the giver stronger to give in the future, and honouring the giver's expertise. Like thanking the bus driver before alighting, or the doctor for the therapy.The common courtesy is good for receiver and giver and does not entrench an unfair system.
Relating all this to fat people who eat too much and to smokers, such people are not strong, they are weak and require help. Obesity and smoking are diseases not crimes and should be treated not punished. Fat people and smokers who accept help should thank the helpers but may not because of ignorance. Ignorance is also a sort of disease.
Grotto wrote some days ago;
You want to climb that deadly mountain for kicks, fine, but if you die it is not my problem (hire your own rescue helicopter with your own funds before going). You want to take strolls through dangerous areas at night and you get mugged, again not my problem if the neighborhood has acceptable police coverage. Your a workaholic and your constant stress is giving you heart attacks and high blood pressure, then buy some life insurance with all that money you just had to have.
True, However not everybody is wise enough to insure against accidents. I well remember when I was young and foolishly confident that nothing bad would happen to me.