I'm with Scott on this one. Civil Unions should be available for all peoples be they same sex, opposite sex, transgender or transexual. I see no problem in calling these civil unions, marriage. I see no problem in making civil marriages legally binding and church marriages not: So that a traditional faith wedding must be first or second recognized by the state as a civil marriage if it is to be legal.
What I do have an issue with is people who openly flout religious conventions expecting a traditional faith marriage. It's wrong and disrespectful towards the faith involved. As a Hedonist, I am affected by this and so cannot be married in a faith based ceremony. But then I wouldn't want to be. It is disrespectful towards my beliefs. It also affects same sex partners and atheists and many other kinds of people... but then again, why should they demand a faith based ceremony when that faith and they are at poles intellectually from one another.
Let the church wed the faithful and let the state legalize the union. For the rest of us, let the state recognize out commitments in love legally and find our own traditions of celebration for same.