Spoon sex?
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Spoon sex?
I like my spoon, quite a lot. I like other spoons like it, a particular fork, some knives over other knives and particular shaped bowls. We have a selection in our kitchen of a variety of each because we lose things and break the occasional piece of crockery. I find certain forms pleasing over others. I don't try to, I'm not even sure it is conscious, in fact I think it is quite the opposite. I have only noticed when I caught myself washing a particular spoon of a particular shape rather than use one of many other different shaped spoons in the drawer.
Why?
I have decided I am unconsciously attracted to some ratios of proportion or forms over others and find the use of them pleasing or comforting in some way (there is a reward for my brain of some sort but I'm not sure quite what!)
My thinking at this time is that it is related to finding a mate and evolution has built this into my crocodile brain to somehow be attracted to certain proportions, ratios or forms for that purpose.
I then wondered if our appreciation of art and reason for finding art pleasing, when it relates to proportions, ratios or forms is simply an evolutionary extension of our need to reproduce?
Any thoughts?
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Re: Spoon sex?
Your speculation is quite interesting. It is quite possibly a partial if not the main cause of the attraction you describe. It reminds me of the way it is known that babies and toddlers are attracted to power outets (at least USA-style ones) because they resemble a face in a very rudimentary way.Why?
I have decided I am unconsciously attracted to some ratios of proportion or forms over others and find the use of them pleasing or comforting in some way (there is a reward for my brain of some sort but I'm not sure quite what!)
My thinking at this time is that it is related to finding a mate and evolution has built this into my crocodile brain to somehow be attracted to certain proportions, ratios or forms for that purpose.
However, the possibility of an explanation being true is not evidence that it is actually true or a valid theory.
If this is to be taken as an actual hypothesis, it needs to be testable in some way. How can we validate this wouldbe hypothesis?
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"However, the possibility of an explanation being true is not evidence that it is actually true or a valid theory."
Quite true and my OP was pure speculation based on my own behaviour. This could be a cognitive bias such as the "Halo effect", which is a form of confirmation bias. That particular bias causes individuals to see the good in what is being said by a particular person because they find them attractive (in laymans terms). The bias is a problem for the judiciary in how it effects the juries perception of evidence based on appearance, status, or wealth, things of that nature. The bias is also used and exploited in marketing of products.
I'm no expert by any stretch of the imagination but I suspect the answers could be tied up with this type of psychological phenomenon. In relation to research about this particular bias, there is plenty just Google search for it. I can't find a link to a theory linking it to the process of reproduction but attractiveness and reproduction obviously go hand in hand in terms of finding a mate.
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I think evolution has programmed my brain to recognise patterns, ratios and forms in my environment and differentiate between them in order to find a preference. My preference at an unconscious level for a particular shape of spoon suggests that there is reward in some way in my brain to influence my choice of spoon. Could this inherrent psychological phenomenon be related to the process of finding a mate, the reproductive process? Is appreciation of art, the pleasure we derrive from looking at art, related at its root to reproduction?
Like Scott said, is there any way of making a reasoned argument for a link between reproduction and art?
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I wouldn't mind reading an executive summary on some of that research. I think when I describe my favourite spoon I am giving context to what it is to be me, I agree, but the unconscious preference of one spoon over another does not fit under that descriptor.The Beast wrote:There is lots of research on shapes and colors. Eliciting a description of your favorite spoon is describing yourself to the world, round or elongated; small or big; silver or wood. Delicate with engravings or plain and simple. If I was a machinist a tool is a representation of it’s function and each function has an specialized tool. Just imagine a tall dessert glass in a painting with a big rounded short spoon… and the spoon is made of wood. Is all wrong!!!
Choice we are finding in recent years is driven firstly by emotion/intuition and only secondly does the strategic reasoning of the conscious mind get applied - usually to support the position of the emotional decision whether right or wrong according to the likes of Jonathan Haidt, Daniel Kaneman and others. Their research would tend to suggest when we make a choice about what we prefer or what is attractive or good or bad, it is made firstly unconsciously at an emotional/intuitive level. I think this is where my spoon attraction comes from.
What could be the (emotional) evolutionary programming of my unconscious mind causing me to choose one spoon over another? The same programming would apply to the appreciation of art wouldn't it? What pleases me and what doesn't in terms of connection and attractiveness?
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-- Updated October 19th, 2014, 12:51 pm to add the following --
The Beast wrote:Spoons look like fish. This comes from old Gnostic and alchemical meaning. A Dragon's quest: “this little fish is small, alone and unique in its shape, but the sea is great and vast and hence it is impossible for those to catch it who do not know in what part of the world it dwells”
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I can tell you from experience that your spoon will never return your affection. I think you would be wiser to direct your efforts towards finding a woman. If you could find one that looks like a spoon, so much the better, then you would have the best of both worlds. Whatever else you do, I think you really need to stay away from the cutlery draw.
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As Scott says, interesting but hard to prove beyond simply stating it. I can carry out experiments, which will likely show this innate subconscious attraction to one form in a type of item over another. But how can I demonstrate or argue this attraction or preference in a rudimentary way is linked to the need to find a mate to reproduce?
The preference or attraction we have for one thing over another is about the factors previously mentioned and many others not mentioned such as funtionality. I would also argue that it is our hormonal response to these objects or a potential mate which differs when subconsciously choosing between objects. I don't feel aroused in any way when I choose my preferred spoon (you'll be relieved to hear) but that is because I am not sexually attracted to the spoon - I feel secure, or satisfied. I might use similar criteria in a very broad sense for choosing the spoon as I do when choosing a mate - shape, proportion, form, weight, functionality (fit for purpose) etc. but the chemical response in my brain is the only difference.
Maybe in this way I can tenuously link my spoon preference to my innate drive to reproduce. If we accept this as a possibility then it is also possible our appreciation for art is also rooted in this evolutionary programming, and our art and appreciation of it simply becomes more sophisticated as we do as a species.
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It's never wise to rush these things, mate. First take your spoon out on a few dates. Maybe a movie or a drive in the countryside. Perhaps even a Billy Joel concert to see if that gets the hormones surging. Sexual relationships with cutlery are potentially life-threatening so you should be very cautious before you take your infatuation to the next level. It goes without saying that taking your spoon by force would be ungentlemanly.PaulNZ wrote:Maybe in this way I can tenuously link my spoon preference to my innate drive to reproduce
Regards Leo
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I am picking up a subliminal vibe that you guys aren't taking me seriously. Luckily I don't take myself seriously either and can heartily agree with that approach as a starting point. I'm not sure issues of consent can be transposed to spoons or cutlry more generally. I think I could be confused over my sexuality and maybe the spoon thing is something that has always been there, just not consciously acknowledged until now.Obvious Leo wrote:It's never wise to rush these things, mate. First take your spoon out on a few dates. Maybe a movie or a drive in the countryside. Perhaps even a Billy Joel concert to see if that gets the hormones surging. Sexual relationships with cutlery are potentially life-threatening so you should be very cautious before you take your infatuation to the next level. It goes without saying that taking your spoon by force would be ungentlemanly.PaulNZ wrote:Maybe in this way I can tenuously link my spoon preference to my innate drive to reproduce
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Re: Spoon sex?
Spoon sex is another story, however.
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