How much of your dreams and life goals have come true?

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How much of your dreams and life goals have come true?

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Of mice and men.

You were young once, or still are. You had hopes, you had desires, you had plans, you had dreams.

How many of your dreams have come true? Do you think your life has been fulfilling?

How many of your dreams came through that you had to work for, and how many that are beyond your control?

How many good things happened to you that you hadn't counted on, and do they balance out your unfulfilled expectations earlier in your life?

Make your story as short or as long as you like. You can view and deal with the issue philosophically, religiously (I won't put up an argument this time) or from a personal psychologial point of view. You can be as personal or as general as you like (no descriptions of explicit violence, sex, or criminal or terror acts, please.)

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Well, when I was young I had professional goals and relationship goals. I needed to have a certain level of training to meet my professional goals, which took away a portion of my recreational opportunities, but being a "work hard, play hard" type of personality helped me maximize my limited time. Ultimately I met my professional goals in title and later entered a very fulfilling and rewarding professional partnership situation. Through this I had a somewhat delayed but robust relationship life.

Later upon completion of my family I was pretty much sitting on top of the world as far as my original goals were concerned. In more recent times as both my professional position and my nuclear family are moving into the latter stages of their natural lifetimes, I can see where others have midlife crises. Luckily for me, my professional life is essentially immune to that, though no one can escape the upheaval of the breakup of the nuclear family as kids move away and the role of parent moves from a care giver to an advice giver (assuming that you enjoy that sort of thing, which you should).

I am currently at a point where how the future will work out is much less certain than at any other time in the last 30 years. Again I have no worries professionally, the personal side is what I am speaking of. The saving grace is that if I look at the worst (realistic) case scenario. I have several side options that will blunt if not eliminate the worst aspects, so I can use that to keep optimistic moving forward.
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Wonderful, LuckyR. Your name befits your life story, although to be more complete, it ought to be extended to be "LuckyAndHardworkingR".

Thanks for sharing.
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Interesting story from LuckyR there.

On balance, I would say that most of my dreams and life goals have not come true. The two primary reasons for this are laziness, procrastination and unrealistic and excessively vague expectations. The three/four primary reasons.

The main exception to this is that I did manage to persuade someone to have children with me. That's a life goal achieved.

Like many people, I suspect, when I was younger I had the vague, non-specific notion that at some point I would achieve something fantastic in a creative field and be invited onto chat shows to be asked by the host, with awe, how on Earth I come up with my groundbreaking and original ideas. As William Shatner said in his song called "It Hasn't Happened Yet": it hasn't happened yet. There was always an infinite amount of time for this to happen, until suddenly there wasn't. For a few years I had a job writing software that I believed to be creative and groundbreaking in the field of education until the software company I was working for went bust. And more recently, a couple of years back, I went freelance reviving the same general concept, partly in collaboration with the former CEO of the company that went bust. That, for me, was the closest I've come so far to "living the dream", in terms of my career at least. My current job (still in software design) is not so interesting to me but it pays the bills. I have vague plans to get back into the more creative stuff in the near future but so far have been too lazy and procrastinatory, and have been too pre-occupied by other personal issues, to make it happen.

My main goal is to convince myself that, despite now being older than most people are when they've reached the pinnacle of their powers, it's never too late. That way I can fool myself that it can still happen right up until the deathbed and have only a brief moment of disappointment just before the grave.
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A few of my goals, ,dreams, aspirations have come true and most of what I dream of were blown away and they never came true for I never could work to make them come true. I am aware of my limitations and I cannot transcend these boundaries of myself and thus I therefore could not scale the summit I always I aspired to. But I am not disappointed for I know my reality and limitations. Dreaming big is not bad and dreaming big itself is a joy for me. Whenever I am all alone I get lost in an imagination and in my imagination I become a rich person and own something I could not have in reality. Life is like that. Most of my life is spent thinking about great things yet at the end of the day I retreat to or at least have to return to my reality where my smallness waits for me.
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While I can attest that it is great (and efficient) to get a lot of personal fulfillment out of what you do for a living, it is clearly not required. There is nothing wrong with getting compensated well from a position of limited emotional value and getting that from a non-compensated activity performed off of work hours, say weekends.

If given a choice between physical items and experiences, spend on the latter. Also as I tell by daughter, it isn't what you do (for fun), it's who you're doing it with. Invest in great people/relationships.
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Some of my goals came true, some never materialized, and I scored some goals without attempting to score or aiming at them.

I was helped by incredibly strong support in getting ahead in my life by others.

Goals that came true: Never married, had no kids, lived a somewhat promiscuous lifestyle. This was important for me.

Goal that never materialized: becoming rich and famous through my writings.

Goal that I hadn't aimed at, yet it served me greatly: the love of music, and having a sentimental mind to which learning and solving puzzles comes easily.

Goal that I had taken for granted, but was snatched from me: Happiness. Loss occurred due to my mother's early and untimely death, largely, and due to ensuing mental diseases

Things that I am lucky never to have had as goals: having money and power, and through them, influence;

Things I always admired in others, but hadn't realized until late that I have this, too: the ability to reason, which gives me power and influence

Things I regret: making my friend Paul Spenser turn away from me

Things I did right: always, always when I did not say something I really wanted to say, played to my HUGE advantage.

Things I had an ambition for and came true: learning English well as a second language.

Things I had an ambition for and came somewhat true, but below my own level of expectation: dating really beautiful women of the higher social classes, erudite, soft-skinned, lithe blondes with willowy figures and rich upbringing in large numbers.

Things I had an ambition for and I flopped totally: loving a woman with my heart. I identify with the emotion as I hear it in songs, and see it in movies, and write it in stories, and feel it coming toward me by some women, but personally, I failed to find the woman to whom I could sing with true heart those love songs that move me with incredible force.
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-1- wrote:Of mice and men.
How many of your dreams have come true?
I remember once, when I was a kid, dreaming that I was very old. It sure made the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end when that one came true.
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My dream is to be something as the rest of dreamers do have, to be something and to get the most of the universe, to possess what the planet earth offers and there is no limit to it as to how much I want to possess until I can deplete everything of this earth. My dreams go on at the expense of the rest for I want to amass huge assets and store huge amounts of food items and work towards starving the rest with no thing to eat. This planet is too small for our greed and very big for out needs. Our greed is swallowing everything of this planet making it bereft of the vitality it has for the sustenance of life and regeneration.
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Vivek7 wrote: February 10th, 2018, 10:52 am My dream is to be something as the rest of dreamers do have, to be something and to get the most of the universe, to possess what the planet earth offers and there is no limit to it as to how much I want to possess until I can deplete everything of this earth. My dreams go on at the expense of the rest for I want to amass huge assets and store huge amounts of food items and work towards starving the rest with no thing to eat. This planet is too small for our greed and very big for out needs. Our greed is swallowing everything of this planet making it bereft of the vitality it has for the sustenance of life and regeneration.
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