What is true love

And is there a aberration amid that and the heart-pounding adrenaline blitz I feel if I see…? You apperceive the being I’m talking about. That hot guy arena basketball at the gym… the beautiful babe who makes eye acquaintance as she passes by… the acquaintance of a acquaintance of a friend… maybe a best friend. It’s that being we accumulate clue of if he or she is in the aforementioned room, whose comments and accomplishments we assay to no end.There are a few things adulation isn’t. Adulation isn’t a feeling. Although absolute adulation is generally accompanied by able feelings, adulation does not agree with the faculty of amphibian on clouds. Unlike the blazon of adulation that movies, television, and songs portray, humans in adulation don’t consistently feel ooey adhesive about anniversary other.A accord wouldn’t endure continued on emotions. In fact, ability is the base of a advantageous relationship.

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I'd say that all love felt is true and real to the lover, since truth is in perspective & that which has influence is real. Love is hoping and striving for what is best, through trial and error. Many worship sex and romantic infatuation as if that's true love when really they are only obsessing about the hope that someone else can make them feel a certain way. "Guys wait for the perfect girl = Playboy's fault. Girls wait for the perfect guy = Disney's fault."

Although all love is true to an extent, some emotions and expressions of love are more honest than others. The challenge is that most of us are not honest with ourselves enough to know what we really want & to keep that in line with our habits. I think love is more about the lover, than the lovee. It's also more of a process. As one learns more about what is best overall, and develops a passion and commitment for what is best, no matter what, that is a deeper and more honest love.

"What is true love"? : To help another to live their life to the fullest they can live it.

The Personality Theorist, Rollo May mentioned in his book: "Power and Innocence" that both love and power have ontological status. According to May there are two kinds of bad power and two kinds of good power and there is one other kind of power that I would think could go either way. The two good kinds of power are: Nutrient Power and Integrative power. The two kinds of bad power are: Exploitative power and manipulative power. The one kind of power that I would think could go either way is competitive power.

I believe that the relation between love and the types of power is telling as to whether interpersonal relatedness can be determined to be genuine love or not. When nutrient power which means "Power For" or Integrative power which means "Power with" is in evidence then the relatedness can be considered to be genuine love. But often narcissistic personalities fake the two types of good power for their own manipulative and exploitative purposes.

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But I might add that I believe that Gabriel Marcel was correct in taking love to be mystery and not a problem to be taken apart and solved, so we hit around the notion of love without ever really getting a definitive grasp of it.

True love, in my words (simple words), is the unspoken fulfillment of each other's core flaws, while simultaneously catering to each other's needs for intimacy or nonintimacy. I feel that there are a few layers of affection, that if aligned, can create a very strong magnetism between the two parties.

Layer 1: Sexual attraction (Can be physical, mental, or emotional)

Layer 2: Practicality (Is he/she going where I'm going?)

Layer 3: The fleshing out of each other's grand flaws (Patience vs. impatience, logic vs. creative thinkers)

Layer 4: Are both parties full self-realized? (Do either have any more "growing up" to do?)

However, they must be unspoken and unagreed upon, and cannot be faked, for it to be true love.

"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from all others." Oscar Wilde

True Love is giving without condition, and going without understanding.

I think the trap is to search for someone for any reason at all. It is beyond two peoples' comprehension how they will meet. You seek without seeking. They will find you, but it's probably not a question of them finding you: but will you be ready for them?

"They will find you", who is "they"? And was that person seeking without seeking? You allude to a predator/prey situation.

"They will find you", who is "they"? And was that person seeking without seeking? You allude to a predator/prey situation.

Ah, I don't know. Give me a Power Point presentation on the Predator/ Prey situation.

Is this conversation about trying to tell the difference between sexual lust and romantic love? If so, is it about when romantic love appeared as a historical phenomenon?

I wonder if the OP posted in the Aesthetics part of the website because we can trace the beginnings and subsequent history of romantic love through the songs and social milieu of Chretien de Trois and taking in the nineteenth century novel, and modern popular culture.

Creator GOD.

"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from all others." Oscar Wilde

Wrong. It sounds as he was talking about plastic spoons that are used once and then discarded. But human beings are not churned out by machines. All human beings differ from all the others, men and women alike...

If men and women are alike, how can all human beings differ from all others?

But, since you liked my first quote: "Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence; second love is the triumph of hope over experience." -- Samuel Johnson.

And, to give equal time to the women, Dorothy Parker chimes in:

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

A medley of extemporanea;

And love is a thing that can never go wrong;

And I am Marie of Romania."

Oh, a cynic, having fun. That's great, but use your own words instead of harvested ones.

I think love is an emotion Love just as well posits something about our world (i.e. I like her a lot) If the posit is found to be true then the emotion of love is a true emotion