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There is no grace under fire without fire.

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Tomorrow is my birthday and also the one year anniversary of my fall. An epic literal fall perhaps to only be out-shined one day by my inevitable more all-encompassing figurative fall. For what goes up must come down.

Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs. Like a literal roller coaster, it is balanced, and it always ends exactly where it begins: from ashes to ashes, and dust to dust. The total amount you go up is equal to the total amount you go down, and vice versa. Having grace under fire, and an attitude of gratitude, are somewhat moot if not impossible on the ups and highs. How can you have grace under fire if there is no fire?

It's when we fall that we get the opportunity to shine most.

Sometimes those falls are metaphorical. And sometimes they are out of your hot tub at your birthday party.

I am grateful for any and all scars, from that and otherwise, both literal and figurative. They remind me daily that the fire that burns me is my saving grace, that the challenges of life are opportunity itself. To say that without challenge there is no opportunity at all is an understatement because it falsely implies that challenge and opportunity are two different things.

If we wish to swim, we need the water that might otherwise drown us. Those are the waters and deep seas of fear, pain, and loss--of discomfort, temptation, and challenge. Transcendence is not elimination. Transcendence (learning to swim) is not about getting rid of the dark cold scary water, but rather quite the opposite. I love to swim, and I am grateful for those waters, grateful to be challenged by life and the fallible humanity of this human body, like a good boxing match to be often hit by pain and discomfort, sometimes by own human fist, to get knocked down and thereby be given the chance to get back up. To have the choice to cave to temptation, and not to do it. To have the choice to quit, and not do it. To shine in the dark, I am grateful for it, grateful for the dark.


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Scott wrote: October 25th, 2022, 12:36 pm
If we wish to swim, we need the water that might otherwise drown us. Those are the waters and deep seas of fear, pain, and loss--of discomfort, temptation, and challenge. Transcendence is not elimination. Transcendence (learning to swim) is not about getting rid of the dark cold scary water, but rather quite the opposite. I love to swim, and I am grateful for those waters, grateful to be challenged by life and the fallible humanity of this human body, like a good boxing match to be often hit by pain and discomfort, sometimes by own human fist, to get knocked down and thereby be given the chance to get back up.o have the choice to cave to temptation, and not to do it. To have the choice to quit, and not do it. To shine in the dark, I am grateful for it, grateful for the dark.
It may come across as mundane to say that much depends on one's individual circumstances, the severity, and duration of the trauma one is forced to contend with. There are many instances where "giving up" completely, which includes the surrender of one's life, is the only option left to preempt whatever misery, whether mental or physical the remainder of one's life is forced to bear.

None of this applies to the intermittent interludes of trauma which are unavoidable in life, where getting back up is expected and is simply an instinctual reaction.
The earth has a skin and that skin has diseases; one of its diseases is called man ... Nietzsche
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Scott wrote: October 25th, 2022, 12:36 pm Tomorrow is my birthday and also the one year anniversary of my fall. An epic literal fall perhaps to only be out-shined one day by my inevitable more all-encompassing figurative fall. For what goes up must come down.

Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs. Like a literal roller coaster, it is balanced, and it always ends exactly where it begins: from ashes to ashes, and dust to dust. The total amount you go up is equal to the total amount you go down, and vice versa. Having grace under fire, and an attitude of gratitude, are somewhat moot if not impossible on the ups and highs. How can you have grace under fire if there is no fire?

It's when we fall that we get the opportunity to shine most.

Sometimes those falls are metaphorical. And sometimes they are out of your hot tub at your birthday party.

I am grateful for any and all scars, from that and otherwise, both literal and figurative. They remind me daily that the fire that burns me is my saving grace, that the challenges of life are opportunity itself. To say that without challenge there is no opportunity at all is an understatement because it falsely implies that challenge and opportunity are two different things.

If we wish to swim, we need the water that might otherwise drown us. Those are the waters and deep seas of fear, pain, and loss--of discomfort, temptation, and challenge. Transcendence is not elimination. Transcendence (learning to swim) is not about getting rid of the dark cold scary water, but rather quite the opposite. I love to swim, and I am grateful for those waters, grateful to be challenged by life and the fallible humanity of this human body, like a good boxing match to be often hit by pain and discomfort, sometimes by own human fist, to get knocked down and thereby be given the chance to get back up. To have the choice to cave to temptation, and not to do it. To have the choice to quit, and not do it. To shine in the dark, I am grateful for it, grateful for the dark.



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It is hard to know how to take the ups and downs. I often think that difficulties in life make me stronger, and more resilient. However, it is complex because too much suffering can break a person's will and lead to breakdown itself. Of course, it is possible to reach breaking points and emerge stronger from these, but a certain amount of support may be needed, especially from other people. Some do succumb to despair and I have known people who have committed suicide in a state of panic, and this may be about the worst possibility.

Suffering is relative and it may be hard to generalize about the quantity and quality of it. The knocks and blows of life may make us stronger but there are so many variables. Maslow's hierarchy of needs may come into the picture, with the basic physiological ones being essential, although there may be times in which the basics are not met and people can endure, in the context of the higher goals and aspirations.

it may involve juggling, and thinking of depression, those who have better material conditions may be able to suffer in greater luxury. However, each person may experience all kinds of suffering as some have spoken of as 'the dark night of the soul' as a crossroads, and even, symbolically as a death, with potential rebirth. Some may experience one major knock in the form of trauma, whereas others may have repeated ones, and these can lead to existential despair or greater creativity. Finding the pathways to creativity amidst the snakes and ladders, knots and mazes may be the greatest challenge, and, it may involve living philosophy as opposed to mere ideas and ideals. It also can involve 'waking up' in self awareness and consciousness.
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