If you have spawned a child you should show a 100% willingness to help and assist that child unconditionally.WanderingGaze22 wrote: ↑November 9th, 2021, 3:22 amDo you believe "good separations" are possible? How do you live on good terms with a child who has never met you and yet has to trust you as a caretaker?Steve3007 wrote: ↑November 8th, 2021, 6:08 amMy own personal experience is that I've never been through the serious family rifts and estrangements from blood relatives that other people have, although I know a lot of people who have, and I've seen various degrees of estrangement. So, perhaps partly because of never having been through those things myself, I've naturally always thought of my immediate family (my parents, siblings and children) as part of me, and me a part of them. My wife and her daughter (my step-daughter) have grown to be a part of me (and me of them). The situation with my ex (mother of my children) is different, complex and continuously evolving. Obviously no, I couldn't cut any of the people I've mentioned out of my life with no consequences.WanderingGaze22 wrote:All family is complicated, but the biggest question of all would be how to start seeing them as a part of you and could you actually cut them out of your lives with no consequences?
I know there are those that choose, through selfishness or sociopathy to reject their responsibility, but I would not regard them as a good person.
If you are confronted with a previously unmet child then you should be friendly and open. They should feel ahppy to get as close or stay as far as they will.