Well we are in agreement that murder is definitely not the right choice to "get back" at someone who has victimized you or your family. But that is a matter of degree not the core concept of vengeance.Elephant wrote: ↑November 13th, 2022, 4:07 pmTrue. I understand that this often is not easy. You are at a disadvantaged if you are in a situation that fosters vengeful emotions if you cannot leave.
So, here my answer against vengeance is, it would not teach the offender to be compassionate towards you, and your vengeful actions against them would be seen as "wrong", so no good ending to this story unless you're prepared to die or go to jail. The Chinese has a saying about revenge -- vengeance is digging two graves at once. The only thing you can do is continue to live well.
If we stipulate that in areas where the justice system is active, say in the realm of law breaking, that retribution is left to that entity, what do you actually do in situations such as the school yard, the office or online where the justice system very rarely is used? Kid punches your daughter in the nose on the walk home from school, do you do nothing?