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This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
“There is only one thing a philosopher can be relied upon to do, and that is to contradict other philosophers”

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Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
Everyone's situation is different, among experts focusing on making strengths stronger will lead to more success. Among beginners more success will come from limiting errors than focusing on strengths.
"As usual... it depends."
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LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:45 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
Everyone's situation is different, among experts focusing on making strengths stronger will lead to more success. Among beginners more success will come from limiting errors than focusing on strengths.
Experts can strengthen their strengths, I agree. But is it bad for the beginners to have targets, tread along a path to achieve them while focusing on minimizing their errors. I agree that it can be difficult at the level of beginning to have big targets or big focuses, and there will be abundant errors. But one should target to kick the sky, and then he will atleast end kicking his own roof.
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Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:53 am
LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:45 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
Everyone's situation is different, among experts focusing on making strengths stronger will lead to more success. Among beginners more success will come from limiting errors than focusing on strengths.
Experts can strengthen their strengths, I agree. But is it bad for the beginners to have targets, tread along a path to achieve them while focusing on minimizing their errors. I agree that it can be difficult at the level of beginning to have big targets or big focuses, and there will be abundant errors. But one should target to kick the sky, and then he will atleast end kicking his own roof.
Most folks benefit more from achieving small goals than missing large ones.
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What matters is your focus, do you agree?
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Only if you focus on what matters
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Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
without going to extremes, improving strengths is more productive than fixing weaknesses. but it of course depends on the issues. we can define ourselves by what we are good at, not by what we don't fail at. of course, some weaknesses can be crippling, so it depends, case by case.

Different frequencies of energy are around and we can tap into different frequencies. the positive focus will tap into positive energy. can literally catch a wave.
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What Matters is your Focus.

Who does it matter to? You may say yourself but who is that?

Bobby Fisher was a chess genius. He devoted all his life forces to mastering the game. Chess and nothing else mattered to Bobby Fisher. His focus was on chess and that is all that mattered.
Mark 8:36, NIV: "What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?"
To Acquire ones soul requires becoming the balanced MAN. To become the greatest chess plyer requires mastering a man made obsession. What determines our focus first requires determining our aim. What do we want and why?
Man would like to be an egoist and cannot. This is the most striking characteristic of his wretchedness and the source of his greatness." Simone Weil....Gravity and Grace
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We all have the same amount of time each and every day so it's more about how we master ourselves in relation to the time we have. A lot of people don't follow their purpose because they don't think they'll succeed at it, but you gotta show up day in and day out! Showing up is 80% of success!

I also love the importance of listening and understanding in relationships, this is so the key. I feel like listening is one of the most important skills to cultivate in life.
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LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:57 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:53 am
LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:45 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak


(Location 229 - Kindle version)

(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
Everyone's situation is different, among experts focusing on making strengths stronger will lead to more success. Among beginners more success will come from limiting errors than focusing on strengths.
Experts can strengthen their strengths, I agree. But is it bad for the beginners to have targets, tread along a path to achieve them while focusing on minimizing their errors. I agree that it can be difficult at the level of beginning to have big targets or big focuses, and there will be abundant errors. But one should target to kick the sky, and then he will atleast end kicking his own roof.
Most folks benefit more from achieving small goals than missing large ones.
It is true when you target for big goals and miss your loss will be great, and it will be small if the goas are small. But the opposite is true as well. If you succeed in achieving a big goal, your gain will be great too.

Anyway, setting unrealistic goals won't take you nowhere. But if one has the potential isn't it good to go for bigger goals rather than being content with smaller ones?
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Sculptor1 wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 7:03 am What matters is your focus, do you agree?
No

Only if you focus on what matters
I agree fully. You should have a focus, and that focus has to be on what matters, what will take you to the next step. Some people have no focus at all and some focus on the wrong thing and end up in failure.

Let's keep the ones who focus on what matters and succeed. Out of the remaining two groups (the ones with no focus and the ones who have the wrong focus) who will end up in a better status or a result?
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Sushan wrote: September 3rd, 2021, 9:12 pm
LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:57 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:53 am
LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:45 am

Everyone's situation is different, among experts focusing on making strengths stronger will lead to more success. Among beginners more success will come from limiting errors than focusing on strengths.
Experts can strengthen their strengths, I agree. But is it bad for the beginners to have targets, tread along a path to achieve them while focusing on minimizing their errors. I agree that it can be difficult at the level of beginning to have big targets or big focuses, and there will be abundant errors. But one should target to kick the sky, and then he will atleast end kicking his own roof.
Most folks benefit more from achieving small goals than missing large ones.
It is true when you target for big goals and miss your loss will be great, and it will be small if the goas are small. But the opposite is true as well. If you succeed in achieving a big goal, your gain will be great too.

Anyway, setting unrealistic goals won't take you nowhere. But if one has the potential isn't it good to go for bigger goals rather than being content with smaller ones?
My point is that success is much better than failure. This is more important than the size of the success or failure. Thus it is better to shoot for achievable goals than long shots.
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mystery wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 7:15 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 1:45 am This topic is about the September 2021 Philosophy Book of the Month, If Life Stinks, Get Your Head Outta Your But's by Mark L. Wdowiak

Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do have! The law of cause and effect states that what you focus on in your life will expand. If you focus on negative thoughts, you are going to get more negativity. However, if you focus on positive thoughts, you are going to get more positivity.
(Location 229 - Kindle version)
Unrealized potential is a form of self-denial. Don’t be satisfied with being less than you are! By taking some positive action, you can achieve the success you desire.
(Location 133 - Kindle version)

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. To succeed, we have to improve our strengths and correct our weaknesses. For that we have to keep our attention on both our strengths (the positive side) as well as the weaknesses (the negative side). But seemingly this author is asking us to keep our focus only on the positive side. Will it work that way? Will forgetting our weaknesses and focusing only on the positives make us successful?
without going to extremes, improving strengths is more productive than fixing weaknesses. but it of course depends on the issues. we can define ourselves by what we are good at, not by what we don't fail at. of course, some weaknesses can be crippling, so it depends, case by case.

Different frequencies of energy are around and we can tap into different frequencies. the positive focus will tap into positive energy. can literally catch a wave.
Remaining without failing is a success too. Some can go up from there current status and some go down as well. A company manager can be enthusiastic and develop his skills, use his strengths, and take himself and the company to a better position. But another one who does not have much strengths to do so can atleast keep the status wwithout going down. In that matter both correcting your weaknesses and identifying your strengths will be important. And I agree, yes, it should be a case by case approach.
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Nick_A wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 7:49 pm What Matters is your Focus.

Who does it matter to? You may say yourself but who is that?

Bobby Fisher was a chess genius. He devoted all his life forces to mastering the game. Chess and nothing else mattered to Bobby Fisher. His focus was on chess and that is all that mattered.
Mark 8:36, NIV: "What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?"
To Acquire ones soul requires becoming the balanced MAN. To become the greatest chess plyer requires mastering a man made obsession. What determines our focus first requires determining our aim. What do we want and why?
Indeed one should have an aim first. And then only he can focus on that aim. That focus will take you to that aim and in your own eyes you will be successful. The others may see you loosing everything else achieving your ultimate goal. But if you do not care about the rest of the world you can be happy as a successful person at the end.

People see success in different ways. We cannot please everyone. So it is up to you to decide your aim and go for it. Maybe Bobby Fisher's obsession in becoming a chess champion caused him to loose his mundane life, yet at the end he was happy and satisfied.
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Fellowmater wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 11:22 pm We all have the same amount of time each and every day so it's more about how we master ourselves in relation to the time we have. A lot of people don't follow their purpose because they don't think they'll succeed at it, but you gotta show up day in and day out! Showing up is 80% of success!

I also love the importance of listening and understanding in relationships, this is so the key. I feel like listening is one of the most important skills to cultivate in life.
Being able to continue what you do is a big success. Some might think that when something becomes a routine then no effort is needed to accomplish the same thing daily. But that is not so. Even to wake up daily one needs courage. Yet, your focus will determine where you will end up. If you focus on being at the same level you will never go up the ladder. But if you focus to higher levels, and keep that focus, then it will definitely carry you to the height that you expect to go.
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LuckyR wrote: September 4th, 2021, 1:40 am
Sushan wrote: September 3rd, 2021, 9:12 pm
LuckyR wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:57 am
Sushan wrote: September 2nd, 2021, 2:53 am

Experts can strengthen their strengths, I agree. But is it bad for the beginners to have targets, tread along a path to achieve them while focusing on minimizing their errors. I agree that it can be difficult at the level of beginning to have big targets or big focuses, and there will be abundant errors. But one should target to kick the sky, and then he will atleast end kicking his own roof.
Most folks benefit more from achieving small goals than missing large ones.
It is true when you target for big goals and miss your loss will be great, and it will be small if the goas are small. But the opposite is true as well. If you succeed in achieving a big goal, your gain will be great too.

Anyway, setting unrealistic goals won't take you nowhere. But if one has the potential isn't it good to go for bigger goals rather than being content with smaller ones?
My point is that success is much better than failure. This is more important than the size of the success or failure. Thus it is better to shoot for achievable goals than long shots.
It is good if one can prevent big failures, because the amount that you loose will be proportionate. But why should someone avoid bigger goals? No target is impossible, but you should have a plan and determination. And I agree that bigger goals come with bigger risk of failure followed by bigger levels of sadness and humiliation. But the ones who have kept a name in the world are the ones who simply did not get afraid of that.
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