Pattern-chaser wrote: ↑April 27th, 2022, 6:56 am
intentes_pupil wrote: ↑April 26th, 2022, 10:33 am
I think the key is to develop EMPATHY instead of trying to do better than our parents did. Everybody feels the same and everybody has the same needs, the difference is how strong those are.
Empathy is a difficult concept, even though it might not seem so at first glance. I don't think that "everybody feels the same and everybody has the same needs," that's a problem with the Golden Rule. If you treat everyone else 'as you would wish to be treated
', there are some whose needs are different
from yours. The Golden Rule really needs to say 'treat everyone as they would wish to be treated (and expect the same from them in return)
IMO, of course.
I think we think the same, we just say it differently.
When I say "everybody has the same feelings and needs" I mean that needs and feelings are universal concepts (needs: autonomy, connection, meaning, play, peace, etc ; feelings: affection, excitement, connection, etc). BUT, how strong those needs/feelings are differentiate us from each other (and even moment to moment).
I guess that is the same you mean when you say "there are some whose needs are different from yours", right?
An analogy to make my point clear: gravity is the same for everybody, the difference is how much mass you have that makes your weight different.
I don't think there are golden rules.
Treating everybody the same way you would wish they treat you makes no sense within my argumentation. I argue that the key would be to learn to read other's needs in order to find a strategy that leads to the fulfilling of both parties needs (huge simplification here). Therefore treating somebody just taking into account your own needs leads necessarily (or at least high probably) to failure and struggle.