Love on the First Sight

Post by **Sushan** » August 6th, 2022, 4:56 am

This topic is about the August 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, Living in Color: A Love Story, In Sickness and in Health by Mike Murphy

It was a feeling you hear a lot from people describing what they experienced meeting the love of their life—something I’d always dismissed as exaggeration and being overly sentimental. But I truly felt like I’d met her before, as if I already knew her intimately, and was just re-meeting her after a long separation.

(Location 217 - Kindle version)

The concept of 'love on the first sight' is another concept that is found in literature of romance genre. Occasionally, like this author, people claim of having this feeling or the moment.

Is it a real thing? Or is it a 'made-up' reason for getting attracted towards or falling in love with someone when it is impossible to deliver a rational reason? Or is it a variation of the Deja vu phenomenan?

JDBowden · Post by **JDBowden** » August 6th, 2022, 2:57 pm

Made up. An individual finds one attractive by bodily symmetry to what I understand. So, we label an individual attractive and try to describe an intangible feeling with pretty romanticized words by "love at first sight" and "soul mates." Seems to me like a type of personal justification for whom they had chosen.

Post by **LuckyR** » August 6th, 2022, 4:33 pm

Obviously such a commonly used phrase is going to have numerous origins depending on individual circumstances. Some may reimagine their relationship's origin story with a rosy overtone. Others may have a genuine feeling of familiarity out of step with the amount of time spent together.

stevie · Post by **stevie** » August 7th, 2022, 12:46 am

Sushan wrote: ↑August 6th, 2022, 4:56 am The concept of 'love on the first sight' is another concept that is found in literature of romance genre. Occasionally, like this author, people claim of having this feeling or the moment.

Is it a real thing? Or is it a 'made-up' reason for getting attracted towards or falling in love with someone when it is impossible to deliver a rational reason? Or is it a variation of the Deja vu phenomenan?

First there is an appearance and then speculative thought sets in. It's always the same, regardless what phenomenon you refer to. Your questions only refer to this innate speculative drive the products of which don't add anything reliable to appearances.