Whether you are looking for a savior or someone to save, or both, look into a mirror.
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Whether you are looking for a savior or someone to save, or both, look into a mirror.
I figure those who read and enjoyed my book would also be interested in my journaling. I wrote this today:
Many people lacking in inner peace focus on 'helping others'.
They claim to be filling other people's cups with their own empty one.
Proverbially speaking, many dirty messy backyards exist because their owners are too busy imposing their alleged help on other people's yards.
When discontent people lacking inner peace (i.e. unhappy people) engage in this futile endeavor of allegedly putting other people's happiness first, and inevitably failing to live up to their savior complex, it gives them a scapegoat for their own unhappiness. Likely, that's precisely why they do it. Deep down, maybe just subconsciously, they are looking simply for a scapegoat, for an excuse.
They get to say to themselves, in one way or another, that they are unhappy because you or someone else is allegedly unhappy. They get to say that they are unhappy because you or whoever else allegedly didn't get your sh*t together. They get to say, to whoever it is, "I'm not happy because you're not happy." They get to say, "I'm not happy because you didn't let me save you." When they can't save the world (according to their own unaccepting standards of what a saved world be), they get to blame the world for their misery.
Unhappy people find comfort in blaming others.
Unhappy people want to try to save the world by re-creating the world in their unhappy image to their unhappy standards. And they--luckily--inevitably fail, and get to blame their unhappiness on their failure, meaning on the world being the way it is, unsaved by them.
Many times, people aren't really looking to be happy--meaning to have consistent inner peace--but rather looking for an excuse or scapegoat for their misery.
There's no shortage of unhappy people wanting to give you advice, if not put a literal or metaphorical gun to your head and force you to take their literally miserable advice and live by their literally miserable standards. Many would rule the world because they cannot rule themselves, at least not in a way that lets them be truly happy with inner peace.
Whether you are looking for a savior or someone to save, or both, look into a mirror.
Call it nirvana, enlightenment, inner peace, finding your soul, your true self, your god, or whatever you want. When you are truly happy in that way and your cup overflows, you don't even need to try to fill other people's cups. It happens on its own.
I'd talk about the contagiousness of smiles, but when you meet someone like that who has found it, what's there for all of us to find anywhere and everywhere, they don't even need to smile. They can force a frown to play sad, and you will still see it in their eyes. You will still feel it, from the tingle on your skin to the depths of your soul.
You are better off sitting in silence with a truly happy person than taking one bit of advice from an unhappy person who lacks inner peace.
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What do you think?
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master."
I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.
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This is why it is so important to safeguard your own sanity. What we consume (what we read, who we talk to, who we allow in our friends group, the type of conversations and media we engage in) can either bring us down with them or lift us up to a better purpose.
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Absolutely! It is automatic, when you are happy, the people you surrounded manifested your happy vibes. It is like a magnet. You shared what you have, you manifested to others what's within you. IMOScott wrote:When you are truly happy in that way and your cup overflows, you don't even need to try to fill other people's cups. It happens on its own.
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