Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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Austin Rhodes
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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Hager Salem wrote: December 20th, 2022, 6:33 am I believe there could be exceptions. It may be that the unhappy person is aware of what made him unhappy; he just doesn't have the stamina to change it. Such a person can give you advice about what to stay away from if they are genuine.
I love your point of view. If they are giving advice as to ways in which you can prevent whatever happened to them, then the advice is worth it. However, this is an exception to what majority thinks about unhappy people.
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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Unhappy people are often not in a good place mentally or emotionally, so their advice may not be the most sound or helpful. People who are unhappy may be focused on their own negative experiences and may not be able to offer objective or helpful guidance. In contrast, happy people are more likely to have a positive outlook and may be able to offer more constructive advice.
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I hold the belief that individuals who are unhappy often possess profound wisdom to impart. Many of them harbor immense reservoirs of love within themselves, despite lacking reciprocation from others. It's when someone possesses love and compassion themselves that they acquire the capacity to offer invaluable advice and support to others.
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One rule I have in life is that never ever take advice from a person who is doing worse than you, only take advice from people who are way better than you and surround your self with people who will challenge you to always be better and not stay on your comfort zone .

For happiness, it is very true and one should strive not to take advice from unhappy and non contented people. Inner peace can be achieved, as long as you let go of things that arr holding or stopping you from being happy.
Dera Ezeakolam
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Take advice from unhappy people if you want unhappiness. Take advide from happy people if you want happiness. Take advice from successful people if you wan success. Very simple.
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It's wise to be cautious about taking advice from individuals who are unhappy or dissatisfied with their own lives. Their perspectives may be colored by their own experiences and emotions, potentially leading to advice that isn't beneficial or constructive. They may even project their emotions and discourage you.
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To start with, why would one want to take advice from an unhappy person. Unhappy person won't say anything positive to you, rather they would cloud your thoughts with negativity. This might eventually lead to your doom.
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I believe that this statement holds some truth. Unhappiness can cloud judgment and lead to pessimistic perspectives. Therefore, it's wise to consider the source of advice and assess whether the individual offering it has demonstrated a level of contentment and fulfillment in their own life.
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This is sound advice. Most unhappy people want to bring others down to their level, so by offering their 'advice' what they're attempting to do is fulfil their own needs by adding more people to their 'pity party.' I'd much rather get my advice from happy and successful people (in that field) than from unhappy and unsuccessful people. It's kind of a no-brainer.
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I get what you're saying. Even if it's technical advice from an expert in that specific field, just listening to the advice can be an ordeal. That has an impact on students, I think! If you hear about a brilliant teacher, you can usually find it's a happy person who gives love and acceptance, apart from being knowledgeable. Arrogant or aggressive people may be brilliant, but it's not pleasant interacting with them.
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I do think this holds some semblance of true. I feel all of us lay on a spectrum, with few of us constantly happy, or constantly unhappy. I do agree taking advice from people who feel content in self pity is perhaps not the best move when attempting to stay happy ourselves. However, I do feel speaking to those who are unhappy yet are on the journey to rediscover happiness a wonderful thing. I always think anybody can give advice, but only ourselves can advise.
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