Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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Mbali Qalinge
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I think sometimes unhappy people can give good advice and it may be that the reason why they are unhappy isn't that they don't know how to be happy, it's that they do know but just haven't followed through on what they must do to be happy. They may give good advice but the problem would be that they aren't following it themselves.
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Yeah it is true because while their experiences may offer valuable insights, their perspectives may be clouded by their own negativity and struggles. It is important to seek guidance from those who have found a path to happiness and fulfillment, as they are more likely to offer advice that is grounded in positivity and constructive solutions.
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I hold a practical belief in seeking advice from those who embody qualities I value. While I respect everyone, I've learned to be discerning. I don't take weight loss advice from the morbidly obese, financial advice from the financially poor, or any advice from those lacking inner peace. My commitment to true happiness guides my choices. That’s my two-cents.
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This sounds funny but absolutely true. Getting advice from unhappy people in any state of life goes contradictory to the experience you are trying to escape.
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Reading what you wrote, I'd say it took a lot of presence of mind and self-discipline to write this post without prejudice. Also, I agree that one should not take advice from an unhappy person. After all, we can only offer what we have.

However, with so many character mask, it can be a tad challenging to decipher who an unhappy person is. Also, life is progressive. As such, people can change their decision-making process to move from being unhappy to having inner peace. We should also make room for these dynamics so we don't make permanent decisions on someone's temporary disposition.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: December 14th, 2022, 7:14 pm This is a discussion forum topic for the November 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All.


I love and respect all people. However, in this human form, time, energy, money, and resources are very limited, so...

I don't take weight loss advice from morbidly obese people.

I don't take financial advice from financially poor people.

And I don't take any advice from unhappy people.


By unhappy people, I mean those who lack what I call "inner peace", meaning the consistent contentment of spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline).

Some people might call it "nirvana" or "the consistent joy of enlightenment". Some might just call it "true happiness". Some might just call it plain old happiness.

As a human writing to you right now, I consider myself to be someone who does consistently enjoy the true happiness and consistent contentment of free-spirited inner peace. In short, I consider myself to be happy, truly happy. As such, if you want advice from a happy person, here's my advice to you (offered politely for you to take or leave as you see fit): Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

That doesn't mean blindly do the opposite of what they advise either. As explained in the book, to blindly do the opposite of what one commands makes you just as much a slave to the commands. Rather, I simply suggest you disregard unhappy people's advice entirely, as much as reasonably possible.


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Choosing sources of advice wisely is important. Happy individuals may offer more positive perspectives and solutions, contributing to a more optimistic mindset.
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I do believe that taking advice from unhappy people has its exceptions because it could be helpful to avoid some pitfalls if the person's reason for being unhappy is actually what you find yourself in at that time. But this could also be to ones disadvantage because the person's advice might come in fear of what they went through, and this fear can be transferred thereby preventing you from venturing into such which might have actually work for you because people differ.
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It's essential to consider advice based on its merit and relevance rather than solely on the personal circumstances of the advisor. While being mindful of the source's experience can be valuable, discounting advice solely based on someone's weight, financial status, or perceived happiness might overlook potentially useful insights.

Advice should be weighed against its substance, applicability, and alignment with your values and goals. Sometimes, valuable guidance can come from unexpected sources, and dismissing advice based solely on the perceived happiness or success of the advisor might limit opportunities for learning and growth.
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I came across this advice from some influencer a year ago I think. Since then I've been more cautious who I listen to, and even though I can't fully apply it, it still has helped me a lot.
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While considering advice, it's essential to evaluate the source's perspective and circumstances, but solely dismissing input from unhappy individuals might overlook valuable insights or different viewpoints.
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My answer will be based on the saying that misery loves company. An unhappy person will not want to be unhappy alone. They tend to drag others along with them.
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I was about 10 years old, and just passing through my mother's kitchen on the way to the other side of the house. There walked an accomplished little student, a singer, poet, avid reader, piano student, and so on. I was also about 15 pounds overweight.

Madge. The neighbor from "across the creek," who dropped in unannounced, who always talked too loudly and stayed too long. She was morbidly obese, and had an unpleasant odor. She called a trash can a crash can.

Madge, however, knew everything and insisted upon saying so. She stopped me that particular day to shriek her notice that I was becoming a piggy. She wasted no time in regaling us with a diet and exercise program that I should embrace.

Describing the exact scope of the scenario is the only way I know to say that's the day it hit me. Not with malice. Not To be a rude kid. But, in all innocence and honesty, I asked, "Does it work for grown-ups, too?"

Madge was offended. She told me off. She scolded me to tears. In the silence of my room, later, it happened. The epiphany that would inform much of my thinking.

1. I don't care about your opinions unless I care about you.
2. Your advice is only good if you use it too.
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Surrounding oneself with optimism and solutions-oriented perspectives may foster personal growth and well-being. However, it's essential to maintain a balanced approach, recognizing that even unhappy individuals may offer valuable insights or cautionary perspectives.
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I am curious about how one would go about evaluating the happiness or unhappiness of another individual before deciding to take their advice or not. What criteria are used in such an evaluation?
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What if the person who appears unhappy actually had positive experiences in the situation or topic? What if their unhappiness serves as guidance for us to avoid making similar mistakes? This leads me to wonder: What is the true definition of an unhappy person? When can we consider someone genuinely unhappy, and when do their lessons lose their value?
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