Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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Colleado Keana Rose
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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In my perspective, I find it essential to prioritize advice from individuals who embody the principles they share. I believe in seeking guidance from those who have found inner peace, as they often provide insights rooted in a balanced and content existence. While it's not about dismissing advice based solely on someone's appearance or financial status, aligning with individuals who exude the positive qualities you seek can be a valuable approach.
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I agree it is better to listen to someone who has been through or succeeded at whatever you are wanting advice about. Education or book learning can go so far, but to actually, have lived through something gives you a better perspective.
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Agreed. Unhappy people always see the glass half empty, and even when provided with a positive solution, they would ALWAYS but ALWAYS find something negative in that. I've been raised to be a positive person, to no matter how negative things get or are, to believe there is a reason for the negative and that there would be something positive coming from that.

In short I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years, with a person that would always see the negative in everything. I, on the other hand always seeked for the positive, but unfortunately negativity if constantly given, drags you down and drowns your positive way of thinking and in the end you become just as negative as the person next to you. Which is the most horrible feeling ever.

So why do I mention all of the above? Well, purely because this taught me a big lesson in life... that when constantly surrounded with negativity, you eventually become just as negative, so after that relationship I refuse to surround myself by negativity or negative people. No matter what, I believe that everything happens for a reason, and the outcome is even better than what I could've hoped for in the end.
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This is a very important motto to live by. Taking advice from unhappy people more often than not leads to unhappiness. So, it is best to disregard their advice.

Thank you for this beautiful post.
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"Don't take advice from happy people," during the first reading, I was taken aback. But as I continued reading, it all made sense. I appreciate your elaborate responses to fellow members on the same. Thanks again.
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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I gladly receive this liberating, wise, and empowering advice from you with deep gratitude 🙏

I dare not take the advice of an unhappy person!
I am beyond grateful to be on this mentoring journey with someone who is as liberated and so in touch with their soul /conscious core as YOU.

Thank you :D
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I take advice from both happy and unhappy people. The fact that someone is unhappy doesn’t make him inexperienced about some things so taking advice from them will help you and if you feel the advice is wrong then don’t act on it
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In my opinion, there's nothing bad about taking advice from unhappy people. That way you will know the cause of their unhappiness and find a way to bypass it. Do it's not bad to take advice from them.
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I totally agree that one should not take advice from an unhappy person. I do not like being around unhappy people and I have no desire to converse with them. I think being a happy person is infectious to other people. Happy people are successful in life including personal relationships and one's job.
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Most times, unhappy people are just miserable and want to see other people be like them. I suggest to avoid such people in your lives.
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Lately, I've been trying to be more mindful of the voices I listen to. It might sound harsh, but I'm realizing that constantly surrounding myself with negativity isn't exactly a recipe for happiness. This whole "don't take advice from unhappy people" thing really resonated with me. Don't get me wrong, everyone has rough patches. But if someone consistently brings down the mood, filled with "why bother" and "it won't work anyway," well, their negativity might start to rub off. Instead, I'm trying to surround myself with positive influences. People who are working on their goals, chasing their dreams, and spreading good vibes. Their energy is contagious, and it makes me want to be a better, more optimistic version of myself.
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I do not believe unhappy people can give advice because they are too focused on their own unhappiness.
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If a good friend of mine becomes unhappy I will want to help him overcome the unhappiness and turn him or her back into a positive person. If one's boss is unhappy with one's work habits or performance, then his advice is a different kind of advice from an unhappy person. If one's performance is totally unacceptable, he will probably not receive advice since he will be terminated.
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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I think taking advice has to do with who you meet. It also depends on the reason why the person is unhappy. To be on a safer side I suggest we take advice from happy people.
Malachi Chukwuebuka Nelson
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Re: Don't take any advice from unhappy people.

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I just think no matter how you love the person I think you should take advice from people that are happy. Unhappy people can give advice out of pity from their condition.
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