I think we agree on everything because I was not and am not saying to "never listen to unhappy people".Nqobile Mashinini Tshabalala wrote: ↑August 16th, 2023, 1:42 am I usually give people a chance to tell their stories and dish out unsolicited advice but I filter out a lot of what they say and how they say it so there are times when I do listen to unhappy people. But I agree with the rest!
Needless to say, there is a huge difference between merely 'listening' to someone versus taking their advice.
In analogy, there's a huge difference between looking at what time a broken clock says it is versus believing that it is that time.
In fact, there could be benefit to listening to what an unhappy person advises so that you can then intentionally do the opposite of what they suggest as to thereby aim to hopefully avoid doing the things that result in unhappiness.
In analogy, if you were trying to lose weight, it would be like listening to the exercise plan and food suggestions a morbidly obese person gives you so that you can go out of your way to avoid eating those foods and avoid following that kind of exercise plan.
I don't suggest blindly doing the opposite of what they advise, but there definitely can be benefits in listening to what they advise so you can note it down mentally as something that has been tested and failed already.
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes