"What stands in the way becomes the way."

[Chiwelite Obioma Mgbeoji]

Learning to accept things that cannot be changed as what they are "cannot be changed" has helped me move on quickly from things that should have slowed me down, hurt me or even put me in depression. I have the outlook that sometimes things are beyond our control and that may just be fine as well.

[abstactlemon]

I think I understand this better, especially after reading the comments here. Sometimes we are faced with obstacles that impede our growth and we want to give up. However, is that the answer? I have experienced this in my place of work too, where I felt that certain changes would affect how things were. However, these changes became a way for me to grow even more because I played my cards well. I agree with the comment that emphasized the saying 'if you cannot go around it, go through it.'

Yes. I was having a hard time wrapping my head around the concept. But I believe that I understand after reading the comments as well. Growth only comes from try-fail cycles. Meeting a wall doesn't mean the end, it only means an opportunity to learn and adapt.

[Scott]

Isn’t there a saying, “if you can’t go around it, go through it”? That makes it become the way.

I love that!

[Kendal Low]

Only by fully and unconditionally accepting the proverbial cards we are dealt (i.e. only by fully and unconditionally accepting that which cannot be changed) are we able to best play those cards.

By wasting even the smallest bit of time, energy, or resources resenting that which we know we cannot change, we thereby absolutely cannot play those proverbial cards the best we can, since our time, energy, and resources are all finite.

What's spent on one is taken from the other.

I've never thought about it this way. I think this is such a clever outlook, as not only does it inspire you to do the best you can with what you have, but it also inspires you to take your energy away from the negatives like what you don't or can never have. This way, you can put all of your energy into what is best. I really love this way of thinking!

[Hazel Mae Bagarinao]

"The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."
- Marcus Aurelius

I always love Marcus Aurelius' quotes. It is very true. The mind adapts to everything. What can't be changed, can't be. What can be changed, can be. So, focus on things that can be changed.

[Covenant Olusegun]

I agree with you on this: we shouldn't let our past stand in our way or spend time on regret because if we do, it becomes who we are.