Human zombies

[Abby Young 2]

I agree with what you're saying. Maybe a good way to start finding your true self if to start loving for today. Don't hold onto a sticker because you don't want to wast it. Don't give someone a rain check when they ask you to go out woth them, one day they won't be able to ask you, all you'll have are countless rain checks. So maybe if you can't find yourself try being less of a zombie.

[Cheryl Erickson]

Looking back and obsessing about past mistakes can lead to regret and depression. Concentrating on the "what ifs" of the future and the unknowns of tomorrow will not bring peace. Absently following the decisions of others doesn't necessarily lead to happiness because those may not be the right decisions for your own life. Skip the zombie behavior! I agree that living in the present and focusing on your true self will lead to peace and happiness.

[Rat de bibliotheque1]

It is a balancing act between being able to enjoy the present and being able to look back at the past. The past is important as our lives are filled with happy moments. We can also learn from our mistakes. So, we cannot ignore our past and the people who shared our past and have passed away. It is important to remember and celebrate our loved ones. We must try and lead the best life for ourselves and even if we can listen to other people’s advice, I agree with you that it may not be the best advice for us. We are all different and expect different things from life.

[Kelsey Roy]

Living in the moment is something I struggle with on a daily basis. I often find myself looking back at even the smallest and most inconsequential actions and questioning my motivations and effectiveness. I also find myself using moralizing language and criticizing my intentions. Since reading this book, I have made a conscious effort to live in the moment and stop telling myself I “should” have done something differently!

[Rat de bibliotheque1]

The author of the book said not to use “should” for ourselves or for others. It can be extremely difficult and something to work on! Life gets complicated. I like looking at past events and looking to the future can be exciting, not just a cause of anxiety.

[Hazel Mae Bagarinao]

In It Together is a book that reminds us that we need to find our true self if we want to reach happiness. It seems increasingly difficult these days to find spirituality. I liked the reference to people resembling human zombies, struggling to find their true self. Living in the present is not an easy thing to do but we should all aim at being in the moment and not worry so much about the future.

To worry, we stop living. In everything, we can find joy/happiness if we chose to. For instance, when you do dishes, what it is that you found it joyful? You can see a rainbow in the bubbles. In other words, there's always good in everything. There are always joyful moments, it is by changing how we see. If we worry, we lose the present moments because we focus on the future, we think what it isn't now. Worries don't help us, it ruins us. So, lets stop worrying, and start living, as Dale Carnegie said.

[Rat de bibliotheque1]

This is very true. Worrying will not help us achieve happiness. However, we can look to the future with hope and excitement. The future is not always a source of worry, it all depends on our outlook on life. It is again, the right balance between enjoying the present in the simple things in life, and looking at the past with fond memories, and finally considering the future with hope and excitement. A fine balancing act!