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Emmanuel Asamoah 5 wrote: April 12th, 2024, 5:37 pm Scott,

I trust you are in excellent health as always. I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for being a source of understanding and inspiration in my life. Your experiences, philosophies, and ideologies have resonated with me on a profound level, and I feel a deep connection to your words, as if you are speaking directly to me. As a fellow Scorpio, I believe our shared astrological sign contributes to our mutual understanding.

I am reaching out to you today with my worries, confident that you can provide the clarity and solutions I need to move forward in life. Allow me to share a bit about myself. I am completely blind, but I have never let that define or limit me. I studied French and Spanish at university, but my true passions lie in computer programming, web development, digital forensics, and open-source intelligence (OSINT). Additionally, I have delved into the realms of astrology, numerology, and tarot, as I am fascinated by life's mysteries, enlightenment, inner freedom, and the cosmic and supernatural aspects of existence.

Despite my visual impairment, I am versatile and adaptable. I can develop web and desktop applications, perform astrological and numerology readings, conduct research on and off the web, and express myself through writing with clarity. The only thing I have been missing is someone to guide me in making the right choices and setting me on the right path. Thankfully, joining OnlineBookClub (OBC) as a reviewer has led me to you.

My experience with OBC has been both exciting and occasionally challenging, but I have learned and grown from the discomfort. As the saying goes, "ad astra per aspera" which literally means the path to greatness requires hardship. The constructive feedback I have received has helped me improve as a writer, and I look forward to leaving an extensive review of OBC.

Scott, considering the skills and abilities I have outlined, could you help me identify and focus on one that would be most beneficial for me in the long run? I would be thrilled to hear your insights and guidance.

I was filled with awe when I received an email asking for the support and guidance I needed. I eagerly await your response.
Swimmingly,
Asamoah

Hi, Emmanuel Asamoah 5,

Thank you for your question! :D

Regarding the "right path", a key teaching of mine as explained in detail in my book, In It Together, is that whatever path you are on is the right path for you at the time you are on it. Whatever is done is the right thing to be done at the time it is done.

Nothing ever happens that shouldn't happen.

Nothing 'should' be different than it unchangeably is.

In other words, there is no should.

Reality is right.

The universe doesn't miscalculate.

With that said, you ask what path forward for you might be most beneficial to you.

But how could I answer that? Each person is different and unique. What would be beneficial for you would not be beneficial for someone else. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

May I ask if you have already read my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All?

If not, I would definitely recommend starting there.

From there, I suggest you ask yourself what you want. What long-term goals would be desirable to you? Ideally, where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?

You might be stuck not knowing which skill to focus on and which small step to take in which direction because you may be doing things out of order. You cannot really decide on a means until you have decided on an end. You cannot really decide on a short-term plan or course of action until you have decided on a long-term plan or long-term goal.

Then the question gets simplified because instead of the vague possibly unanswerable question "What's most beneficial to me?" it instead becomes "What's most beneficial to this long-term goal or plan?" or in other words "What's most conducive to me sticking to the long-term plan and achieving the long-term goal?"

Goals get misused when we expect the achievement of the goals to make us happy. A symptom of that is when someone says something like, "Once I reach my long-term goal, then I can finally be happy and at peace."

Someone who says something like that is NOT following the teachings of my book.

However, my book also talks about how goals, especially long-term goals, can be helpful and useful for an already happy person who loves the endless journey, by acting like the magnetic pull that aligns the pointer in their proverbial compass to guide and inspire them on their endless journey.

Don't feel like you have to pick some hard tough long-term goal and work hard towards it. If you aren't going to be happy while doing the work, then my advice is don't. If you aren't going to be happy on the long challenging road towards the long-term goal, then my advice is don't go down the road and don't take on that goal.

However, if you love journeying and working, and if you want a destination to happily journey towards and happily work towards, then don't worry too much about which goal you pick. It's like choosing to go on vacation to Bermuda versus the Bahamas. You can weigh the pros and cons a bit, but it's not that big of a deal. You could even flip a coin if needed.

On those latter two points, I think these two articles of mine will be very helpful for you:



Do less better! | The incredible power of doing nothing



My HUGE TIP for decision paralysis: If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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Hi Scott,

Why in your view are some people murderers, rapists, or enjoy inducing pain on their fellow human beings?
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: May 5th, 2024, 6:09 am If you haven't already, you can sign up to be personally mentored by Scott "Eckhart Aurelius" Hughes at this link.


Emmanuel Asamoah 5 wrote: April 12th, 2024, 5:37 pm Scott,

I trust you are in excellent health as always. I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for being a source of understanding and inspiration in my life. Your experiences, philosophies, and ideologies have resonated with me on a profound level, and I feel a deep connection to your words, as if you are speaking directly to me. As a fellow Scorpio, I believe our shared astrological sign contributes to our mutual understanding.

I am reaching out to you today with my worries, confident that you can provide the clarity and solutions I need to move forward in life. Allow me to share a bit about myself. I am completely blind, but I have never let that define or limit me. I studied French and Spanish at university, but my true passions lie in computer programming, web development, digital forensics, and open-source intelligence (OSINT). Additionally, I have delved into the realms of astrology, numerology, and tarot, as I am fascinated by life's mysteries, enlightenment, inner freedom, and the cosmic and supernatural aspects of existence.

Despite my visual impairment, I am versatile and adaptable. I can develop web and desktop applications, perform astrological and numerology readings, conduct research on and off the web, and express myself through writing with clarity. The only thing I have been missing is someone to guide me in making the right choices and setting me on the right path. Thankfully, joining OnlineBookClub (OBC) as a reviewer has led me to you.

My experience with OBC has been both exciting and occasionally challenging, but I have learned and grown from the discomfort. As the saying goes, "ad astra per aspera" which literally means the path to greatness requires hardship. The constructive feedback I have received has helped me improve as a writer, and I look forward to leaving an extensive review of OBC.

Scott, considering the skills and abilities I have outlined, could you help me identify and focus on one that would be most beneficial for me in the long run? I would be thrilled to hear your insights and guidance.

I was filled with awe when I received an email asking for the support and guidance I needed. I eagerly await your response.
Swimmingly,
Asamoah

Hi, Emmanuel Asamoah 5,

Thank you for your question! :D

Regarding the "right path", a key teaching of mine as explained in detail in my book, In It Together, is that whatever path you are on is the right path for you at the time you are on it. Whatever is done is the right thing to be done at the time it is done.

Nothing ever happens that shouldn't happen.

Nothing 'should' be different than it unchangeably is.

In other words, there is no should.

Reality is right.

The universe doesn't miscalculate.

With that said, you ask what path forward for you might be most beneficial to you.

But how could I answer that? Each person is different and unique. What would be beneficial for you would not be beneficial for someone else. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

May I ask if you have already read my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All?

If not, I would definitely recommend starting there.

From there, I suggest you ask yourself what you want. What long-term goals would be desirable to you? Ideally, where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?

You might be stuck not knowing which skill to focus on and which small step to take in which direction because you may be doing things out of order. You cannot really decide on a means until you have decided on an end. You cannot really decide on a short-term plan or course of action until you have decided on a long-term plan or long-term goal.

Then the question gets simplified because instead of the vague possibly unanswerable question "What's most beneficial to me?" it instead becomes "What's most beneficial to this long-term goal or plan?" or in other words "What's most conducive to me sticking to the long-term plan and achieving the long-term goal?"

Goals get misused when we expect the achievement of the goals to make us happy. A symptom of that is when someone says something like, "Once I reach my long-term goal, then I can finally be happy and at peace."

Someone who says something like that is NOT following the teachings of my book.

However, my book also talks about how goals, especially long-term goals, can be helpful and useful for an already happy person who loves the endless journey, by acting like the magnetic pull that aligns the pointer in their proverbial compass to guide and inspire them on their endless journey.

Don't feel like you have to pick some hard tough long-term goal and work hard towards it. If you aren't going to be happy while doing the work, then my advice is don't. If you aren't going to be happy on the long challenging road towards the long-term goal, then my advice is don't go down the road and don't take on that goal.

However, if you love journeying and working, and if you want a destination to happily journey towards and happily work towards, then don't worry too much about which goal you pick. It's like choosing to go on vacation to Bermuda versus the Bahamas. You can weigh the pros and cons a bit, but it's not that big of a deal. You could even flip a coin if needed.

On those latter two points, I think these two articles of mine will be very helpful for you:



Do less better! | The incredible power of doing nothing



My HUGE TIP for decision paralysis: If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott


If It's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter..png



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Hi Scott, you are right by saying that one man's poison is another man's treasure and its true that we all want and have different things. Our journeys in life are all very different and another person can't dictate your life. It is all upto to you to live your life the way you desire. Be wise and choose the right path.
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Amy Jackson wrote: April 11th, 2024, 5:39 pm Hi Scott,

You made a post about learning to not have an opinion about everything.

How can one really live without having an opinion about things? Our opinions shape the way we think and live our life, don't they?

Hi, Amy Jackson,

I think you misunderstood that post.

I did not recommend anything in that post.

Instead, I simply pointed out that one doesn't need to have an opinion about every single thing.

You seem to have misunderstood that on two counts:

First, you misunderstood my concept of not having an opinion about every single thing as if it meant not having an opinion about anything at all. In effect, I was simply pointing out that you can have much fewer opinions than you do rather than saying you could have no opinions at all.

Second, you misunderstood my saying "You can..." as if it was a recommendation. There is a big difference between me saying you can do something versus me saying I recommend you do that thing.


Nonetheless, while 'opinions' and other subjective feelings can come in many forms, my book, In It Together, does indeed suggest one avoid willfully engaging in any judgementalism at all, and likewise it does suggest one do not engage in any willful resentment or willful hate at all.

May I ask if you have already read my book, In It Together?

If so, have you read it just once or at least twice?

As always, I recommend everyone read it at least twice.

The reason for reading it twice is explained here.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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My entire political philosophy summed up in one tweet.

"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master."

I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: May 6th, 2024, 3:03 am If you haven't already, you can sign up to be personally mentored by Scott "Eckhart Aurelius" Hughes at this link.

Amy Jackson wrote: April 11th, 2024, 5:39 pm Hi Scott,

You made a post about learning to not have an opinion about everything.

How can one really live without having an opinion about things? Our opinions shape the way we think and live our life, don't they?

Hi, Amy Jackson,

I think you misunderstood that post.

I did not recommend anything in that post.

Instead, I simply pointed out that one doesn't need to have an opinion about every single thing.

You seem to have misunderstood that on two counts:

First, you misunderstood my concept of not having an opinion about every single thing as if it meant not having an opinion about anything at all. In effect, I was simply pointing out that you can have much fewer opinions than you do rather than saying you could have no opinions at all.

Second, you misunderstood my saying "You can..." as if it was a recommendation. There is a big difference between me saying you can do something versus me saying I recommend you do that thing.


Nonetheless, while 'opinions' and other subjective feelings can come in many forms, my book, In It Together, does indeed suggest one avoid willfully engaging in any judgementalism at all, and likewise it does suggest one do not engage in any willful resentment or willful hate at all.

May I ask if you have already read my book, In It Together?

If so, have you read it just once or at least twice?

As always, I recommend everyone read it at least twice.

The reason for reading it twice is explained here.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott


avoid willfully engaging in any judgementalism.png



---In addition to having authored his book, In It Together, Eckhart Aurelius Hughes (a.k.a. Scott) runs a mentoring program, with a free option, that guarantees success. Success is guaranteed for anyone who follows the program.
Hi, Scott.
How about I look at it from this approach, yes I do have an opinion but choose not to share it and keep it to myself. Does this also equal to not having an opinion.
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Hi, Shirley Labzentis,

Thank you for your questions! :)

Within the next week or so, once your question comes up in the queue of unanswered questions, I will be posting a longer more direct answer to your full question.

However, I wanted to pull out these lines from your question and respond to them sooner and separately, because I can see how they may be urgently troubling you:

Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm This person also thinks that everything they say, you should believe,
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm They say whatever they like and look at you like you are supposed to take their word as gospel.
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm they think I am an idiot
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pmthey think that I believe what they are spewing

Have you ever woken up from a dream that seemed so real and non-absurd while you were dreaming, but then once you find yourself awake in this new other reality, the dream world seemed so absurd and you almost can't believe you believed it. The human brain and mind is typically so quick to accept what it presents to itself, but it's really a story-making machine inside of a dark quiet skull.

Waking life is much more like a dream than we often realize.

For some, the story, narrative, and dream they make-up is very pleasant and heavenly. For others, they create an unpleasant fictional nightmare. Many find themselves somewhere in-between those two extremes.

Unless writing a fiction story as a literal fiction novelist or such, I recommend you avoid ever using phrases like, "They think", or "he thinks", or "she thinks". Instead, quote the person verbatim. Take and provide screenshots if needed. Get others to put key communication in writing or otherwise, if spoken, have it officially objectively recorded, through a sound recorder, a video recorder, or at least by having someone take minutes and have those minutes formally reviewed and approved or voted on by all participants in the meeting.

In other words, instead of saying, "they think" or "they feel" about someone else, instead say, "They said" or "they wrote", and then provide a true accurate verbatim quote of what they actually said word-for-word, ideally one backed by a screenshot or recording. That's not to say you want to always provide the screenshot or recording, but just know it's available in case there is a dispute about what they said, and also so you can use the screenshot or document to fact-check the quote yourself before sharing it to make sure you are accurately quoting the person. Don't ever quote by memory and offer that surely imperfect memory as if it was an accurate or verbatim quote; that would be very dishonest. And the person you might be lying to the most with that kind of dishonest might be yourself, and it can be very miserable lie if the thoughts and feelings you are projecting onto someone else are nasty or unpleasant.

Following those polices serves many purposes but it will tend to help you wake up from whatever waking dream you are having a little bit to a level of increased lucidity, meaning you will sort of force yourself to stop perceiving people as thinking and feeling things they may not be thinking or feeling.

Keep in mind, there is even a big difference between saying, "He thinks X", vs saying, "He said that, and I quote, he thinks X". For example, it's very different to say, "Bob loves me," versus saying, "Bob said that he loves me."

Like all of us, you are only qualified to report your own thoughts and feelings. For others, even if they tell you flat-out in plain words what they allegedly think or feel, you are still only qualified to report what they actually said, not what they actually feel or think--because they could be lying and you have absolutely no way of ever knowing if they are or not. Neither you nor I are mind-readers. The more we mistake ourselves as being a mind-reader, the more we fall deeper into the delusions of the waking dream we are having, and we are all having a waking dream. We are all hallucinating all the time. We are all doing a lot of projecting all the time, some more than others, but all doing plenty.

I think the following tweet and advice article will be very helpful for you:

I don't know who needs to hear this, but here it is: You are not good at reading minds.

Posts on Projection, Reading Between the Lines, and Toxic Unassertiveness


And here are some helpful mantras:

Whatever you read between the lines is almost certainly wrong.

Whatever you mind-read is almost certainly wrong.

Unless they are your official patient and you are a trained professional with a doctorate, whatever mental illness you would diagnosis someone with is almost certainly wrong (a misdiagnosis).

If you are having an unpleasant nightmare, realizing the dream is your own creation usually instantly solves the would-be problem. In some ways, even if you cannot force yourself to stop seeing the optical illusion, just knowing it is an illusion takes away the would-be nightmarishness of it.

They aren't thinking what you think they are thinking, and so if thinking they are thinking it annoys you or causes you misery, my advice is to simply stop imagining that they are thinking it, or at least realize you are not a mind-reader and choose to disbelief the hallucination you are seeing. It can be a very pleasant and liberating realization to realize it's all in your own head, always.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
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From a Ted Talk by neuroscientist, Anil Seth.<br /><br />Anil Seth is a Professor of Cognitive and Computational Neuroscience at the University of Sussex, where he is also Director of the Sussex Centre for Consciousness Science.
From a Ted Talk by neuroscientist, Anil Seth.

Anil Seth is a Professor of Cognitive and Computational Neuroscience at the University of Sussex, where he is also Director of the Sussex Centre for Consciousness Science.

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Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: April 16th, 2024, 3:00 am Hi Scott
Do you think the afterlife is real or is it just a place talked about so that humans have hope that they can live again after death.

Hi, Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango,


Thank you for your question! :)

I am a bit confused by the use of the word "the" in question versus "a", as in "the afterlife" versus "a afterlife".

If you are meaning to reference something very specific, then I don't know what that is and don't understand the question.

It's also not clear if you are talking about (1) what my book calls "the real you" or talking about (2) what my book calls the false self (the body and ego), or (3) talking about something else.

Are you talking about (1) an afterlife for you, the real you, or (2) an afterlife for your clothing (including your ever-changing ego, ever-changing memories), or (3) something else?

Finally, let me ask, have you read my book "In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All"?

It will help me understand your question much better if I know whether or not you already read my book, since it provides a lot of important context to these kinds of discussions.

Nonetheless, here is a question I can answer even though it may not be the one you are asking:

"Do I believe that when a human body and ego dies here on Earth a copy of that body, brain, and ego (a.k.a. a figurative outfit) in its current condition with its current memories suddenly gets copied over to some other world, realm, or place in some magical-seeming way where the body and brain keeps living, aging, forgetting things (i.e. losing old memories), and forming new memories, with its personality and appearance slowly changing over time until either it abruptly dies in that world too or lives long enough to evolve/morph/age into something that is utterly unrecognizable to what it was back here and is no longer human and no longer shares any of the same memories or molecules as it had back when it was human? In other words, when one of your clothing outfits here on Earth gets destroyed, does that outfit get copied over in the condition it was immediately prior to its destruction to some other world, realm, or place where it then keeps existing, changing, and aging until it either gets abruptly destroyed there too or until it ages/changes enough to have the same result as death/destruction but just done gradually bit by bit over time via slight, steady gradual changes?"

The short answer is no.

I see no evidence of that.

Thus, I don't believe in it for the same reason I don't believe Russell's Teapot is out there floating around in space.


Here is a quote from page 189 of my book, In It Together:

"Each night you die, and each morning you are reborn. You are reborn in a similar image but not the exact same image. You are reborn in a similar body, but not the exact same body."

To me, an official documented medical death of the body as declared by a doctor is just one type of death that is very arbitrarily defined. Change (i.e. death and rebirth, or destruction and re-creation, or creative destruction, or transformation) is not really binary. Imagine the following two scenarios:

(1) This body we call Scott/Eckhart suddenly gets hit by a bus later today, is declared 'dead' by a doctor, and then the nutrient-rich corpse is stuffed with a tree seed and planted in the ground where it grows into a tree.

(2) This body we call Scott/Eckhart never undergoes such a drastic change as getting hit by a bus anytime in the next million years, meaning in a sense Scott/Eckhart lives a million years, but over that time he very slowly and gradually morphs into a tree. The change is so slow you don't even notice from minute to minute. The change from minute to minute and even hour to hour and even day to day is so slow it's imperceptible to the human eye and mind. It's only when you look at longer time periods that you or I could even notice it, such as by glancing down at a 10-year-old photo and saying, "Wow! I was less tree-like back then! Do you see that?"


I no more died in version #1 than in version #2. Now if being the tree is having an afterlife, then in both cases I have that afterlife, and of course, I believe in that kind of afterlife: I see trees. There's incredible empirical evidence for that.

The real me never dies because it was never born.

The false me(s) and false you(s) die all the time. It's of that false me, or really one of those many false me(s), of which I speak if I say, "The old me is dead and gone. He is dead, and this man and ego you see now are reborn in his image."

I can rip apart a car, thereby destroying it, to build a boat with its materials, thereby giving birth to a boat. Change, big or small, is always just a process of death and rebirth. Thinghood itself is an illusion. Insofar as the boat or car has a spirit (a.k.a. a true self) it is the same one true eternal self that they both have, that we all have. Insofar as any tree and any human has a spirit (a.k.a. a true self) it is the same one eternal true self (a.k.a. spirit) that we all have. The rest is just ever-changing clothing that exists on a continuous spectrum, with no one outfit really being separate or distinct. The fine line between car and boat or this thing and that thing, meaning the very distinct discreet thinghood or selfhood of any one specific outfit, is an illusion. It's like mistaking the borders drawn on a map as if they really existed on the ground.

In terms of the real me, I'd still be me even if I morphed into a tree.

In terms of the false me, that is the human body writing this now, I won't be that me anymore by tomorrow. Tomorrow I will be dead and gone, and in his place will be a similar but slightly different-looking guy with similar but slightly different memories. I've heard it takes about 7 years for every atom in a human body to have been replaced by a whole new atom.


Words like 'afterlife' can mean many different things, depending on who is using them and in what context. Thus, whenever we ask someone else or ask ourselves if some particular thing or type of thing has an afterlife, I think it's very helpful and important to also ask if that thing has a beforelife, and if so in what sense it has a beforelife, what that beforelife is like, and how we know it had that beforelife? That is an important question to ask and answer first, just so that we can use it to better understand what is meant by the word beforelife in that context and thus by extension what would be meant by the word afterlife in the context in regard to that particular thing.

Presumably, as a rule of thumb, no matter what is meant by afterlife/beforelife, anything that has a beforelife would have a corresponding afterlife to roughly the same degree, no more and no less. Thus, anything lacking a beforelife would also lack an afterlife.

In other words, that which is created in time is destroyed in time. Everything that is created is destroyed. Everything that is born dies.

But, of course, as I make very clear in my book: I believe the real you is eternal.

So, if you read my book, I can be confident the real you is not what you are talking about, since I explained my view on the eternality and effective omnipresence of that clearly in my book.

And, if you haven't read my book, then you will get this question answered best and fastest simply by reading my book.

I spent over 5 years working on my book, so it would take 5 years of me talking to someone one-on-one about these kinds of things to convey to them what they would get much more quickly and better by simply reading my book. Reading my book is a huge time-saver for the reader. It's a huge time-saver for the reader because I condensed 5 years of work and thought into a maximally concise and clear version that only takes a few hours to read.




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Thanks for all you do. However, my question is: what can one do when he has a passion for something that pays less and proves hard to become accepted, but has something else that pays well but does not have the passion for it?
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Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: April 16th, 2024, 3:00 am Hi Scott
Do you think the afterlife is real or is it just a place talked about so that humans have hope that they can live again after death.

Hi, Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango,


Thank you for your question! :)

I am a bit confused by the use of the word "the" in question versus "a", as in "the afterlife" versus "a afterlife".

If you are meaning to reference something very specific, then I don't know what that is and don't understand the question.

It's also not clear if you are talking about (1) what my book calls "the real you" or talking about (2) what my book calls the false self (the body and ego), or (3) talking about something else.

Are you talking about (1) an afterlife for you, the real you, or (2) an afterlife for your clothing (including your ever-changing ego, ever-changing memories), or (3) something else?

Finally, let me ask, have you read my book "In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All"?

It will help me understand your question much better if I know whether or not you already read my book, since it provides a lot of important context to these kinds of discussions.

Nonetheless, here is a question I can answer even though it may not be the one you are asking:

"Do I believe that when a human body and ego dies here on Earth a copy of that body, brain, and ego (a.k.a. a figurative outfit) in its current condition with its current memories suddenly gets copied over to some other world, realm, or place in some magical-seeming way where the body and brain keeps living, aging, forgetting things (i.e. losing old memories), and forming new memories, with its personality and appearance slowing changing over time until either it abruptly dies in that world too or lives long enough to evolve/morph/age into something that is utterly unrecognizable to what it was back here and is no longer human and no longer shares any of the same memories or molecules as it had back when it was human? In other words, when one of your clothing outfits here on Earth gets destroyed, does that outfit get copied over in the condition it was immediately prior to its destruction to some other world, realm, or place where it then keeps existing, changing, and aging until it either gets abruptly destroyed there too or until it ages/changes enough to have the same result as death/destruction but just done gradually bit by bit over time via slight steady gradual changes?"

The short answer is no.

I see no evidence of that.

Thus, I don't believe in it for the same reason I don't believe Russell's Teapot is out there floating around in space.


Here is a quote from page 189 of my book, In It Together:

"Each night you die, and each morning you are reborn. You are reborn in a similar image but not the exact same image. You are reborn in a similar body, but not the exact same body."

To me, an official documented medical death of the body as declared by a doctor is just one type of death that is very arbitrarily defined. Change (i.e. death and rebirth, or destruction and recreation, or creative destruction, or transformation) is not really binary. Imagine the following two scenarios:

(1) This body we call Scott/Eckhart suddenly gets hit by a bus later today, is declared 'dead' by a doctor, and then the nutrient-rich corpse is stuffed with a tree seed and planted in the ground where it grows into a tree.

(2) This body we call Scott/Eckhart never undergoes such a drastic change as getting hit by a bus anytime in the million years, meaning in a sense Scott/Eckhart lives a million years, but over that time it very slowly and gradually morphs into a tree. The change is so slow you don't even notice from minute to minute. The change from minute to minute and even hour to hour and even day to day is so slow it's imperceptible to the human eye and mind. It's only when you look at longer time periods that you or I could even notice it, such as by glancing down at a 10-year-old photo and saying, "Wow! I was less tree-like back then! Do you see that?"


I no more died in version #1 than in version #2. Now if being the tree is having an afterlife, then in both cases I have that afterlife, and of course, I believe in that kind of afterlife: I see trees. There's incredible empirical evidence for that.

The real me never dies because it was never born.

The false me(s) and false you(s) die all the time. It's of that false me, or really one of those many false me(s), of which I speak if I say, "The old me is dead and gone. He is dead, and this man and ego you see now are reborn in his image."

I can rip apart a car, thereby destroying it, to build a boat with its materials, thereby giving birth to a boat. Change, big or small, is always just a process of death and rebirth. Thinghood itself is an illusion. Insofar as the boat or car has a spirit (a.k.a. a true self) it is the same one true eternal self that they both have, that we all have. Insofar as any tree and any human has a spirit (a.k.a. a true self) it is the same one eternal true self (a.k.a. spirit) that we all have. The rest is just ever-changing clothing that exists on a continuous spectrum, with no one outfit really being separate or distinct. The fine line between car and boat or this thing and that thing, meaning the very distinct discreet thinghood or selfhood of any one specific outfit, is an illusion. It's like mistaking the borders drawn on a map as if they really existed on the ground.

In terms of the real me, I'd still be me even if I morphed into a tree.

In terms of the false me, that is the human body writing this now, I won't be that me anymore by tomorrow. Today I will be dead and gone, and in his place will be a similar but slightly different-looking guy with similar but slightly different memories. I've heard it takes about 7 years for every atom in a human body to have been replaced by a whole new atom.


Words like 'afterlife' can mean many different things, depending on who is using them and in what context. Thus, whenever we ask someone else or ask ourselves if some particular thing or type of thing has an afterlife, I think it's very helpful and important to also ask if that thing has a beforelife, and if so in what sense it has a beforelife, what that beforelife is like, and how we know it had that beforelife? That is an important question to ask and answer first, if not just so we can use it to better understand what is meant by the word beforelife in that context and thus by extension would be meant by the word afterlife in the context in regard to that particular thing.

Presumably, as a rule of thumb, no matter what is meant by afterlife/beforelife, anything that has a beforelife would have a corresponding afterlife to roughly the same degree, no more and no less. Thus, anything lacking a beforelife would also lack an afterlife.

In other words, that which is created in time is destroyed in time. Everything that is created is destroyed. Everything that is born dies.

But, of course, as I make very clear in my book: I believe the real you is eternal.

So, if you read my book, I can be confident the real you is not what you are talking about, since I explained my view on the eternality and effective omnipresence of that clearly in my book.

And, if you haven't read my book, then you will get this question answered best and fastest simply by reading my book.

I spent over 5 years working on my book, so it would take 5 years of me talking to someone one-on-one about these kinds of things to convey to them what they would get much more quickly and better by simply reading my book. Reading my book is a huge time-saver for the reader. It's a huge time-saver for the reader because I condensed 5 years of work and thought into a maximally concise and clear version that only takes a few hours to read.




With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
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Hi Scott
I am sorry that my question wasn't clear but I still got the right answer. I have always thought that this life I live changes and I am reborn every day. I always wondered what happened when I slept and woke up the next morning. I will always continue to live on in different ways, it may not be the flesh I am now that will define whether I live on but bring true ti my self.
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Gerrard Mark wrote: May 2nd, 2024, 9:59 am How do I start a great career in writing books. I love reading a whole lot. But I'll definitely like to write someday, where do I start from ? How do I start. When do I start. Anybody can give an idea. I'll be glad.

Hi, Gerrard Mark,

Thank you for your question! :)

That question was already asked and answered earlier in the Q&A:

I want to write. How do I start?


Moving forward, please do make sure to read all the previous Q&As before asking a new question to make sure the question hasn't already been asked and answered.



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Mcbride6841 wrote: April 16th, 2024, 3:40 pm Hello!
I have read your innovative book, In it Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All, once. I see very little reference material noted. Will the fourth edition will have some foundational resources, a bibliography or both?

Hi, Mcbride6841,


Thank you for your question! :)

There is no planned fourth edition of the book.
       
I am working on the third and final edition.
       
All editions, including the third, will use 'on-the-same-page' footnotes to provide any needed citations.
       
Regardless, if there is even a single sentence in the book that you doubt or otherwise do not agree with, please simply post a verbatim quote of it in the following topic:
       
       
Do you agree with everything in the book, "In It Together"? If not, what is the first sentence with which you disagree?
       
       
So far, most readers who have replied there have stated they do agree with every single sentence in the book, which is incredible for a life-changing philosophy book like this with radical life-changing conclusions.
       
Indeed, most people wouldn't agree with the ending of the book if they read the ending without reading the beginning. Yet, because of the logic and clearly explained reasoning, like a train on the tracks, most readers find themselves changing their minds as they read and fully agreeing with the life-changing conclusions once they reach them.



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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: May 6th, 2024, 2:44 pm If you haven't already, you can sign up to be personally mentored by Scott "Eckhart Aurelius" Hughes at this link.


Hi, Shirley Labzentis,

Thank you for your questions! :)

Within the next week or so, once your question comes up in the queue of unanswered questions, I will be posting a longer more direct answer to your full question.

However, I wanted to pull out these lines from your question and respond to them sooner and separately, because I can see how they may be urgently troubling you:

Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm This person also thinks that everything they say, you should believe,
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm They say whatever they like and look at you like you are supposed to take their word as gospel.
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pm they think I am an idiot
Shirley Labzentis wrote: April 20th, 2024, 10:18 pmthey think that I believe what they are spewing

Have you ever woken up from a dream that seemed so real and non-absurd while you were dreaming, but then once you find yourself awake in this new other reality, the dream world seemed so absurd and you almost can't believe you believed it. The human brain and mind is typically so quick to accept what it presents to itself, but it's really a story-making machine inside of a dark quiet skull.

Waking life is much more like a dream than we often realize.

For some, the story, narrative, and dream they make-up is very pleasant and heavenly. For others, they create an unpleasant fictional nightmare. Many find themselves somewhere in-between those two extremes.

Unless writing a fiction story as a literal fiction novelist or such, I recommend you avoid ever using phrases like, "They think", or "he thinks", or "she thinks". Instead, quote the person verbatim. Take and provide screenshots if needed. Get others to put key communication in writing or otherwise, if spoken, have it officially objectively recorded, through a sound recorder, a video recorder, or at least by having someone take minutes and have those minutes formally reviewed and approved or voted on by all participants in the meeting.

In other words, instead of saying, "they think" or "they feel" about someone else, instead say, "They said" or "they wrote", and then provide a true accurate verbatim quote of what they actually said word-for-word, ideally one backed by a screenshot or recording. That's not to say you want to always provide the screenshot or recording, but just know it's available in case there is a dispute about what they said, and also so you can use the screenshot or document to fact-check the quote yourself before sharing it to make sure you are accurately quoting the person. Don't ever quote by memory and offer that surely imperfect memory as if it was an accurate or verbatim quote; that would be very dishonest. And the person you might be lying to the most with that kind of dishonest might be yourself, and it can be very miserable lie if the thoughts and feelings you are projecting onto someone else are nasty or unpleasant.

Following those polices serves many purposes but it will tend to help you wake up from whatever waking dream you are having a little bit to a level of increased lucidity, meaning you will sort of force yourself to stop perceiving people as thinking and feeling things they may not be thinking or feeling.

Keep in mind, there is even a big difference between saying, "He thinks X", vs saying, "He said that, and I quote, he thinks X". For example, it's very different to say, "Bob loves me," versus saying, "Bob said that he loves me."

Like all of us, you are only qualified to report your own thoughts and feelings. For others, even if they tell you flat-out in plain words what they allegedly think or feel, you are still only qualified to report what they actually said, not what they actually feel or think--because they could be lying and you have absolutely no way of ever knowing if they are or not. Neither you nor I are mind-readers. The more we mistake ourselves as being a mind-reader, the more we fall deeper into the delusions of the waking dream we are having, and we are all having a waking dream. We are all hallucinating all the time. We are all doing a lot of projecting all the time, some more than others, but all doing plenty.

I think the following tweet and advice article will be very helpful for you:

I don't know who needs to hear this, but here it is: You are not good at reading minds.

Posts on Projection, Reading Between the Lines, and Toxic Unassertiveness


And here are some helpful mantras:

Whatever you read between the lines is almost certainly wrong.

Whatever you mind-read is almost certainly wrong.

Unless they are your official patient and you are a trained professional with a doctorate, whatever mental illness you would diagnosis someone with is almost certainly wrong (a misdiagnosis).

If you are having an unpleasant nightmare, realizing the dream is your own creation usually instantly solves the would-be problem. In some ways, even if you cannot force yourself to stop seeing the optical illusion, just knowing it is an illusion takes away the would-be nightmarishness of it.

They aren't thinking what you think they are thinking, and so if thinking they are thinking it annoys you or causes you misery, my advice is to simply stop imagining that they are thinking it, or at least realize you are not a mind-reader and choose to disbelief the hallucination you are seeing. It can be a very pleasant and liberating realization to realize it's all in your own head, always.



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Sometimes we tend to have our own imaginations about what people say or feel about us and yet this is not a thing we are supposed to worry about. Instead, we should get out of our heads and see things the way they are supposed to be. Believing what the other person said and yet there actions towards you show the opposite is also a big red flag. Take situations as they are and building castles in your own head is wrong.
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Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: April 20th, 2024, 8:02 am Hi Scott
What is the ideal number of children you can have in this generation?

Hi, Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango,


Thank you for your question! :)


I don't understand your question.
       
What do you mean by the word "ideal" in this context? In other words, can you please define the word "ideal" as you use it?
       
What do you mean by the word "you" in this context?
       
Are you asking about me (Scott), you (Risper), or someone else?
       
Presumably, no matter how you define the word "ideal," what's "ideal" for me would be different than what's "ideal" for you, and what's "ideal" for some other third person would be a totally different third thing that's both different from what's "ideal" for me and different from what's "ideal" for you.
       
May I ask, have you already read my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All?
       
If not, I strongly recommend you read that book before asking any additional questions in this Q&A, mainly since the answers will likely be in the book.
       
In any case, here are some helpful relevant mantras that capture some of the important teachings in the book:
       
- To each their own.
       
- One person's trash is another person's treasure.
       
- Live and let live.
       
- Clean your own backyard first and only. (In other words, don't apply your unique subjective standard of cleanliness to your neighbor's proverbial backyard, and don't ever trespass on your neighbor's proverbial backyard.)
       
- Everything is okay, always.
       
- Reality is right.
       
- The universe doesn't miscalculate.
       
- Everything is inexorably perfect.
       
- Everything is ideal, exactly as it is at that time that it is what it is.
       
- Everything is acceptable and to be accepted as either (1) that which you cannot control or (2) that which you do control and is thus exactly the way you are choosing for it to be.



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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: May 9th, 2024, 3:03 am If you haven't already, you can sign up to be personally mentored by Scott "Eckhart Aurelius" Hughes at this link.


Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: April 20th, 2024, 8:02 am Hi Scott
What is the ideal number of children you can have in this generation?

Hi, Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango,


Thank you for your question! :)


I don't understand your question.
       
What do you mean by the word "ideal" in this context? In other words, can you please define the word "ideal" as you use it?
       
What do you mean by the word "you" in this context?
       
Are you asking about me (Scott), you (Risper), or someone else?
       
Presumably, no matter how you define the word "ideal," what's "ideal" for me would be different than what's "ideal" for you, and what's "ideal" for some other third person would be a totally different third thing that's both different from what's "ideal" for me and different from what's "ideal" for you.
       
May I ask, have you already read my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All?
       
If not, I strongly recommend you read that book before asking any additional questions in this Q&A, mainly since the answers will likely be in the book.
       
In any case, here are some helpful relevant mantras that capture some of the important teachings in the book:
       
- To each their own.
       
- One person's trash is another person's treasure.
       
- Live and let live.
       
- Clean your own backyard first and only. (In other words, don't apply your unique subjective standard of cleanliness to your neighbor's proverbial backyard, and don't ever trespass on your neighbor's proverbial backyard.)
       
- Everything is okay, always.
       
- Reality is right.
       
- The universe doesn't miscalculate.
       
- Everything is inexorably perfect.
       
- Everything is ideal, exactly as it is at that time that it is what it is.
       
- Everything is acceptable and to be accepted as either (1) that which you cannot control or (2) that which you do control and is thus exactly the way you are choosing for it to be.



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Hi Scott, thank you for your reply. Ideal to me can be defined as most suitable or perfect. As for "you" I used a wrong word. Can I please replace it with the word "anyone." The question will therefore be rephrased as, "What is the suitable number of children anyone can have in this generation." But because I haven't finished reading your book, I will have to refrain from asking anymore questions. I decided to read 5 pages everywhere so that I process each and every concept. Thank you.
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Hi, Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango,

Thank you for your question! 🙂

Briton Opiyo wrote: December 20th, 2023, 2:22 am 
What do you do when you keep failing over and over again? 
 
 
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: December 27th, 2023, 8:13 pm 
I never fail because I never try. And I never try because I realize there is no try. From that realization, there comes incredible grace, extreme self-responsibility, and invincible free-spirited inner peace (a.k.a. invincible unwavering true happiness).
 
The illusion of trying and failure is generally a symptom of one or both of the following: 
 
1. Not fully and unconditionally accepting what you cannot control and cannot change. This would be trying to do X when X is something you know you cannot do. 
 
 2. Not being fully honest with yourself about what your choices and desires are (e.g. "I am not choosing to gain weight; I am trying to lose weight and failing." or "I am not a cheating spouse who is choosing to have an affair! I am someone who is trying my best to not cheat and failing".) 
 
 
 
Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango wrote: April 22nd, 2024, 3:15 am 
Hi Scott 
Does this mean that failure is his choice 
 
 
No, that is not what I am saying. 
 
As I use the term, failure is an illusion. 
 
As I use the term, everyone and everything is a success. 
 
The adulterer isn't a spouse trying to be faithful who fails, but rather someone who succeeds at cheating. The drinking alcoholic doesn't fail to be sober, even if his stated goal is to be sober; rather, he is successful at drinking. 
 
Everyone and everything is a success. They aren't failing to be something or failing to be anything. They are who they are, and they are succeeding at being themselves. Bees don't fail to be trees, and trees don't fail to be bees. They are succeeding at being who they are and doing what they do. 
 
May I ask, have you read my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All
 
If not, I ask that you read that book in full before asking additional questions in this Mentoring Q&A, because likely the book already contains the answers. 
 
 
Regardless, here are some relevant topics that explain this point—that success is a choice and failure is an illusion—in more detail: 
 
- Page 150: "When it comes to your choices, you always get exactly what you want, meaning what you choose." 
 
- Beware: The phrase "work hard" can be just as dishonest and dangerous as the word "try". Be very careful with it! 
 
- Trying, failure, underachievement, and should-not-have-ness are imaginary phantoms that cause you real misery. 
 
- Success is a choice. 
 
- I have inner peace because I shamelessly know I do only what I want to do, and I don't ever do what I don't want to do. 
 
- When I see someone in hell, I smile inside myself, and I think, "Good for him; he's getting what he's choosing." 



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott


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In addition to having authored his book, In It Together, Eckhart Aurelius Hughes (a.k.a. Scott) runs a mentoring program, with a free option, that guarantees success. Success is guaranteed for anyone who follows the program.
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I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.
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