The Six Dangerous Misery-Inducing Words: "Must", "Have to", "Need to", "Should", "Ought", "Try"

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I use these words when I'm not committed to the task at hand. How interesting!
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Hi Scott,
Do you believe that we are programmed to think and believe in specific ways and that this can be unlearned?

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There's nothing like try. You either do or you don't.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: June 15th, 2023, 12:48 pm This is a discussion forum topic for the November 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All.


My book, In It Together, helps the willing reader to willfully reprogram their mind to be much more precise, peaceful, and conducive to happiness and incredible success, such as by doing one's best to let go of dangerous misery-inducing words like:

- must

- have to

- need to

- should

- ought

- try


If you want my advice, then I give you this: I recommend you do your absolute best to avoid saying or even thinking any of the above six phrases.

In the sense of destroying your happiness, and potentially making you depressed, willfully using words like those above are like the fire that destroys a beloved house. The fire is both the most noticeable symptom and the primary cause. Fire begets yet more fire. What causes the big fire is the small fire, and before that the tiny flame. It is the cause and the symptom.

The human mind is a narrative-making machine. Waking life is much, much, much more similar to a dream at night than most people realize. What you see--and even the concept of sight itself--is so much more of a figment of your mind's imagination than you probably realize.

Miserable people tell themselves miserable stories, and miserable stories make people more miserable. It's a feedback loop, like a spreading fire, or even a consuming cancer.

It's not just about happiness, because free-spirited happiness leads to success, not vice versa. So it's also about success--incredible success--in business, finance, family life, romantic relationships, and even fitness goals.

My book teaches you that you are not your mind, meaning you don't have to believe what the mind says, but my book also shows you how easily you can reprogram your mind, so that it can serve you rather than have you serve it, as if you were a slave, a prisoner in your own body. You can free yourself, your true self. You can free your spirit, meaning you can be free-spirited. And, then, you can reprogram your mind. It's much like swapping out parts in your car, or reformatting the hard-drive on your home computer.

As always, the choice is yours, and when it comes to your choices, you always get exactly what you want.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes




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Post by Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango »

I don't think must is a word that is negative. To me, using the word must gives me a sense of responsibility and I always strive to do what I said I must do because its compulsory for me to do so.
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Post by Alida Spies »

I get what you're saying about reprogramming the mind. So even in a mundane situation that will not create negative feelings, don't use the six dangerous words. As an example, it won't cause stress if you say, "I must go to the bank to draw cash." You could as easily say, "I want to go to the bank to draw cash." The last sentence strengthens the reprogramming.

Thanks for sharing.
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Yes, you are right. Words have a certain power over our moods. These words are some that affect us negatively.
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Post by Shirley Labzentis »

I have read "In It Together" three times, and I am fully aware of the Six Dangerous Misery-Inducing Words. The one that I have the most problem with is "Should." It still goes through my mind that "I should" call my son, daughter, or grandsons. I try to turn it around and say, "I will call." I am more aware of these six words when I am reading a post from someone else, and I think, "Oops! They did not read In It Together!"
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