CONSISTENCY, DETERMINATION, AND INCREDIBLE SUCCESS
Those who read my book will understand what I mean when I say this:
A major key to (1) consistency, (2) determination, (3) incredible goal-achievement (i.e. success), and (4) transcending and breaking free of any addictive cycles holding you back and keeping you imprisoned... is this: Being 'in it together' with your selves across time.
Many humans aren't in a cooperative healthy loving relationship with the family closest to them; that family being the older and younger versions of the human they see in the mirror.
Cheating on a diet and cheating on a spouse are much more similar than many people realize. So too can that be said of the significant similarity between abusively and/or controllingly imposing impossible or unreasonable rules on a romantic partner as on an older versions of the human you see in the mirror. Many who feel out of control themselves impose on others, including both their others in space and their others in time.
The abused tend to abuse. Those with cruel, uncooperative, or outright dysfunction with their family at home tend to manifest that same pattern in their relationship with others; And when I talk about dysfunction at home, I'm talking more about the would-be temple you call a human body, not a building of bricks; The family it houses is all the different-aged versions and personalities of you.
I repeat: The abused tend to abuse.
This is why the Monday-diet imagined by the weekend-binge-eater is often so absurdly strict and impossible and ridiculous and abusive.
This is why before a night of binge drinking one might say, "tonight is my last night drinking ever so let me make it count".
This is why a drug addict might say, "I'll commit myself [i.e. my older self] to that tough rehab clinic tomorrow, but first I need one last fix."
Those who have true self-responsibility don't feel the need to be ridiculously strict and abusive with others, including their others in time, namely the older version of the human they see in the mirror.
Those who willingly fail to control what they can control (namely their own unique choices in their own unique present) often then overcompensate with a futile attempt to desperately control what they cannot: namely the choices of others, especially the older versions of the human they see in the mirror (i.e. their so-called future self). The antithesis of self-responsibility is a god complex; one is productive, peaceful, happy, and successful; the other is destructive, aggressive, abusive, futile, and miserable.
Self-responsibility means freedom, and those who have it don't tend as much to impose on the freedom of others.
With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
- one of your so-called "past selves"
- one of your so-called "future selves"
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In addition to having authored his book, In It Together, Eckhart Aurelius Hughes (a.k.a. Scott) runs a mentoring program, with a free option, that guarantees success. Success is guaranteed for anyone who follows the program, both for the free option and the paid option. If you follow the program but don't achieve your goal, you'll get your money back plus $100. For the free option, that means you will still get paid $100 if you don't achieve your goal using his free advice and free system.
