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This topic comes at a perfect time! There are a number of habits I’d like to get into, so reading this is motivating to me. Two main habits that I’m attempting to form is journaling every day and exercise a little several times a week. I’m excited to start really being more conscious of these habits and forming them!
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This piece is very informative. I never knew that 21 days it's all it took to create a habit. Although it's not always easy sticking to this for 21 days but it's much less than say for a month or 2. This gives me new hope for creating habits and I'm definitely trying this out. Thanks Scott, I have hope for many things that I want to change now😁.
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"Habits are the high-dividend quality stocks and bonds that result in a free-spirited, happy life. Habits will give you spiritual freedom and make you happy, truly happy, in the sense of invincible, consistent inner peace, brave confidence, and grace."

"Almost always, success is a choice, and the choice is yours."

I agree with what you propose. It is my personal experience that more important things are best put in the morning. They get done, although they do take a little more effort at first (personal experience). I made a small change at night that helped reduce that effort in the morning, and then it was smooth sailing. I also agree that the 21-day micro-habit strategy works. 

Thanks for your post.
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Reading this post for some reason triggers the song " Breaking The Habit" ( Linkin Park).
There was a stage in life at which I could very much relate to these lyrics and truly, it did take me a long time to bypass certain habits that I realized were not going to take me to fruitful paths :idea:

BTW ( Huge fan of Sheldon Cooper and the Big Bang theory) 8) I love his whole analogy of why Sheldon chooses that seat ...

However, your approach to building new habits is very constructive and unique, involving great awareness :arrow: and guides me into proactively overriding unnecessary habits by creating ones that I can freely and consciously choose with purpose and direction.

I have come across the concept of habits taking 21 days to form but I did not experiment with it in accordance with your strategy. I have downloaded a habit app ( using Finch), which allows me to track my newly created habits easily so I can monitor accordingly and adjust ( if this habit needs customization in terms of being reset/ altered / re-timed).
I do live in an environment that is impacted greatly by social conditions and I do suspect that sometimes I have succumbed to poor usage of willpower when it comes to certain habits that I have struggled maintaining.

This perspective of willpower is sensible. Thank you for this tip. I agree, when I skip something scheduled for the morning, I pretty much never return to doing it because the day runs on and there are many more disturbances and exhaustion experienced in the later hours of the day. I will note this for application with the habits I am working with.


Your view on free- will is interesting. I believe it represents my freedom of choice which is divinely gifted. However, sometimes we forget this gift and some of us never realize we have it.
Exercising it can unlock a range of potential realities within existence.

I also believe we ARE magic ( once our highest potential is realized). I refer to the definition of magic from Merriam Webster (2024l :

a.: an extraordinary power or influence seemingly from a supernatural source.

This concept of magic (consciousness) sparks others and creates a great expression of wonder in the illusion of darkness and the mundane aspects of human existence. Humans tend to be fixated on the extraordinary with disbelief ( innately I suspect because we instinctively sense there is more to what meets the eye.)

Thank you for your beautiful perspective and shared strategy 🙏
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Understanding habit formation deeply is a transformative journey. The insight that it takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit, as mentioned, is echoed in various research studies and psychological theories. This period isn’t just a number; it reflects the time our brain needs to rewire itself to adopt new behaviors or drop old ones. Starting with a micro-habit, something so small that it requires minimal effort, aligns with the idea of "atomic habits" proposed by James Clear. He suggests that small changes accumulate into remarkable results over time, which I find incredibly empowering. The beauty of this approach lies in its simplicity and efficiency. For example, integrating the habit of reading just one page of a book every night can eventually turn into a lifelong habit of reading, fostering personal growth and learning.

The strategy of incorporating crucial habits into the morning routine is another principle that resonates with me. Morning hours are indeed a precious time, offering a fresh slate each day to imprint our intentions and actions. Research supports that willpower is strongest in the morning and wanes throughout the day due to decision fatigue. By placing the most challenging tasks in the morning, I'm leveraging my peak willpower to tackle them head-on. Personally, this method has been a game-changer for my exercise routine.

The discussion on free will in the context of habit formation is fascinating and invites deeper contemplation. The notion that our lives are a series of habits, some consciously chosen and others formed through repeated actions and thoughts, challenges the traditional understanding of free will. Are we really making free choices, or are we just acting out our ingrained habits? This philosophical inquiry opens up a vast arena for debate and exploration. I find the idea liberating in a way—it suggests that by consciously forming beneficial habits, we're essentially sculpting our destiny, one small action at a time.

For anyone intrigued by this discussion on free will, I highly recommend joining the conversation at this link:

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Thank you for responding to my request for advice on breaking the habit of waking up when I should be asleep! Your response held a lot of insight and I will take cognizance of it as best I can.
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"Mental Exhaustion—You have a very limited amount of willpower each day, so the later it gets in the day, the more likely it becomes that you'll be out of willpower." I absolutely agree with this. I know firsthand what moving a task to later in the day does. I usually am unable to do the task, or I have very little productivity if I eventually do it.
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Micro habits can be very powerful--some I have kept as micro habits and haven't grown them into habits.

It seems there is a process from micro habits requiring effort and willpower to habits requiring less effort and no willpower. This sounds very interesting.
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Hi Scott,
The way you simplify the process of building new habits or stopping old habits makes it sound easy to do. When I quit smoking 40 years ago, I found that every day it got easier and after three weeks the physical addiction was gone but the mental addiction carried on for a few more months. Cold turkey worked for me.
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It's the first time am hearing about the 21 days theory and that means that I have never tried ot out. But let me give it a shot and to something I always wanted to do for the next 21 days. I might keep p doing it, or be unable to hit the 22 days goal but one thing I will be glad about is that I learnt something new.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: June 22nd, 2023, 2:50 pm

It takes about 21 days of consistently doing something every day (or not doing something) to build a habit of doing it (or not doing it).
I've always been a big fan of the 21 day habit forming process and have applied it many times. A perfect example, and I'm sure no coincidence is that today is day 20 of the mentoring program, and I'm at my PC following each of the requirements first thing in my day, it took me zero willpower to log in and achieve this, it's now a daily habit, and my first task every day.

In my philosophy, there's no such thing as a good habit or a bad habit. I cannot honestly tell you what habits to have. I choose mine, and you choose yours. What's best for me may not be best for you. What I want for me may not be what want for you, and that's fine. It's better than fine. It's beautiful. The world would be worse if every single person was just a copy of me or just a copy of you. Diversity is what makes the world beautiful. You choose what habits you want and which you don't. And, as always, when it comes to your choices, you get exactly what you want, meaning you what you choose.
Wow, that's an interesting view that there are no bad habits, they're habits we choose. I like this!
Suggestion One: Start small with a micro-habit..

For example, if you want to floss your teeth daily, then you can start by building the habit of flossing just one tooth per day, which only takes a few seconds or so. It takes about 3 weeks (21 days) to build a new habit... But--even better!--you will find that, once you already have the micro-habit down, progression tends to be exponential, not linear. When it comes to building the habit of flossing teeth, the first tooth is the hardest.


5 days isn't habit. 21 days is.
I'm applying this from today. My book is ready (in my mind) to write, but I keep getting overwhelmed by the thought of writing the entire thing. But I don't need to. I'm starting off with a paragraph a day. I'm confident that in 21 days I''ll be writing much more than that.
Suggestion Two: Put your most important or toughest to follow habits into your morning routing.

The more important a habit is to you, the earlier you want to put into your daily routine. Likewise, the harder a habit is for you to keep, the earlier you want to put it into your morning routine.
Yes, yes, yes, that's why I do my mentoring tasks the very first thing when I wake up!

- Mental Exhaustion -- You have a very limited amount of willpower each day, so the later it gets in the day the more likely it becomes that you'll be out of willpower.
This is legitimate. I find I work (content writing) much better in the morning when my mind is fresh and alert. By the afternoon, if I'm rushing to make a deadline it takes me an hour to write what I could have done in 15 minutes in the morning.
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I agree with this! Establishing a habit of doing something early in the morning works very well for me, and if something unforeseen happens there's always time to fit it in later in the day. I feel like I've broken a promise if I don't complete what I've established, even though it affects nobody else. It's a promise to myself that I'm breaking and that is as important as a promise to someone else, for me anyway. I've never had to break a new habit that I've wanted to establish, down into smaller pieces, but I can see the benefit in doing that if it's something complicated.

Breaking a habit can be much more complicated. I've stopped smoking numerous times, always because I was forced to, e.g., landing in a hospital, but I always started again. The longest period of non-smoking was 30 days. Smoking is more than a habit though, it's an addiction, physical as well as mental. My biggest problem is that I don't really want to stop, although I know it's bad for my health. I will get on top of it, my goal is by the end of this year.

Thank you for sharing, it's all very valuable!
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I agree with what you are saying about building new habits. It's funny that you should mention gummy bears, as I am also addicted to them and if I bring them home from the store, I will eat the whole bag in one sitting. I will have to think about what my new habits will be. Probably one will be hitting the gym every day. I use to go to the gym and also swimming five days a week, but then I moved to Texas and some how got out of the habit. You are right. If you don't start it in the morning, you won't feel like doing it in the afternoon.
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Repetition births habit. Comsistent practice births perfection. I totally agree with the 21 days routine theory. It works!
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I have heard of people who say that it takes 21 days to build a habit. I haven't tried this before but I heard it works. Another technique that has helped me to build positive habits is by having mentors.
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