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[Eckhart Aurelius Hughes]

Topics: #SelfResponsibility #Freedom #SelfDiscipline #FreeSpirt #SpiritualFreedom #SelfDeterimination #LiveAndLetLive #ToEachTheirOwn #Acceptance


I like to often phrase my appreciation for the beauty of freedom, the wonderful diversity it engenders, and (most importantly) my respect for other people's freedom as a loving apathy:

e.g. "I lovingly don't care whether you drink coffee tomorrow or not. Do what you want."


The antithesis of that is to should all over people and thereby get dirty miserable should all over yourself too:

"You should drink coffee tomorrow!"

"You should not drink coffee tomorrow."

"You should not be doing that!"

"They should not have done that!"

"The unchangeable past should be different than it unchangeably is!!!"


Even if you only say those kinds of things in your head, not out loud, you're still going to feel all shouldy, by which I mean ****. In fact, it's only more obvious that all your shoulding is only making you shouldy (i.e. miserable) when you are only doing it in your head rather than outloud. At one can think they are doing more than cutting off their to spite their face and just making their own experience **** when they literally point their judgemental figure to do out loud judgementalism, "You shouldn't be the way you are, Outside World That I Don't Control!"

You can cut the **** by letting go of the shoulds.

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[Risper Ouma Lisa Anyango]

Own who you are and don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Also, take responsibility of what you do say or react in any Situation and the concept of should mist be out if your vocabulary.

[Sushan]

I appreciate how you defined "loving apathy" as a judgment-free approach to appreciating the freedom of others. It seems like a very positive and liberating way of thinking for both parties. By letting go of those "shoulds," you may avoid getting caught up in managing situations or assuming that everyone else will agree with you. Plus, holding onto those expectations just ends up making you miserable anyway.

That part about thinking the past should be different hit hard. It’s a losing battle, right? You can’t change it, so why spend energy on it? Easier said than done sometimes, but it’s good to be reminded.