Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'oughts')

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Re: Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'ough

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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: October 13th, 2023, 2:10 am 3. Can you give me an example of something that "should" be happening right now (relative to you in your present in spacetime) but isn't?
Amy Jackson wrote: January 28th, 2024, 9:24 am 3. Something happening right now... - Investing my millions of dollars 😀
I suspect if you had let go of shoulds a long time ago, and instead followed the incredibly empowering and enriching teachings of my book, such as but limited to firmly practicing the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting what you cannot control, then you would have already achieved your wildest goals, such as making a million dollars if that's truly your #1 external goal. Here is a great topic about how following the teachings of my book (instead of wastefully believing in shoulds and should-not-have-ness) leads to incredible external sucess and god-like seemingly supernatural power and grace:

Just love everything and thereby become supernaturally powerful. | #Übermensch #Superhuman #JustLoveEverything


These topics are also related to the same:

- My Three Principles for Happiness and Success (in that order!) | Be Happy and Achieve Incredible Success Guaranteed

- Success is a choice.

- Whether you are looking for a savior or someone to save, or both, look into a mirror.

- Beware: The phrase "work hard" can be just as dishonest and dangerous as the word "try". Be very careful with it! [Failure is an illusion, and success is a choice.]


Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: October 13th, 2023, 2:10 am 4. In regard to those things or events that allegedly "shouldn't" be the way they were/are, are these things that are within your control (i.e. a matter of your choice)?
Amy Jackson wrote: January 28th, 2024, 9:24 am 4. Are they within my control? Only no.3.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: October 13th, 2023, 2:10 am 5. Are these things that you can change, or are they things that you cannot change?
Amy Jackson wrote: January 28th, 2024, 9:24 am 5. Can I change them? Only no.3. I can't change the rest.

So, to be clear, you have resentment, hate, and/or unacceptable towards thing you cannot control; Correct?

If you let go of that, you will be much more successful at your stated goals.

The key word there is stated. There is a big difference between a stated goal and a real goal/choice. When those two things don't happen to be the exact same thing (which is the case with most humans), then that creates an illusion of failure. One allegedly "fails" at the stated goal to which they allegedly "try" to achieve while, in reality, succeeding at their real goals/choices.

When it comes to your choices, you always get exactly what you want, meaning what you choose. When it comes to everything else (i.e. that which you do not control), it is covered by the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting what you do not control, which can be remembered with simple mantras such as reality is right by definition, the universe doesn't miscalculate, and whatever it is, it is what it is.

In other words, as I've said many times before, trying is lying, failure is an illusion, and success is a choice. The adulter isn't a spouse trying to be faithful who fails, but rather someone who succeeds at cheating. That way of looking at things bring it full circle because it is actually a very accepting and loving and inner-peace-consistent (a.k.a. true happiness-manifesting) way of looking at things: Everyone and everything is a success. They aren't failing to be something or failing to be anything; they are what they are and they are succeeding at being themselves. Bees don't fail to be trees, and trees don't fail to be bees. They are succeeding at being what they are and doing what they do, especially when it comes to concept like spirituality (i.e. consciousness and the real you) and choice. Nothing is "failing" to be what it "should" be at that moment that it is what it is, but rather it is succeeding at being what it is in the moment that it is what it is.

In analogy, the drinking alcoholic doesn't fail to be sober, even if his stated goal is to be sober, but rather he is successful at drinking.

You can say your goal is to make a million dollars or such, but if you willfully choose to spend even one tiny bit of your incredibly valuable and very limited time or energy on resentment, unforgiveness, hate, or other forms of unacceptance or shoulding, then your stated goal is not your real goal, and instead you are and will be succeeding at your real goal (a.k.a. choice), which is to spend your valuable, very limited time and energy on shoulding, resentment, and/or unacceptance. If your real goal was something else, you wouldn't counter-productively waste your very valuable and limited time and energy on resentment and shoulding.

As the previously linked topic says, just love everything and thereby become supernaturally powerful, or choose to instead waste some of your incredibly valuable time or energy on resenting (a.k.a. shoulding on) things outside of your control instead of choosing to firmly and stubbornly practice the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting that which you cannot control, with an acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants the word love.

The choice is yours, and either choice is fine.

Would you rather be resentful or insanely powerful and wealthy (or whatever goal you could choose besides spending your energy being resentful)? If you choose resentful, that's totally fine to me. I won't resent you for it. I don't even resent resenters. To each their own. Bees like to drink blood, and I don't. It's just beautiful diversity, which is a necessarily ingredient for the world exist. In a manner of speaking, killer hurricanes like to kill, and world-destorying asteroiods like to destroy worlds. To each its own.

What will you choose? There's no wrong answer, because whichever you choose you will get it. Whether you choose miserable expensive resentment or choose incredibly god-like power and grace and the external success that comes with that, you will get what you choose, and so I shall continue to say of you and everyone and everything, good for you; you are what you are; you get what you choose; and that's beautiful and heavenly.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott


Mother Nature and all of creation is so deeply and infinitely beautiful, even though most humans are very spoiled children deeply lacking in self-responsibility and self-discipline (a.k.a. spiritual freedom).
Mother Nature and all of creation is so deeply and infinitely beautiful, even though most humans are very spoiled children deeply lacking in self-responsibility and self-discipline (a.k.a. spiritual freedom).



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Re: Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'ough

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I understand that you hold a strong belief in the absence of "shoulds" and "oughts" and that you emphasize the importance of choice and acceptance in your perspective. You argue that the concepts of "should-ness" and "should-not-ness" are imaginary and that embracing choice and unconditional acceptance leads to spiritual freedom and self-discipline.

Your viewpoint encourages individuals to focus on their own choices and desires rather than being bound by external expectations or judgments. By embracing the principle of accepting what cannot be changed, you advocate for an approach that avoids resentful judgment and allows for personal growth and freedom.

Examples of something that "shouldn't" have happened can vary greatly depending on individual perspectives and beliefs. It could include acts of violence or harm, natural disasters, or personal misfortunes that individuals perceive as unfortunate or undesired.

Similarly, examples of a person or thing that "shouldn't" be the way they are can also be subjective. It might involve situations where individuals believe a person's behavior or characteristics are morally wrong or unacceptable based on their own values or societal norms.

The concept of something that "should" be happening right now but isn't is subjective and context-dependent. It could refer to personal goals or societal expectations that individuals believe are not being met.

The extent to which things are within one's control and a matter of choice can vary. Some situations may be influenced by personal choices and actions, while others may be beyond an individual's control.

Again, the ability to change certain things can vary. Some circumstances may be changeable through personal efforts or interventions, while others may be immutable or require acceptance of their unchangeable nature.

The practice of fully, totally, and unconditionally accepting what cannot be controlled or changed is a perspective embraced by some individuals as a means to find peace, contentment, and personal growth. It can be a valuable approach for coping with circumstances that are beyond one's control.

It's important to recognize that these questions and their answers can be highly subjective and influenced by individual beliefs, perspectives, and life experiences. Different individuals may have different interpretations and approaches when it comes to accepting what cannot be changed and finding personal freedom.
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Re: Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'ough

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Donald Cecil Hufstedler wrote: February 8th, 2024, 7:35 am I understand that you hold a strong belief in the absence of "shoulds" and "oughts" and that you emphasize the importance of choice and acceptance in your perspective. You argue that the concepts of "should-ness" and "should-not-ness" are imaginary and that embracing choice and unconditional acceptance leads to spiritual freedom and self-discipline.

Your viewpoint encourages individuals to focus on their own choices and desires rather than being bound by external expectations or judgments. By embracing the principle of accepting what cannot be changed, you advocate for an approach that avoids resentful judgment and allows for personal growth and freedom.

Examples of something that "shouldn't" have happened can vary greatly depending on individual perspectives and beliefs. It could include acts of violence or harm, natural disasters, or personal misfortunes that individuals perceive as unfortunate or undesired.

Similarly, examples of a person or thing that "shouldn't" be the way they are can also be subjective. It might involve situations where individuals believe a person's behavior or characteristics are morally wrong or unacceptable based on their own values or societal norms.

The concept of something that "should" be happening right now but isn't is subjective and context-dependent. It could refer to personal goals or societal expectations that individuals believe are not being met.

The extent to which things are within one's control and a matter of choice can vary. Some situations may be influenced by personal choices and actions, while others may be beyond an individual's control.

Again, the ability to change certain things can vary. Some circumstances may be changeable through personal efforts or interventions, while others may be immutable or require acceptance of their unchangeable nature.

The practice of fully, totally, and unconditionally accepting what cannot be controlled or changed is a perspective embraced by some individuals as a means to find peace, contentment, and personal growth. It can be a valuable approach for coping with circumstances that are beyond one's control.

It's important to recognize that these questions and their answers can be highly subjective and influenced by individual beliefs, perspectives, and life experiences. Different individuals may have different interpretations and approaches when it comes to accepting what cannot be changed and finding personal freedom.
Hi, Donald Cecil Hufstedler,

Thank you for your reply, but please answer each of the six numbered questions in the Original Post (OP).


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Re: Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'ough

Post by Kenechukwu Okoye »

Yes to number #6, I do practice the principle of fully, totally, and unconditionally accepting that which I cannot control. This principle is fundamental in managing stress and maintaining a balanced perspective in life. It's important to understand that there are things beyond our control, and accepting this can lead to a more peaceful and productive mindset.
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Re: Six Questions for People Who Believe Should-Not-Have-Ness Exists (i.e. for people who believe in 'shoulds' and 'ough

Post by Surabhi Rani »

I appreciate the concept of 'external success.' It appeals to me. It opens the door to a world of knowledge for me. Also, it triggers various thoughts related to the inner and true accomplishments in life within me. I have often wondered about the true possibility inherent in me. It's my main point of reflection and the philosophy of life. Everyone and everything is a success. Bees don't fail to be trees, and trees don't fail to be bees. We are succeeding at being what we are and doing what we do.
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