- December 23rd, 2023, 2:25 pm
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There is something that makes me incredibly powerful when it comes to business but also in terms of self-discipline in general that would serve me greatly even if I was the only human on Earth or living alone on a desert island. That thing is this nearly paradoxical quality of both (1) being very easy going, practicing acceptance, and being eagerly willing to delegate and let chips fall where they fall, AND (2) being decisive and providing leadership when it's called for, or (as often happens) explicitly asked for. This two things seem like opposites, but they actually go hand-in-hand and represent two aspects of the same one thing, and you will understand that if you accept the huge tip I'll give you below.
People value someone who can do #2 precisely because so many struggle with it. Many people experience what I like to call DECISION PARALYSIS. They are like the proverbial donkey who cannot decide between two symmetrical piles of hay and thus starves to death. This is why the donkey will love you if you and #2 because you can tell him which pile of hay to eat and thereby save his life. I say this with love and a friendly smile: Most people are like that donkey.
Do you get divorced or continue spending money on couple's counseling? Do you take that new job offer or stick with the tried and true career you have? Do you sell your house or refinance your mortgage and commit to staying? What restaurant do you want to eat at tonight? Do you want pizza or burgers?
Here is one example of many that illustrate why money doesn't buy happiness and why most people (i.e. unhappy people) chase money and happiness away, and it's quite ironic: It's the people with the most food stocked up at home, or the most money to spend at numerous nearby restaurants, who tend to waste the most time and energy on questions like, "What are we going to eat tonight?" They waste whatever time, money, and energy they get on self-frustrating things like decision paralysis and then later complain that they are unhappy or frustrated because they don't have enough time, money, or energy. They'd have it if they didn't waste it. And having more of it will just actually make them more miserable and frustrated and resentful and anxious and paralyzed and spiritually caged and unfree. For unhappy people (i.e. those lacking inner peace, the adage "more money more problems" applies, and it applies not only to money buy also to time, energy, and power.
Here is my HUGE TIP for overcoming decision paralysis:
If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.
Do you want four quarters or ten dimes?
If the value of the two options is that close, that you cannot even tell which one slightly out values the other, then it doesn't really matter.
That's why some people literally will just flip a coin in such a situation. But you don't need an actual coin because you can just flip a proverbial mental coin. Just choose something and stick with it. Don't spend your valuable limited time, money, and mental energy and things that don't really matter. Most decisions don't matter, and it's precisely the fact that most people think they do that causes those people so much misery and frustration. I can be so decisive because I don't really care. A or B? I don't really care. I'm happy to delegate to you to choose because I don't care, but I can also quickly and decisively flip a mental coin in my head and choose without wasting any mental energy because I don't care. I'm saving my mental energy for things that matter, and those are usually strategies rather than decisions. I use my mental energy on the how, not the what. For most people (namely due to decision paralysis), hows are a lot easier than whats, but more importantly--for all of us--energy spent on hows tends to be much more productive than energy wasted on deciding between two or more roughly equal whats.
In that kind of situation, as long as you choose quick, stick with it, and move on, then you have basically nothing to lose because the two options were so roughly equal.
But every bit of time or energy you waste on the DECISION PARALYSIS is wasted, and you have practically infinite potential losses there.
In that scenario, all that really matters is how well you avoid DECISION PARALYSIS and how quickly you overcome it if you fall into it.
There is a reason in my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All, I included the quote from my favorite artist Vincent Van Gogh in which he wrote about he called "the paralyzing stare of a blank canvas".
Here is what Van Gogh said to do in such a situation: "Just slap something on it when you see a blank canvas staring at you."
That is the nature of spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline): When any answer is right, the only wrong answer is no answer.
Here is my HUGE TIP for overcoming decision paralysis: If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.
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In addition to having authored his book, In It Together, Eckhart Aurelius Hughes (a.k.a. Scott) runs a mentoring program, with a free option, that guarantees success. Success is guaranteed for anyone who follows the program.
There is something that makes me incredibly powerful when it comes to business but also in terms of self-discipline in general that would serve me greatly even if I was the only human on Earth or living alone on a desert island. That thing is this nearly paradoxical quality of both (1) being very easy going, practicing acceptance, and being eagerly willing to delegate and let chips fall where they fall, AND (2) being decisive and providing leadership when it's called for, or (as often happens) explicitly asked for. This two things seem like opposites, but they actually go hand-in-hand and represent two aspects of the same one thing, and you will understand that if you accept the huge tip I'll give you below.
People value someone who can do #2 precisely because so many struggle with it. Many people experience what I like to call DECISION PARALYSIS. They are like the proverbial donkey who cannot decide between two symmetrical piles of hay and thus starves to death. This is why the donkey will love you if you and #2 because you can tell him which pile of hay to eat and thereby save his life. I say this with love and a friendly smile: Most people are like that donkey.
Do you get divorced or continue spending money on couple's counseling? Do you take that new job offer or stick with the tried and true career you have? Do you sell your house or refinance your mortgage and commit to staying? What restaurant do you want to eat at tonight? Do you want pizza or burgers?
Here is one example of many that illustrate why money doesn't buy happiness and why most people (i.e. unhappy people) chase money and happiness away, and it's quite ironic: It's the people with the most food stocked up at home, or the most money to spend at numerous nearby restaurants, who tend to waste the most time and energy on questions like, "What are we going to eat tonight?" They waste whatever time, money, and energy they get on self-frustrating things like decision paralysis and then later complain that they are unhappy or frustrated because they don't have enough time, money, or energy. They'd have it if they didn't waste it. And having more of it will just actually make them more miserable and frustrated and resentful and anxious and paralyzed and spiritually caged and unfree. For unhappy people (i.e. those lacking inner peace, the adage "more money more problems" applies, and it applies not only to money buy also to time, energy, and power.
Here is my HUGE TIP for overcoming decision paralysis:
If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.
Do you want four quarters or ten dimes?
If the value of the two options is that close, that you cannot even tell which one slightly out values the other, then it doesn't really matter.
That's why some people literally will just flip a coin in such a situation. But you don't need an actual coin because you can just flip a proverbial mental coin. Just choose something and stick with it. Don't spend your valuable limited time, money, and mental energy and things that don't really matter. Most decisions don't matter, and it's precisely the fact that most people think they do that causes those people so much misery and frustration. I can be so decisive because I don't really care. A or B? I don't really care. I'm happy to delegate to you to choose because I don't care, but I can also quickly and decisively flip a mental coin in my head and choose without wasting any mental energy because I don't care. I'm saving my mental energy for things that matter, and those are usually strategies rather than decisions. I use my mental energy on the how, not the what. For most people (namely due to decision paralysis), hows are a lot easier than whats, but more importantly--for all of us--energy spent on hows tends to be much more productive than energy wasted on deciding between two or more roughly equal whats.
In that kind of situation, as long as you choose quick, stick with it, and move on, then you have basically nothing to lose because the two options were so roughly equal.
But every bit of time or energy you waste on the DECISION PARALYSIS is wasted, and you have practically infinite potential losses there.
In that scenario, all that really matters is how well you avoid DECISION PARALYSIS and how quickly you overcome it if you fall into it.
There is a reason in my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All, I included the quote from my favorite artist Vincent Van Gogh in which he wrote about he called "the paralyzing stare of a blank canvas".
Here is what Van Gogh said to do in such a situation: "Just slap something on it when you see a blank canvas staring at you."
That is the nature of spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline): When any answer is right, the only wrong answer is no answer.
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In addition to having authored his book, In It Together, Eckhart Aurelius Hughes (a.k.a. Scott) runs a mentoring program, with a free option, that guarantees success. Success is guaranteed for anyone who follows the program.
My entire political philosophy summed up in one tweet.
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master."
I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master."
I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.
Favorite Philosopher: Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
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