Trying, failure, underachievement, and should-not-have-ness are imaginary phantoms that cause you real misery.

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Trying, failure, underachievement, and should-not-have-ness are imaginary phantoms that cause you real misery.

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Trying is lying, failure is an illusion, and success is a choice.

The adulter isn't a spouse trying to be faithful who fails, but rather someone who succeeds at cheating. The drinking alcoholic doesn't fail to be sober, even if his stated goal is to be sober, but rather he is successful at drinking.

Everyone and everything is a success. They aren't failing to be something or failing to be anything; they are what they are, and they are succeeding at being themselves. Bees don't fail to be trees, and trees don't fail to be bees. They are succeeding at being what they are and doing what they do.

However, as I wrote in my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Stuggle Uniting Us All, an imaginary roadblock is generally as effective as a real one. An unreal hellish self-created nightmare of your own imagination tortures you just the same as a real one.

The seemingly outer world is like a house of mirrors, especially when you realize everything you see is just at best a VR space that's made up by a tiny brain in a dark quiet skull, and what you see in the mirror is an avatar in a dream world rather than anything physical or precisely real. The seemingly outer world is really almost entirely--if not entirely--your own projections. It's the imaginary stuff you project onto the much simpler canvas of reality.

Things like failure, underachievement, and should-not-have-ness (a.k.a. "evil) are imaginary phantoms that cause you real misery. That is, at least insofar as you believe in them.

For the most part, the difference between success, choice, and meaningful reasonable want is all an illusion. They are three difference phrases for the same one thing, which can by go by many other names such as willpower or free-spirited creativity or spiritual creation. To point out that success is a choice, is less to say that you can choose success, but rather to say that it's a paradox to choose failure, and that failure is an illusion, trying is lying, and when it comes to your choices, you always get exactly what you want, meaning what you choose. The difference between (1) wanting to choose and (2) choosing is a misery-inducing illusion. The difference between choosing to be or do X and succeeding at being or doing X is an illusion. You are always successful when it comes to your choices because you are omnipotent over your choices, which is really to say that the difference between success and choice is an illusion. It's in that imaginary gap where you find the imaginary phantoms like 'trying' and 'should' and 'failure' and 'underachieving' and 'immoral' and 'violation of moral, universal, or spiritual law'. But universal laws cannot really be violated. The universe doesn't miscalculate. Reality is right. Always. When it comes to reality, wrongness is an illusion--a fiction--by definition. Any wrongness you see is all in your imagination. It's always a projection, and never an accurate perception.

Reality becomes clearer to see when you firmly and stubbornly practice the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting that which you cannot control.

Only worry about what you can control, and then you have no worries.

Only focus on (i.e. see as mattering) that which you control, and then you control all that matters.

Then, the rest--meaning that which you know you cannot change nor control--is fully and unconditionally accepted and appreciated exactly as it is, with no dishonest denial or self-deception or misery-inducing projection. It's accepted with an appreciative acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants being called love.

Then, once you let go of all the imaginary phantoms and projections and self-created imaginary hellishness with its real torture, everything is acceptable and lovable.

It's either lovingly accepted (1) as that which you do not control, or (2) lovingly accepted as being exactly the way you are choosing for it to be.

Then, with the misery-inducing imaginary projected phantoms wiped away, you can easily see that everything is a success. Nobody and nothing is failing to be itself. Nobody and nothing is underachieving. Everyone and everything is a success. Everyone and everything is worthy of unconditional love and acceptance.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott



Should-not-have-ness (a.k.a. "evil") does not exist.
Should-not-have-ness (a.k.a. "evil") does not exist.

Reality as a timeless unchanging 4D whole is perfect. Not a single spec is out of place. The universe doesn't miscalculate. Reality is right.
Reality as a timeless unchanging 4D whole is perfect. Not a single spec is out of place. The universe doesn't miscalculate. Reality is right.


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Re: Trying, failure, underachievement, and should-not-have-ness are imaginary phantoms that cause you real misery.

Post by Surabhi Rani »

I resonate with the following words in this post - The difference between success, choice, and meaningful reasonable want is an illusion. These different words can go by many other names such as will-power or free-spirited creativity. Universal laws cannot be violated. Reality is always right. Any wrongness we see is a 'fiction' and not an accurate perception.
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Post by Sushan »

Redefining 'failure' and 'success' through your lens offers a liberating shift in mindset. Recognizing our control over choices rather than outcomes highlights that we're always succeeding in being ourselves. Embracing life with acceptance and love transforms our approach to challenges and achievements, reminding us that true success is found in self-compassion and understanding our journey. A powerful reminder to focus on what we control and find peace in every outcome.
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These apparitions take the form of genuine catalysts, provoking tangible emotional upheavals and leaving an indelible mark on the fabric of your well-being, persisting and resonating through the tapestry of your life experience.
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Post by Princewill Uchenna »

I never saw this in this light but your example of a cheating makes me agree with you. You can’t fail if you are not trying. Nothing ever happens by chance. If you are cheating then it is planned stop using the excuse you failed at trying to be a responsible partner
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Post by Chidinma Dijeh »

This is another valuable takeaway. Accepting things as they are, without constant struggle, can be a path to inner peace. The book might elaborate on how to cultivate acceptance in different situations.
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