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You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Karpel Tunnel » September 21st, 2018, 4:30 pm

You CAN tell the difference between their act of affection and love, because otherwise you would stop paying them. But you know, directly, that they do not love you, they love your money.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Greta » September 21st, 2018, 7:50 pm

That's odd. He must have been seeking justification for enticing women to debase themselves in terms of usual social perceptions. Basically an innocence eater.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by LuckyR » October 12th, 2018, 11:59 am

Haicoway wrote:
September 18th, 2018, 8:30 am
Webster’s library dictionary has nearly a page of definitions and connotations of the word "love." The highest form of it for me was what I felt for my wife of 51 married years. We elevated the definition of our love for each other to what we called a spiritual union, transcending normal love. But love in general is like pornography, you know it when you see it – or feel it.

My wife died of cancer leaving my ego feeling like Swiss cheese. We had merged our egos into one, now it is shattered. She left me a millionaire with no children or family. I promised her as she lay dying that I would never acquire another significant other, or even a girlfriend. So I started paying women I found to be attractive tens of thousands of dollars to spend time with me, since I have biological imperatives for female companionship. Paid companions are not exactly girlfriends, so I feel I am keeping my promise. My payouts will soon run into hundreds of thousands of dollars for individual women. I “hired” very high quality women: TV actresses, PhD's from Ivy League schools, models, dancers, and women with other formidable talents, all of whom are young and beautiful.

They love me. Or if they don’t, I can’t distinguish how they treat me from love. So part of my point in posting this is to declare that I categorically refute the old maxim that you can’t buy love. You certainly can.

DISCLAIMER: You can’t act like a jerk. Women generally won’t tolerate jerks even if they are filthy rich. I know because several women I hired have talked to me about rejecting jerks who tried to buy them.
You are familiar with the phenomenon of fake orgasm, right?
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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Haicoway » October 12th, 2018, 2:25 pm

Unless a person is a spiritualist, with education he or she will understand that love is a function of a collection of neurochemicals. These chemicals can be released by luxurious stays in fancy hotels, super cool expensive cars, $1,500 dinners, $1,000 bottles of wine, $10,000 bonuses for no particular reason, and manicured hands.

Conversely, love can be dampened by guys who don’t make enough money, and stress instead of love chemicals get released.

I don’t know what faked orgasms have to do with love. I think they are more a function of sophistication. Unsophisticated women tend to fake them, while classier women realize that their equivalent men know that sometimes you’re hot and sometimes you’re not, and don’t fake it when they’re not.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by LuckyR » October 14th, 2018, 5:14 am

Haicoway wrote:
October 12th, 2018, 2:25 pm
Unless a person is a spiritualist, with education he or she will understand that love is a function of a collection of neurochemicals. These chemicals can be released by luxurious stays in fancy hotels, super cool expensive cars, $1,500 dinners, $1,000 bottles of wine, $10,000 bonuses for no particular reason, and manicured hands.

Conversely, love can be dampened by guys who don’t make enough money, and stress instead of love chemicals get released.

I don’t know what faked orgasms have to do with love. I think they are more a function of sophistication. Unsophisticated women tend to fake them, while classier women realize that their equivalent men know that sometimes you’re hot and sometimes you’re not, and don’t fake it when they’re not.
I apologize for confusing you. I was trying to draw an analogy between the reality that rubes commonly believe women are having orgasms (implying that the sex is good) when they really aren't, just as you are believing that individuals are in love with you, when they are likely not.
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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Steve3007 » October 14th, 2018, 6:24 am

I think the most I've ever spent on a bottle of wine (at least from the supermarket) is probably about £15 (about US$20). So I don't think I could ever drink a $1000 bottle of wine, because, logically, it would be 50 times as nice. And that level of niceness might give me brain damage.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Haicoway » October 14th, 2018, 6:27 am

Lucky, you didn’t respond to the cogent point I thought I made. Love can be defined spiritually (which is metaphysical and not amenable to reason), or scientifically, which defines it as a function of brain chemicals. I can easily release those brain chemicals in my sugar babies.

Most people who marry correspond to traditional ideas of love, yet half of them break up later, which lends credence to the scientific definition of love, which relates it to brain chemicals, such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine. Those chemicals have relatively short have half lives. Over time, if two people are especially compatible, relationships can pick up longer lasting chemicals, such as oxytocin and vasopressin, which can bring long-term satisfaction as opposed to shorter term excitement.

You speak about love loosely, and your words don't seem like you are thinking scientifically, i.e., chemically. You speak as if love were non-material, and spiritually meaningful. However I suspect you are just being lazy and that you are not unintelligent.

The love I get is the most scientifically accepted type, defined as the presence of love chemicals in the brain, and has credence because I can control it and make it last as long as I throw enough money at it.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Steve3007 » October 14th, 2018, 6:31 am

Haicoway, I give £25 (about £32) per month to fund the education of a little kid in Zambia. Because that's just the kind of caring, charitable 20 year old woman that I am. If I agree to shag you, will you give one of these "£10000 bonuses" to such a cause? It would pay for 26 person-years of education. Have a think about it.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Steve3007 » October 14th, 2018, 6:32 am

Sorry, that should have been $32.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Haicoway » October 14th, 2018, 6:40 am

If you are serious, probably, if you are even reasonably attractive. I spend that kind of money in a day.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Steve3007 » October 14th, 2018, 6:42 am

In a day? Wow. That's pretty damn impressive.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Haicoway » October 14th, 2018, 6:44 am

I should have added, Steve, that you having said that is very attractive by itself. Not something a boring conventional person would have come up with.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Haicoway » October 14th, 2018, 6:46 am

I pay my primary sugar baby $2,000 a day when she is with me.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Greta » October 14th, 2018, 4:18 pm

Your sugar baby must is a very high class whore to demand that kind of coin be wasted on her.

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Re: You Can't Buy Love...Wrong

Post by Jklint » October 14th, 2018, 5:00 pm

Haicoway wrote:
October 14th, 2018, 6:46 am
I pay my primary sugar baby $2,000 a day when she is with me.
That's a hell of a lot to pay for a simple hormone request.

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