You Can't Buy Love...Wrong
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You are familiar with the phenomenon of fake orgasm, right?Haicoway wrote: ↑September 18th, 2018, 8:30 am Webster’s library dictionary has nearly a page of definitions and connotations of the word "love." The highest form of it for me was what I felt for my wife of 51 married years. We elevated the definition of our love for each other to what we called a spiritual union, transcending normal love. But love in general is like pornography, you know it when you see it – or feel it.
My wife died of cancer leaving my ego feeling like Swiss cheese. We had merged our egos into one, now it is shattered. She left me a millionaire with no children or family. I promised her as she lay dying that I would never acquire another significant other, or even a girlfriend. So I started paying women I found to be attractive tens of thousands of dollars to spend time with me, since I have biological imperatives for female companionship. Paid companions are not exactly girlfriends, so I feel I am keeping my promise. My payouts will soon run into hundreds of thousands of dollars for individual women. I “hired” very high quality women: TV actresses, PhD's from Ivy League schools, models, dancers, and women with other formidable talents, all of whom are young and beautiful.
They love me. Or if they don’t, I can’t distinguish how they treat me from love. So part of my point in posting this is to declare that I categorically refute the old maxim that you can’t buy love. You certainly can.
DISCLAIMER: You can’t act like a jerk. Women generally won’t tolerate jerks even if they are filthy rich. I know because several women I hired have talked to me about rejecting jerks who tried to buy them.
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Conversely, love can be dampened by guys who don’t make enough money, and stress instead of love chemicals get released.
I don’t know what faked orgasms have to do with love. I think they are more a function of sophistication. Unsophisticated women tend to fake them, while classier women realize that their equivalent men know that sometimes you’re hot and sometimes you’re not, and don’t fake it when they’re not.
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I apologize for confusing you. I was trying to draw an analogy between the reality that rubes commonly believe women are having orgasms (implying that the sex is good) when they really aren't, just as you are believing that individuals are in love with you, when they are likely not.Haicoway wrote: ↑October 12th, 2018, 2:25 pm Unless a person is a spiritualist, with education he or she will understand that love is a function of a collection of neurochemicals. These chemicals can be released by luxurious stays in fancy hotels, super cool expensive cars, $1,500 dinners, $1,000 bottles of wine, $10,000 bonuses for no particular reason, and manicured hands.
Conversely, love can be dampened by guys who don’t make enough money, and stress instead of love chemicals get released.
I don’t know what faked orgasms have to do with love. I think they are more a function of sophistication. Unsophisticated women tend to fake them, while classier women realize that their equivalent men know that sometimes you’re hot and sometimes you’re not, and don’t fake it when they’re not.
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Most people who marry correspond to traditional ideas of love, yet half of them break up later, which lends credence to the scientific definition of love, which relates it to brain chemicals, such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine. Those chemicals have relatively short have half lives. Over time, if two people are especially compatible, relationships can pick up longer lasting chemicals, such as oxytocin and vasopressin, which can bring long-term satisfaction as opposed to shorter term excitement.
You speak about love loosely, and your words don't seem like you are thinking scientifically, i.e., chemically. You speak as if love were non-material, and spiritually meaningful. However I suspect you are just being lazy and that you are not unintelligent.
The love I get is the most scientifically accepted type, defined as the presence of love chemicals in the brain, and has credence because I can control it and make it last as long as I throw enough money at it.
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