Assuming your case, what has that got to do with the titled question?
Should children be allowed to choose their own paths alone?
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No; people generally don’t have enough empathy to know what their child should have when they are young. For instance, some parents want their children to become engineers or scientists but cannot see with their selfish perception that the child loves music. They should still guide them away from immoral jobs. But what a parent can do is teach a child what they need for various careers and lives, like hard work and kindness. They can also give children a wide range of opportunities, like piano lessons as well as STEM camps.Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2022, 10:25 am This topic is about the May 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, The Maestro Monologue: Discover your Genius, Defeat your intruder, Design your destiny by Rob White
. (Location 126 - Kindle version)All children intuitively know they are overflowing with talent and oozing with potential, and they fully intend to express it. However, things happened, and they forget all about it
Children are born with various talents and abilities. Almost all parents are proud of their kids when they are young. But when time goes on and those children become adults that potential which was seen when they were young becomes less. And also the parents become worrying about the future of their children, and try to guide them along various paths. And the conflicts begin!!
What might be the reason for this drastic change? Why children loose the potential that they show initially? Is it because the parents try to guide them? Or is it because of some other reason? Should children be allowed to choose their own path alone? Or should parents intervene into their choices?
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The OP gushed about the talents that the young supposedly possess. Firstly, children don't have talent, they have potential talent and secondly even if they have talent, motivation is better than talent.
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Just curious about your position. Should parents choose for children with potential or none?LuckyR wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 2:44 amThe OP gushed about the talents that the young supposedly possess. Firstly, children don't have talent, they have potential talent and secondly even if they have talent, motivation is better than talent.
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Vita wrote: ↑May 21st, 2022, 9:09 amWell said, Vita. As I have mentioned earlier, what children need is guidance appropriate to the circumstance. To choose for them is tyranny, which may result in tragedy to ruin life. The only justification is when they are too young to choose, when they are babies. soon enough, they should be encouraged to be independent, both physically and mentally, the sooner the better.Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2022, 10:25 amNo; people generally don’t have enough empathy to know what their child should have when they are young. For instance, some parents want their children to become engineers or scientists but cannot see with their selfish perception that the child loves music. They should still guide them away from immoral jobs. But what a parent can do is teach a child what they need for various careers and lives, like hard work and kindness. They can also give children a wide range of opportunities, like piano lessons as well as STEM camps.All children intuitively know they are overflowing with talent and oozing with potential.
Why children loose the potential that they show initially? Is it because the parents try to guide them? Should children be allowed to choose their own path alone? Or should parents intervene into their choices?
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We can have hopes, but we may be wrong. We may develop a liking towards a field which we do not have a potential at all to become successful. But if we fail, then we can be doomed because in life there are no second chances. Prior to this risky approach is the correct time to parental intervention. I am not saying parents are always correct, and sometimes they may have the selfish idea to fulfill their own dreams through their children. Keeping that aside, I think they are quite experienced and they can have a hunch about the true potential of their kids. So their guidance can be quite correct and leading to success. But the children should have a say in the final decision because after all it is the life of that kid, but not his/her parents'.gad-fly wrote: ↑May 17th, 2022, 11:18 amPotentials are many, but attainments few. Some last a lifetime; some vanish with time. I can see your point about potentials being useless unless realized. The problem is that you can never know in advance. Treat potential like hope, which keeps us alive, kicking, and vibrant. "We cannot wait?" We must wait while we attempt to realize. No paradise NOW.Sushan wrote: ↑May 17th, 2022, 9:38 am
Well, let's say that the potential lasts for a lifetime. But what is the use of such an existence if the expected results are not fulfilled? Life is short and the time for achievements is limited. So we cannot wait expecting a child (or a young fellow) to show his/her full potential someday and achieve what he/she should have naturally achieved.
We are away from the subject matter of parental choice. I suggest it more appropriate on "parental guidance". If so, I would be brief: Yes and No. If on parental choice, my answer is : No, because it can be tragic. It can destroy a life.
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Think about people who wish to have a beautiful or a handsome face than they currently have. Think about those who wish to excel in what they do, but still cannot. In such cases, they have proposed, but their genes have disposed. So your genes have a say in what you may or may not achieve by going in a certain path. We cannot change our inheritance. Otherwise the neonatal cancers would have already been cured.
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Motivation is quite necessary to bring out one's potential. Lack of motivation and proper guidance end up the bright young kids as failed and unsuccessful adults. So, yes, motivation is a key necessity i achieving your goals. But I have seen people who have studied hours a day, yet failed their exams. They try and try again and again, bit they fail again and again. In such scenarios what is lacking is the potential. Maybe they are having a potential in some other area, but they lack the guidance to choose wisely.LuckyR wrote: ↑May 18th, 2022, 3:05 amThe reality is that most potential is ultimately unrealized, and thus wasted. Those with unrealized potential might as well not have had the potential, for all the good they (didn't) get out of it.Sushan wrote: ↑May 17th, 2022, 9:54 amI can partially agree with you. Yes, the required hard work is not so fun and only a little number is courageous enough to carry on with it. So the top part of social the pyramid is tiny.LuckyR wrote: ↑May 4th, 2022, 2:23 amChildren don't have talents and abilities, they have potential talents and abilities. The big change is when it comes time to put in the hard work to realize those potentials and we all discover that hard work isn't fun (for the vast majority), so who is going to put in the work? The answer is a small fraction of the total, thus why only a few occupy the pointy top of the pyramid. Which is the way it should be.Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2022, 10:25 am This topic is about the May 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, The Maestro Monologue: Discover your Genius, Defeat your intruder, Design your destiny by Rob White
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Children are born with various talents and abilities. Almost all parents are proud of their kids when they are young. But when time goes on and those children become adults that potential which was seen when they were young becomes less. And also the parents become worrying about the future of their children, and try to guide them along various paths. And the conflicts begin!!
What might be the reason for this drastic change? Why children loose the potential that they show initially? Is it because the parents try to guide them? Or is it because of some other reason? Should children be allowed to choose their own path alone? Or should parents intervene into their choices?
But what about the genetic potential some children carry? Parents with high IQ often have kids with high IQ. And some of them even show them since childhood, like amazing mathematical skills. I think children are actually born with a certain amount of talents and abilities, with the potential to learn further and achieve further.
In fact, a child who truly is not talented but puts in the work, will almost always come out ahead of the kid with potential but never works on it. I'll take motivated over talented every day of the week.
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It is ideal for a parent to teach their kids various talents, abilities, expose them to various opportunities, and let the kid to choose what he/she will become in the future. But in the practical scenario, we are in a race, and the time is limited. There is no enough time to go along many paths and choose the best for you. Lucky ones may get to see several paths, but many do not have that chance. So ultimately it is a leap of faith, and most often the faith is needed to be placed on parental guidance. Some parents are selfish, yes I agree, but many want the best for their children and we see that as selfishness.Vita wrote: ↑May 21st, 2022, 9:09 amNo; people generally don’t have enough empathy to know what their child should have when they are young. For instance, some parents want their children to become engineers or scientists but cannot see with their selfish perception that the child loves music. They should still guide them away from immoral jobs. But what a parent can do is teach a child what they need for various careers and lives, like hard work and kindness. They can also give children a wide range of opportunities, like piano lessons as well as STEM camps.Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2022, 10:25 am This topic is about the May 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, The Maestro Monologue: Discover your Genius, Defeat your intruder, Design your destiny by Rob White
. (Location 126 - Kindle version)All children intuitively know they are overflowing with talent and oozing with potential, and they fully intend to express it. However, things happened, and they forget all about it
Children are born with various talents and abilities. Almost all parents are proud of their kids when they are young. But when time goes on and those children become adults that potential which was seen when they were young becomes less. And also the parents become worrying about the future of their children, and try to guide them along various paths. And the conflicts begin!!
What might be the reason for this drastic change? Why children loose the potential that they show initially? Is it because the parents try to guide them? Or is it because of some other reason? Should children be allowed to choose their own path alone? Or should parents intervene into their choices?
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No second chance, eh. Ask Elon Musk, the richest person in the world, about Space X. No venture, no gain. Fail, fall down, rise up, and fail again. Such is life.Sushan wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 10:11 pm But if we fail, then we can be doomed because in life there are no second chances. Prior to this risky approach is the correct time to parental intervention . . . But the children should have a say in the final decision because after all it is the life of that kid, but not his/her parents'.
By potential intervention, do you imply guidance? If so, I suggest you be more direct, and to elaborate on what you mean by that. Is it intervention, full stop, or hidden underhanded intervention?
Children have a say in the final decision? Poor Kid. He should be informed in advance of the consequence in dissent from his position. Nevertheless, one in less than ten, I guess, would be lucky enough yo have open-minded parent like you.
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Well, in order to maximize talent, it needs to be worked on long before adulthood. Therefore, before the child has legal autonomy. Also, as I mentioned, in order to work, the kid has to be motivated. Best case scenario, the kid is self motivated (no need for the parent to provide the motivation). This is an uncommon situation, in most cases the parent has to provide some of the motivation.gad-fly wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 12:22 pmJust curious about your position. Should parents choose for children with potential or none?LuckyR wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 2:44 amThe OP gushed about the talents that the young supposedly possess. Firstly, children don't have talent, they have potential talent and secondly even if they have talent, motivation is better than talent.
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You are correct, there is more to the equation than raw talent and motivation (what's been discussed so far). The missing piece (assuming that there are no glaring physical deficiencies) is the quality of the "practice". That's where instruction comes in.Sushan wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 10:18 pmMotivation is quite necessary to bring out one's potential. Lack of motivation and proper guidance end up the bright young kids as failed and unsuccessful adults. So, yes, motivation is a key necessity i achieving your goals. But I have seen people who have studied hours a day, yet failed their exams. They try and try again and again, bit they fail again and again. In such scenarios what is lacking is the potential. Maybe they are having a potential in some other area, but they lack the guidance to choose wisely.LuckyR wrote: ↑May 18th, 2022, 3:05 amThe reality is that most potential is ultimately unrealized, and thus wasted. Those with unrealized potential might as well not have had the potential, for all the good they (didn't) get out of it.Sushan wrote: ↑May 17th, 2022, 9:54 amI can partially agree with you. Yes, the required hard work is not so fun and only a little number is courageous enough to carry on with it. So the top part of social the pyramid is tiny.LuckyR wrote: ↑May 4th, 2022, 2:23 am
Children don't have talents and abilities, they have potential talents and abilities. The big change is when it comes time to put in the hard work to realize those potentials and we all discover that hard work isn't fun (for the vast majority), so who is going to put in the work? The answer is a small fraction of the total, thus why only a few occupy the pointy top of the pyramid. Which is the way it should be.
But what about the genetic potential some children carry? Parents with high IQ often have kids with high IQ. And some of them even show them since childhood, like amazing mathematical skills. I think children are actually born with a certain amount of talents and abilities, with the potential to learn further and achieve further.
In fact, a child who truly is not talented but puts in the work, will almost always come out ahead of the kid with potential but never works on it. I'll take motivated over talented every day of the week.
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LuckyR wrote: ↑May 24th, 2022, 3:30 amSushan wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 10:18 pmLuckyR wrote: ↑May 18th, 2022, 3:05 amMotivation against potential talent is another issue. One serious and inevitable pitfall in discussion is to lead astray to something unrelated/separate, despite what has been clearly stated in the title. Yes or No to a question (or Yes and No, don't know, and won't tell) is required response, followed by elaboration if necessary.
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Can you give an example of a parent unselfishly choosing their child’s path?Sushan wrote: ↑May 22nd, 2022, 10:22 pmIt is ideal for a parent to teach their kids various talents, abilities, expose them to various opportunities, and let the kid to choose what he/she will become in the future. But in the practical scenario, we are in a race, and the time is limited. There is no enough time to go along many paths and choose the best for you. Lucky ones may get to see several paths, but many do not have that chance. So ultimately it is a leap of faith, and most often the faith is needed to be placed on parental guidance. Some parents are selfish, yes I agree, but many want the best for their children and we see that as selfishness.Vita wrote: ↑May 21st, 2022, 9:09 amNo; people generally don’t have enough empathy to know what their child should have when they are young. For instance, some parents want their children to become engineers or scientists but cannot see with their selfish perception that the child loves music. They should still guide them away from immoral jobs. But what a parent can do is teach a child what they need for various careers and lives, like hard work and kindness. They can also give children a wide range of opportunities, like piano lessons as well as STEM camps.Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2022, 10:25 am This topic is about the May 2022 Philosophy Book of the Month, The Maestro Monologue: Discover your Genius, Defeat your intruder, Design your destiny by Rob White
. (Location 126 - Kindle version)All children intuitively know they are overflowing with talent and oozing with potential, and they fully intend to express it. However, things happened, and they forget all about it
Children are born with various talents and abilities. Almost all parents are proud of their kids when they are young. But when time goes on and those children become adults that potential which was seen when they were young becomes less. And also the parents become worrying about the future of their children, and try to guide them along various paths. And the conflicts begin!!
What might be the reason for this drastic change? Why children loose the potential that they show initially? Is it because the parents try to guide them? Or is it because of some other reason? Should children be allowed to choose their own path alone? Or should parents intervene into their choices?
I understand that many kids do not get any opportunities, but parents can at least expose their kids to ideas (listening to music, building blocks, etc.). And even if parents cannot give their kids opportunities like this, there is no reason to prod a child so far along a path they hate that they cannot leave. If a parent must choose a path for their kid, they could at least make an informed decision rather than a leap of faith.
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I say this as an 83 year old "child" with three married daughters and 6 grand children (the youngest one coming up to his 1st birthday).
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