Medicate discontent
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My significant other and I recently discussed this topic and he made a valid point that maintenance is not self-care. Like you said, one spa day isn't going to fix anything. To improve physical aspects of life, it's crucial to be emotionally stable and content with life, so that the spa day can truly be relaxing and beneficial. If one is emotionally unstable, spending time and money at the spa is merely a waste.
Unfortunately, it seems like many people fall into this trap, especially when it comes to New Year's resolutions, like losing weight or accomplishing a big goal. Often, they don't realize addressing the root mental issue that has previously held them back is key to achieving a sustainable and happy outcome. At the end of the day, to me it is important to find contentment in life so you can handle the good and the bad without being overwhelmed in order to avoid medicating discontent.
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Awareness is certainly the first step to changing the behaviours you see as self destructive. For example, I recently identified my drinking daily (even in moderate amounts) was becoming a self destructive habit. I need to address anxiety first, so that the calming drink isn't felt necessary. Good luck on your journey.dozual wrote: ↑February 4th, 2023, 1:12 pm The Chapter "Temporal Unity of Selves: Loving yourself over time", has touched on several points that if we all abide by would definitely make my world a better place. Self enduced sicknesses caused my not eating a proper diet could lead to me passing away due to a disease that i could of avoided by eating less pizza and more fruits. What root cause do i need to heal to stop the self destructive behavior? Self love is not just comprised of booking a spa day, but also includes any emotional poison i may be housing that leads to the discontent I self medicate with trash. Selah
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Self-love connects to a broader aspect of my life. For example, I don't drink soft drinks because I took good care of health. I don't gossip because it's just stresses me more. I don't indulge in social medias because I feel less with other people, that way I considered it self-love.dozual wrote: ↑February 4th, 2023, 1:12 pm The Chapter "Temporal Unity of Selves: Loving yourself over time", has touched on several points that if we all abide by would definitely make my world a better place. Self enduced sicknesses caused my not eating a proper diet could lead to me passing away due to a disease that i could of avoided by eating less pizza and more fruits. What root cause do i need to heal to stop the self destructive behavior? Self love is not just comprised of booking a spa day, but also includes any emotional poison i may be housing that leads to the discontent I self medicate with trash. Selah
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Your reflection on the chapter "Temporal Unity of Selves: Loving yourself over time" delves into profound realms of self-care, self-love, and the consequences of our choices on our health and well-being. It's insightful to recognize that self-destructive behaviors, such as not maintaining a proper diet, are not merely habits but may stem from deeper, unaddressed emotional needs or wounds.dozual wrote: ↑February 4th, 2023, 1:12 pm The Chapter "Temporal Unity of Selves: Loving yourself over time", has touched on several points that if we all abide by would definitely make my world a better place. Self enduced sicknesses caused my not eating a proper diet could lead to me passing away due to a disease that i could of avoided by eating less pizza and more fruits. What root cause do i need to heal to stop the self destructive behavior? Self love is not just comprised of booking a spa day, but also includes any emotional poison i may be housing that leads to the discontent I self medicate with trash. Selah
Philosophically, the concept of self-love you're discussing transcends the superficial and confronts the essence of our being. It suggests that true self-love involves a comprehensive understanding and acceptance of oneself, including recognizing and addressing the emotional poisons that lead to detrimental choices. This form of self-love demands an introspective journey to uncover and heal the underlying causes of discontent that we might be numbing with transient pleasures or neglect.
Psychologically, self-destructive behaviors can be seen as maladaptive coping mechanisms to underlying stress, trauma, or unresolved emotional conflicts. The path to healing often involves identifying these underlying issues and addressing them directly, which may require professional support, such as therapy or counseling. It's about creating a nurturing internal environment that supports making healthier choices, fostering a sense of self-worth, and developing coping strategies that align with long-term well-being.
Logically, the process of healing and fostering true self-love involves a series of steps: awareness of the problem, understanding the root causes, seeking help if needed, and gradually implementing changes that promote health and happiness. It's a journey that requires patience, compassion, and persistence.
The mention of "emotional poison" is particularly striking, suggesting that our emotional state can toxify our existence, leading to behaviors that harm rather than nurture. Healing from this poison requires a conscious effort to detoxify our emotional lives, possibly by confronting painful emotions, forgiving ourselves and others, and replacing negative thought patterns with positive affirmations and actions.
This pause to reflect is crucial. It's in these moments of reflection that we can truly listen to ourselves, understand our needs, and commit to actions that reflect self-love and respect for our temporal unity. How do we begin to untangle the web of emotions and behaviors that lead us away from this ideal? And how can we support each other in this journey towards healing and self-acceptance?
– William James
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