Hi, Shally Z
Thank you so much for your question!
Shally Z wrote: ↑October 21st, 2023, 5:17 pm
how did you know that starting OBC and writing a book was your calling (or ideal job)?
While doing what I was doing, I knew it was my calling at that time because I was doing it. As my book
teaches, nothing happens that shouldn't happen. As my book teaches, "You don’t find the right answer; you create it. Whatever you choose to do becomes right—becomes true, becomes real, becomes part of reality, becomes revealed as seemingly fated all along
—because you choose it." (Page 153)
If I was being truly called to do something else, then I would simply do that something else, meaning I would simply do what I was being called to do.
However, I would suggest avoiding using the word 'calling' in this sense because it sort of makes it so one is (falsely) identifying with the ego instead of the spirit, meaning your true self. In reality, the one doing the calling is the spirit, meaning what my book refers to as the real you
. It's not really a 'calling' so much as a 'doing' or, in other words, a true wanting/choosing. The calling (a.k.a. wanting/doing/choosing) is coming from the spirit, meaning the real you
. It's non-verbal calling/activity, and you--the real you
--are the one doing it. In the lingo of my book, you would be the the one calling rather than the one hearing the calling. Granted, if one hasn't achieved spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline), meaning one is still like a spiritual slave, like a prisoner in their own body, then indeed it might be something like an impotent calling from deep down in the hellish pits of such a cage. But when you realize and fully put into practice your spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline), then the difference between the calling and the doing dissolves. Hence the invincible true happiness (a.k.a. inner peace) that comes with that: You never feel like you are not fulfilling your calling.
Here are some relevant quotes from my book
about this topic:
In It Together (Page 32) wrote:You do not have a spirit. You are a spirit. You have a body."
In It Together (Page 152) wrote:Insofar as you do have the power of choice, it can feel overwhelming due to the open-ended freedom that comes with that—with there being multiple different equally right answers, answers essentially to the question, what will you do?
Your answer to that question is inherently true, inherently correct, and inherently right because it is your answer.
It can be a false comfort to falsely imagine the open-ended blank canvas of a question with infinite correct answers as instead being the nonsensical question of, ‘what should I do?’ as if the right answer was already chosen and you just need to find and obey the chooser’s commandment, as if it was a paint-by-the-numbers situation of rule-following instead of a blank canvas of infinite opportunities calling for free-spirited creativity.
In It Together (Page 117) wrote:
To be truly inspired is to be inspired by true happiness now, not for alleged happiness in the future. To be truly inspired is to act not as a means to an end, but to let you and your actions—meaning the real you and its actions—be ends in themselves. Such actions thus tend to inherently have an artisticness to them, demonstrating free-spirited inspired creativity.
In It Together (Page 119) wrote:
The spirit—the real you—is... the source of inspired free-spirited creativity, of effortless action, of doing without trying, of being motivated and driven by contentment in the here and now rather than by discontentment or by addiction to comfort. This beautiful source of inner peace and free-spirited inspiration is also in other words the source of the third path that is not between but rather transcends both laziness and restlessness. It is the third path that neither entails blindly obeying fear nor entails blindly doing the opposite of fear, but rather that transcends that one dimension of fear entirely and is called bravery. It is the third path that is not merely between but rather transcends over-indulgence versus excessive asceticism. It is the third path that transcends duality and leads to the underlying unity that unites all into a singular perfect harmony. It is you. When this book speaks of freedom of spirit, that which is liberated, that all-loving inspiring force that is liberated, is you, the real you.
To suggest to you to behave in a free-spirited way is the same as to suggest to you to behave as yourself, your true self. The words “be free-spirited” and “be yourself ” mean the same thing.
How does my human mind and ego know that I--the real me--am calling it to do what it is doing now? It knows it because it is doing it, with spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline). In other words, I know it simply because I am being myself, rather than being some kind of spiritual slave or spiritual prisoner. I know it because I can easily tell and feel whether my mind is my master or my servant.
It's like asking an artist how they know as they make the brush stroke on the canvass whether they are a sell out or a true inspired artist acting of free-spirited creativity.
It's perhaps the easiest thing to know of all. It's perhaps the thing of which we have the most intimate knowledge.
It's basically the inverse of the question, how do you know if you are an addict?
You know. You just know.
Shally Z wrote: ↑October 21st, 2023, 5:17 pm
I'm also curious how you started OBC and made it so successful.
Starting it was easy.
Starting a business is easy.
It's like starting a diet, starting a career as a professional weight-lifter, or starting to not smoke by saying "I hereby quit cigarettes".
It's sticking with it that separates the very few from the very many.
Very few humans demonstrate consistency, dedication, and the other symptoms of being in a cooperative loyal truly loving relationship with their selves over time, built on true love and teamwork.
As my book deeply explores, most humans are in a toxic if not flat-out abusive relationship with their selves over time, and such toxic and/or abusive relationships tend to by cyclical, hence why they are also often called "love-hate relationships" even though they are very far from being a true expression of true love. For them, life is like being on a miserable roller-coaster with huge ups and downs, but that just goes around and around. You could even call it an unmerry-go-round.
As long as one is on that unmerry-go-round, meaning trapped in that kind of cycle, one will not go anywhere. Such cycles entail feeling exhaust and feeling miserable and typically involving tons of hard work that gets you nowhere.
So the simple answer is: break the cycles
. Be a rebellious cycle-breaking free spirit. Escape the cycles by breaking the cycles.
From there, set a far-our long-term goal and stick to it, meaning keep walking in that line instead of going in circles.
One key is that I spent years working 80 hours per week at OnlineBookClub to make it into what it is. I had a vision and I just keep working towards it, like setting my sets on a specific mountain in the horizon and waking up every day and walking towards that and only towards that. If I hadn't done that, it surely would have gone out of business quickly like most new businesses do. But, even working 80 hours per week, even working smart and working very hard is counter-productive if you are stuck in a self-abusive cycle. Then you just walk in circles, instead of waking up every day and going in the same direction. It doesn't matter how fast and hard you run if you are running in circles. If you are running in circles, you'll still effectively go nowhere.
That is why reading my book
at least twice is so important for those kind of goals. My book is one of the few things out there that will truly teach you how to identify and break those cycles, all of them. They come in many forms.
As my book says, all humans are on the addiction spectrum.
Shally Z wrote: ↑October 21st, 2023, 5:17 pm
I find myself (and a lot of others I know) unsure about my careers and what I want to do for a living. Did you have any advice on how to figure out your dream job or starting your own business?
It depends what you mean.
One way to interpret the question is as this: "I am unhappy, meaning I don't have inner peace and don't feel the wonderful joy of invincible spiritual freedom. How can I figure out what career path will lead me to happiness? And, then, how do I go about getting and succeeding at that dream job so I can finally be consistently happy with wonderful consistent free-spirited inner peace like you are?"
If that's what you are asking, then the answer is you can't. I could quicker tell you how to fish in a desert. It can't happen. You'd be asking me how to do something that is inherently impossible and nonsensical. We can refer to certain externals (e.g. jobs, careers, houses, spouses or potential spouses) as a "dream job", "dream house", or "dream spouse", but getting those kind of external things never brings true happiness (a.k.a. inner peace) and insofar as one believes that one's happiness depends on such externals one will never be happy. That false belief is called the hedonic treadmill and it's a major premise in my book, discussed very early on. As my book teaches right at the beginning, fulfilling desires doesn't cause desire to eliminated; it only causes them to be replaced by new desires. Achieving goals doesn't cause you to not have unfulfilled goals and live in some goal-less state; it just causes your goals to be replaced by new goals. If you define happiness as having all your goals fulfilled and all your desires met, then you'll never be happy because you will always have unfulfilled goals and unmet desires.
A second way to interpret the question would be this: "I have read your book. I already follow all eleven of the suggestions at the end. I am so incredibly free-spirited (a.k.a. self-disciplined) as a result. In fact, I am so free-spirited (a.k.a. self-disciplined) that I get compliments and questions about it from friends, family, and acquaintances who want tips from me about how to achieve and have the level of incredible spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) that I have. Needless to say, based on all that, I am happy, truly happy, meaning day in and day out I enjoy the wonderful spiritual joy that is consistent free-spirited inner peace. You could say I've achieved enlightenment or nirvana. Life is like a literal heaven for me. Everyday I wake up and feel like I am in heaven. Now that I have this unwavering invincible consistent true happiness (a.k.a. inner peace), I wonder how to decide what to do with myself. Needless to say, I'll be happy no matter what job I have and what job I am doing, but nonetheless do you have any tips or advice for how to find or decide on a career path that best suits me?"
That's a question I can answer.
A great analogy for choosing a career path and/or a "dream career" is shopping for a new house or coming up with a imaginary "dream house" so to speak to set as a goal or benchmark for your house shopping.
In either case, my suggestion is to start with wild brainstorming: (1) write down all the different options you can think of, (2) write down all the things you'd like your dream house/job/career to have if given the choice.
Then, I'd suggest sorting all the items in #2 as much as reasonably possible based on how much each quality matters to you. In other words, order them into a list of priorities from your biggest priority to your lowest priority. For example, for a house maybe having a fireplace and a garage are both on the list, and for a career maybe making a certain amount of money and having a short commute are both on there. But you can weigh each of those individual things against each other to order them by priority. You can keep asking yourself, "all else the same, if I could have one but only one, would I rather have a house that has A or B?"
(In the case of job-searching, replace the word "house" with "job".)
From there, it becomes an easy mathematical calculation to determined which house/job from the available ones most meets your unique preferences and priorities.
I hope that advice is helpful!
Please do let me know if you have any follow-up questions about this or anything else at any time.
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes