To say I unconditionally forgive everyone and everything is an understatement. There is nothing to forgive.

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To say I unconditionally forgive everyone and everything is an understatement. There is nothing to forgive.

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To say I unconditionally forgive everyone and everything is true enough but also an understatement.

As my book, "In It Together", teaches, to fully let go of the imaginary hellish superstition of unacceptability is to also realize, "there is nothing to forgive".

In blunter but simpler words, to fully practice unconditional acceptance, is to realize, there is never anything to forgive.

There is no wrongness to fear, see, remember, or forget.

When I say to forgive but not forget, I am not saying to remember the wrongness, but rather to realize it was never there in the first place, and instead remember only the cold hard easily accepted and loved facts, not any illusions of resentment and judgementalism, and not any superstitious illusions like "they should have known better", "they did know better", or "it could have been different", all pure illogical nonsense. I'm not asking you to remember or forget those things, but to realize they never ever existed to be noticed, remembered, or forgotten. You don't need to forgive them for doing it despite knowing better because they didn't know better. You don't need to forgive it for not being different because it couldn't have been different.

When I say to observe without judgement or resentment or hate, I am not saying to fail to hate hate-worthy things or to fail to resent unacceptable things. I'm saying to realize there are no such resentment-worthy things to actually observe. They are only tormenting fictional phantoms created in your imagination, not real, not really there in actual reality.

Wrongness/incorrectness etc. is unreal/untrue by definition.

In other words, there is no hate-worthy aspect of true unchanging reality to hate. There is no resentment-worthy aspect of unchanging true reality to resent. To see that fundamental eternal eyes-closed truth is what it means to fully and unconditionally accept what you cannot control, and accept and take accepting responsibility for how you control what you can, and thereby fully accept absolutely everything without any resentment or hate towards any real thing or real aspect of reality at all.

Every single thing is to be fully accepted (a.k.a. loved): either accepted as (1) what you cannot control, or as (2) being exactly the way you are choosing for it to be.

Thus, from the previous paragraph, to be logical we must conclude: Everything is acceptable, meaning nothing is worthy of resentment, hate, or unforgiveness.

This is an acceptance so full and unconditional that it can be called love. Thus, in other words, it is hereby logically proven: Everything is lovable.

So just love everything.



There are no shoulds and oughts. Thus, there is never anything to forgive.
There are no shoulds and oughts. Thus, there is never anything to forgive.


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This is a great code to live by. It inspires me to do the same even though it is not easy. We should love everyone like a brother or sister just like Jesus preached.
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Hi Scott, I understand your message but I wonder how you would handle something awful happening to one of your loved ones? I realize that even in a case of a loved one being hurt or killed we are supposed to forgive the one that caused harm or death to a loved one. I know you would not forget but how long would it take to forgive?
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Embracing unconditional acceptance as a philosophy transforms our approach to life, making the notion of forgiveness almost redundant. When we fully accept every aspect of reality, it helps us understand that events unfold as they must, based on a complex interplay of factors beyond our control. This perspective negates the need for resentment or blame, as it acknowledges that actions and outcomes are often the result of circumstances, not just individual choices. It's a shift from viewing life through a lens of judgment to one of understanding and acceptance. This doesn't negate responsibility but rather places events in a broader context, leading to a deeper sense of inner peace and a more compassionate view of the world.
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mrlefty0706 wrote: January 18th, 2024, 2:20 am Hi Scott, I understand your message but I wonder how you would handle something awful happening to one of your loved ones? I realize that even in a case of a loved one being hurt or killed we are supposed to forgive the one that caused harm or death to a loved one. I know you would not forget but how long would it take to forgive?
Hi, mrlefty0706,

Assuming I would follow my own teachings and not be a hypocrite (which isn't necessarily a safe assumption :lol: ), then I would instantly forgive the person. It would take exactly zero seconds, no time at all. That's because I believe in unconditional forgiveness, to say the least. However, as the Original Post (OP) explains, even that is an understatement. To speak more accurately, I believe there is never anything to forgive. In yet other words, I firmly practice the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting that which I cannot control, with a gracious acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants being called love, meaning I just love everything. No matter what proverbial cards I am dealt, I say, "Perfect!" Then I play them the best I can, wasting absolutely no time or energy at all on resentment (a.k.a. unforgiveness/nonacceptance). Anyone who wastes even a tiny bit of their very limited time or energy on unforgiveness (a.k.a. resentment or bitching about the cards they've been dealt) thereby plays cards significantly worse than I play them, which explains why my philosophy and way of life is so incredibly conducive to huge external success.

If we think of forgiveness as letting go of unforgiveness (i.e. unacceptance, resentment, and/or hate), then I don't need to forgive anything ever because there is never anything to forgive. I never have or hold onto the unforgiveness in the first place.

I'm already in a constant invincible happy state of having no unforgiveness that is not conditional or affected by external circumstance. That's effectively simply what it means to have invincible inner peace (a.k.a. true happiness).

If a killer hurricane (or virus or bacterial infection or animal or human) comes and kills someone I love, I don't ever accrue any unforgiveness towards that thing (e.g. the hurricane) and thus don't ever even need to forgive. I never have the unforgiveness (a.k.a. unacceptance/resentment) in the first place.




With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott



Just love everything.
Just love everything.



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Wow this answer is quite powerful Scott. The one thing that stood out the most in said answer, is that we waisting time we don't have to ponder on things that can't be changed. As a person that can hold a grudge for long, this made me think on how much time I have waisted on thing out of my control. This will be definitely something I'll tell myself each morning to get into the habit of letting things go. Thanks for this.
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Eckhart Aurelius Hughes wrote: January 18th, 2024, 11:14 am If you haven't already, you can sign up to be personally mentored by Scott "Eckhart Aurelius" Hughes at this link.

Hi Scott,

I understand and realize I have a lot to learn. Thank you for your fast response. Mrlefty0706

mrlefty0706 wrote: January 18th, 2024, 2:20 am Hi Scott, I understand your message but I wonder how you would handle something awful happening to one of your loved ones? I realize that even in a case of a loved one being hurt or killed we are supposed to forgive the one that caused harm or death to a loved one. I know you would not forget but how long would it take to forgive?
Hi, mrlefty0706,

Assuming I would follow my own teachings and not be a hypocrite (which isn't necessarily a safe assumption :lol: ), then I would instantly forgive the person. It would take exactly zero seconds, no time at all. That's because I believe in unconditional forgiveness, to say the least. However, as the Original Post (OP) explains, even that is an understatement. To speak more accurately, I believe there is never anything to forgive. In yet other words, I firmly practice the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting that which I cannot control, with a gracious acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants being called love, meaning I just love everything. No matter what proverbial cards I am dealt, I say, "Perfect!" Then I play them the best I can, wasting absolutely no time or energy at all on resentment (a.k.a. unforgiveness/nonacceptance). Anyone who wastes even a tiny bit of their very limited time or energy on unforgiveness (a.k.a. resentment or bitching about the cards they've been dealt) thereby plays cards significantly worse than I play them, which explains why my philosophy and way of life is so incredibly conducive to huge external success.

If we think of forgiveness as letting go of unforgiveness (i.e. unacceptance, resentment, and/or hate), then I don't need to forgive anything ever because there is never anything to forgive. I never have or hold onto the unforgiveness in the first place.

I'm already in a constant invincible happy state of having no unforgiveness that is not conditional or affected by external circumstance. That's effectively simply what it means to have invincible inner peace (a.k.a. true happiness).

If a killer hurricane (or virus or bacterial infection or animal or human) comes and kills someone I love, I don't ever accrue any unforgiveness towards that thing (e.g. the hurricane) and thus don't ever even need to forgive. I never have the unforgiveness (a.k.a. unacceptance/resentment) in the first place.




With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott




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Hi Scott,
I will remove should, ought and try from my vocabulary. I appreciate your fast and detailed responses to my questions. I am still digesting your response about forgiveness for someone that hurts or kills a family member. I will read your responses several times and commit them to memory. I will also keep OBC questions off the onlinephilosophyclub.com site.

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Choosing to unconditionally forgive means releasing resentment and letting go of grievances without expecting anything in return. It can lead to inner peace and emotional freedom, fostering a more positive and open mindset.
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Unconditional forgiveness takes this a step further by eliminating any conditions or expectations attached to the act of forgiving. It involves letting go of the need for an apology or restitution, choosing to free oneself from the emotional shackles of resentment. This perspective can be liberating, allowing individuals to break free from the cycle of anger and bitterness.
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Post by Carolyne Ochola »

This philosophy encourages a mindset of understanding rather than condemnation. In such a framework, forgiveness becomes less necessary because there's an acceptance of others' flaws and a focus on empathy rather than harboring resentment. However, it's essential to strike a balance, as certain situations may still warrant forgiveness for personal growth and healing.
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In embracing this mindset, you open the door to a more profound sense of inner peace and resilience. It becomes a transformative journey that allows you to transcend the limitations imposed by harboring grudges. Unconditional forgiveness promotes empathy, understanding, and a deeper connection with the shared humanity that binds us all.
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