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[Eckhart Aurelius Hughes]

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Hi Scott, my question relates to this sentence in your book: Enabling is not kindness.
 
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Is all enabling bad?

 
Hi, Alida Spies,
 
Thank you for your question!
 
Generally speaking, I don't think anything is bad.
 
Your question is thus at least semi-loaded and analogous to the question, "Are all cats reptiles?"
 
In one sense, the answer is obviously no, but that's also, at best, an understatement. The question itself is flawed because it's at least a semi-loaded question, and loaded questions are incoherent, meaningless, and unanswerable.
 
Other examples of similarly semi-loaded questions would be these:
 
"Do you cheat on your spouse every day?"
 
"Do you beat your wife every day of the week, including weekends too?"
 
"Does two plus two always equal five?
 
 
The questions above, and your original question, are technically not necessarily loaded, per se. That's because they are open to some interpretation. In any case, I think it would typically be misleading at best to answer any such question with a yes or a no.
 
 
Regardless, here is my answer to your question: I don't think anything is bad.
 
I practice the principle of Just Love Everything. In other words, I practice unconditional love, which for me is just unconditional acceptance with an acceptance so utterly full and unconditional that it warrants the word 'love'.
 
As my book shows in detail, the concept of and practice of unconditional acceptance follows as a logical necessity from practicing the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting what you cannot control.
 
When one fully accepts what one cannot control, everything is fully acceptable.
 
Every single thing is either (1) accepted as that which you don't control and thus simply is the way it is, or (2) accepted as that which you do control and thus is exactly the way you are choosing for it to be. Accept what you don't control, and then everything is acceptable.
 
Only worry about what you can control, and then you have no worries.
 
Only focus on (i.e. see as mattering) that which you control, and then you control everything that matters.
 
Nothing real is wrong. Nothing real is bad. Nothing unchangeable 'should' be different than it unchangeably is, whatever that would even mean. Nothing happens that shouldn't happen, whatever that would even mean.
 
Reality is right, always. Truth is right, always. The universe doesn't miscalculate. The universe doesn't make mistakes.
 



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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[Alida Spies]

Hi Scott,

Thanks for your reply. I will word my questions to accurately reflect what I mean in future.

Kind regards
Alida

[Eckhart Aurelius Hughes]

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Hi, Sameeha Ismail,

Thank you for your question!

Should a person reading about the horrors of the Holocaust just accept reality with inner peace?

No. They "should" neither accept it nor "should" they not accept.

I don't believe in shoulds.

So, for instance, I disagree with ALL six of the following statements:

1. You should drink coffee tomorrow morning.

2. You should not drink coffee tomorrow morning.

3. You should accept that the Holocaust happened.

4. You should not accept that the Holocaust happened.

5. You should sacrifice your inner peace by hating and resenting unchangeable aspects of reality (e.g. that the Holocaust happened).

6. You should not sacrifice your inner peace by hating and resenting unchangeable aspects of reality (e.g. that the Holocaust happened).


Per the teachings in my book, I disagree with all six of the above sentences.


For more on this topic, please see the following post and the links in it:

Topics about the dangerous superstition of 'shoulds' and 'oughts' and other resentful, moralizing judgementalism


I practice the principle of choosing to fully and unconditionally accept that which I cannot control and cannot change, with an acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants the word love.

I have invincible free-spirited inner peace (a.k.a. constant true happiness and unwavering spiritual fulfillment) because I make the above choice, as well as following the other similar and infinitely easy-to-follow suggestions from my book.

In other words, I have wonderful constant invincible amazing inner peace because I choose not to futilely fight (i.e. resent or engage in unforgiving nonacceptance towards) unchangeable aspects of reality.

Because I unconditionally and lovingly accept everything I don't control and can't change, and get exactly what I want when it comes to what I do control, no matter where I look or what I see, I therefore, without any trying or effort at all, see lovely things and am filled with love. No matter what happens out of my control and no matter what I see, I am filled with love, gratitude, and unconditional acceptance, without any willful resentment, hate, or unforgiveness or unacceptance. I don't need to try or put in effort, or strain myself physically as if I were lifting weights at the gym to be constantly and always filled with this wonderful love and see lovable beauty everywhere, no matter what happens externally. It is logically entailed by the simple and infinitely easy choice to practice the principle of fully and unconditionally accepting that which you cannot control and cannot change.

Having that kind of unwavering invincible inner peace (a.k.a. true happiness) is simply a choice.

Whether or not you choose to have the same is totally your choice. Whichever way you choose, you will get it. If you choose the heaven that is wonderful amazing graceful invincible inner peace (a.k.a. unwavering true happiness and spiritual fulfillment), then you will get that. If you choose its opposite—meaning if you choose hell, so to speak—then you will get that. That's the beauty of choice: When it comes to your choices, you always get exactly what you want, meaning what you choose.

For more on that last point, you can read the following topic of mine:

When I see someone in hell, I smile inside myself, and I think, "Good for him; he's getting what he's choosing."


I choose coffee and inner peace.

Whatever you choose, I say, honestly, sincerely, and with love, good for you.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

I fully and unconditionally accept that which I cannot cannot control and cannot change with an acceptance so full and unconditional it warrants the word love.
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[Adaboo]

If you noticed from your parents that they lack inadequate love for you but rank other siblings higher (love)from you. What must you do?

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If you noticed from your parents that they lack inadequate love for you but rank other siblings higher (love)from you. What must you do?

Hi, Adaboo,

Thank you for your question!

I see that you marked that you did read my book in full (and rated it 5/5), but are you sure you actually read it?
 
If you did read it, I suggest you read it again, because it definitely and very clearly answers your question.
 
For example, consider the following quotes from the book:
 
 

The beauty of conscious life is that it is not about figuring out what you must do.
 
Must and choice are incompatible.
 
Nothing must be done that isn’t done.

 
***
 

There is nothing you need to think or say to love in this way, or in other words to free your ever-satiated all-loving spirit. There is nothing you need to do. There is no membership you need to buy. There is no place you need to go.

 
 
***
 

If you believe the lie that something must be done before you can be content, then you will not be content, and in that way the lie becomes self-fulfilling.

With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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Like many others here who have been asked to post, I am not a philosopher. Also, even though I have been asked to post a sentence, I am posting something less than a sentence, and there is no page number for the thing that I disagree with; it is on the cover. I do not agree with Scott using a pen name. In the chapter titled "A World of Problems," he states, "Truth is something that can be revealed, not something that can be done." I do not understand how using a fake name can align with that statement.

Hi, diana lowery,

Thank you for your question!

My short answer is: no, it's not dishonest to use a nickname or pen name.
 
Here is my longer answer:
 
Depending on the specific circumstances, it can be dishonest to use a pen name, nickname, or other false name.
 
And, likewise, it often isn't dishonest.
 
I'd say typically, it's not dishonest to use a nickname, pen name, or an alternate name.
 
Nonetheless, it could possibly be dishonest if there are extenuating circumstances that make it dishonest. The main circumstance on which it would depend is the reason why someone is using a pen name or nickname, or why they are changing their name or going by multiple different names. Are they wanting to hide their real identity (such as they are a fugitive from the law or have a bad reputation they want to hide)?
 
Is it their intention to deceive people? In other words, is it their intention to trick people into believing something that is false?
 
To scratch at the surface of that question, we can ask other related questions, such as but not limited to the following:
 
1. What is their goal in using the pen name (or nickname or false name)?
 
2. To what extent, if any, are they attempting to hide their other name, original name, and/or so-called real name?
 
3. Have they ever flat-out lied about their other name, original name, and/or so-called real name being also one of their names? For example, if you asked them, "Do you also go by the name XYZ?" would they flat-out lie and say no, or would they say yes?
 
It's almost impossible that the person is being dishonest by using multiple names if they openly admit to doing so. There's nothing dishonest about using multiple names, but what could be dishonest is using a new name as a way to hide one's other name and identity.
 
So, what we want to heavily consider is whether the person is meaning to trick and lie about some hidden identity they don't want others to learn about or know they are connected to, or if they are just openly going by multiple names and/or changing their name for some more practical purpose (e.g. to make it more memorable or easier to pronounce or spell, etc.).
 
I don't think there is anything inherently dishonest at all about someone choosing to change their name or choosing to go by different names, such as having one name they go by with friends, or on stage, or at work, and another they use to introduce themself in other situations.
 
 
To use real-life specific examples:
 
I don't think it's dishonest for Eminem to (often) go by the name Eminem instead of his legal birth name, Marshall Bruce Mathers III.
 
I don't think it's dishonest for comedian Louis C.K. to go by the stage name Louis C.K. instead of his birth name, Louis Alfred Székely, using the initials C.K. to roughly approximate the pronunciation of Székely, giving him a made-up name that is easier to pronounce, remember, and spell for Americans.
 
I don't think it's dishonest for someone named Samuel to also start going by Sammy in some situations, or someone named Richard to also go by Dick in some situations.
 
In one last example, I don't think it's dishonest for someone to change their name because a celebrity or other public figure happens to have the same name, or because their current name is very common. In fact, it could be dishonest to not use a unique pen name or unique nickname in that situation.
 
It would often be much more dishonest to allow oneself to be mixed up with other people who happen to share your current non-unique name rather than change your name to something unique, so that people know exactly who you really are.
 
It's often dishonest to hide behind the ambiguity of your legal name, birth name, or so-called real name when you could easily make yourself more identifiable by using a unique name that is one-of-a-kind and unique to you and only you.
 
If you walk up to Eminem and ask him his name, and he says, "Eminem", he's not being dishonest.
 
If you walk up to him and ask his name, and he says, "Marshall", it's likely he is being dishonest and attempting to hide who he really is (i.e. the celebrity Eminem).
 
Likewise, if I tell you my name is "Scott" or "Scott Hughes", it's more likely I'm being dishonest or sneaky than if I tell you my name is "Eckhart Aurelius Hughes".
 
In the latter case, I am being very open and clear by telling you exactly who I am by using my one-of-a-kind identifier.
 
In contrast, if I were to tell you I am "Scott" or "Scott Hughes", then you really still have no idea who I am since there are so many Scott Hugheses. There are more than five Scott Hugheses in my hometown alone. There are probably over 100,000 of us on the globe right now. A great way to dishonestly hide who I am is to tell people my birth name ("Scott Hughes") rather than give them the unique name that only I go by ("Eckhart Aurelius Hughes").




With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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[rajesh kumar jain]

I wanted to ask what is your daily routine regarding productivity and how you manage all of the work.

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I wanted to ask what is your daily routine regarding productivity and how you manage all of the work.

Hi, rajesh kumar jain,

Thank you for your question!

The main factor for my high level of productivity and external success, without which I would not have achieved anything like that level of productivity and success, is simply that every second of my waking day I strictly follow the advice in my book, namely the eleven infinitely easy-to-follow suggestions at the end. In other words, I am happy, truly happy, in the sense of having unwavering inner peace, spiritual fulfillment, and spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline).
 
As I say in an example given in my book, a person who is happy to be running on a treadmill, who enjoys the running, including the challenge and discomfort of it, and who is thus consistently happy while running will run farther (and probably faster). They will be more productive (i.e. run farther and faster) because they are happy. In contrast, a person who hates running and believes running on a treadmill makes them miserable and thus believes that they cannot have inner peace while running won't run as far or as long or as fast. The unhappy person will be much less productive because they are unhappy.
 
So my productivity and external success are not primarily due to my routine, schedule, and habits as they are externally visible. Rather, it simply comes down to me having free-spirited inner peace (a.k.a. true happiness).
 
I am productive while I work because I am happy while I work. That is, truly happy in the sense of having unwavering consistent inner peace and spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline).
 
 
With that said, let me answer your question more directly.
 
My typical daily routine is as follows:
 
1. I sleep in and wake up naturally, meaning I am typically always starting my day super well-rested after getting a full night's sleep. To accomplish that, I almost never set an alarm. Likewise, I set things up in my life and relationships so I won't be woken up by anything external, such as a phone ringing or my friends stopping by and knocking on the door. I keep my phone on silent. I make sure my friends and family know I very strongly do not want to be disturbed or woken up in the morning, even by accident. I sleep with an eye mask. And so on and so forth.
 
 
2. Once I decide to get out of bed, before I actually get out of bed, I lay awake for a couple of minutes with my eyes open and list off some things I am grateful for. Usually, a big one is that I am grateful for the comfortable bed and good night's sleep and the already calm peaceful morning.
 
 
3. On autopilot, I complete a habituated morning routine that takes about 10 minutes and involves things like brushing my teeth, making my coffee, weighing myself (every day) and writing that down, and once per week on Tuesday measuring my waist and writing that down (which allows me to know my body fat percentage to a very decent level of precision). This is also when I make my morning bottle of water, which is 24 oz with a little bit of lemon juice and apple cider vinegar, and some BCAA powder. All of that and similar things get done within about 10 minutes of me getting out of bed, all without me thinking about it, having to check a list, or anything like that. It's similar to when you zone out while driving or walking home, and are daydreaming and paying basically no conscious attention to what your body is doing, but get home just fine. By using habits to get things done, it feels like it isn't even me that does the things. And, in a way, it isn't. It's a subconscious process that I have programmed to ensure certain things get done every single day in a certain order reliably and without any willpower or conscious involvement on my part.
 
 
4. I do my daily goal-setting (a.k.a. daily self-reminder and daily self-hypnosis). I am not creating or coming up with new goals here. Instead, what I do is write the same exact 5–10 goals each morning. So, for example, one of my current 5–10 goals is that "I start a book translation company by July 26th". That means once every single morning for the last few weeks and every single morning until I complete that task/goal, I re-write that down in a paper notebook each day.
 
 
5. Work on my computer for about 6 hours using a recurring daily checklist of tasks.
I log into my computer and go through my professional work tasks. I use a daily to-do list/checklist app on my computer for this. It's basically the same as a calendar but filled mostly with recurring tasks. This mostly includes things I plan to do once per day every day at work in a certain order, such as (1) go through my email inbox and reply to any unread emails, (2) check my credit card statements and pay any balances, (3) check my business bank accounts and log the balances, (4) answer any new questions in this Q&A, etc. But I also program in tasks that are done on a different schedule, such as once per week or even once per year on a specific day.
 
A version of the tool I use is being rolled out for usage by all of my mentees (who have completed the first 100 days and thus have been given a gift membership on you.pw). So for those to whom that applies, you can check out the tools at:
 
Form to Add New Tasks or Habits:
https://you.pw/ht-tracker/add-habit-or-task.php
 
Page to see the next task or habit that is due to be done, and mark off once it is done:
https://you.pw/ht-tracker/agenda.php
 
Calendar, mainly to see a record of completed tasks, which itself is mainly so you can track your streak for completing new habits:
 https://you.pw/ht-tracker/calendar.php
 
 
6. Eat a small pre-workout meal. This is typically the first thing I eat (besides coffee and water). I do intermittent fasting. Specifically, I typically only eat during a roughly 8-hour window per day (roughly between 4 pm and midnight most days). I fast the other 16 hours.
 
 
7. Work on my computer for another 30 minutes. This is usually where I get any tasks done related to social media. I avoid doing any tasks related to social media in those first 6 hours because I find that social media can be very distracting. However, running one's own business usually means that there are opportunities to use social media productively. It's analogous to being a music star or professional stand-up comedian who goes to the casino or bar to perform. Casinos and social media are both dangerous places that are designed to be addictive, and designed to move money and time (and time is money) from the users'/patrons' hands into the casino/media-owners' hands. Most people who go to casinos or use social media at all are going to end up poor and/or stay poor. Both in terms of time and money. Yet, for those with self-discipline (a.k.a. spiritual freedom) and an awareness of the dangers and what those places are about, they can be fun and worthwhile in moderation, even just recreationally for fun, and professionally, they definitely can have benefits. But I plan to handle things like casinos, social media, bars, alcohol, strip clubs the way I handle a literal gun. That is, very carefully with a deep and constant awareness of the danger and likelihood of disaster. It's an awareness that, despite the fact that I may be able to use the thing in a way that is actually beneficial by using it safely and in moderation, in most people's hands it would lead to a functionally certain disaster.
 
 
8. Workout in my gym with my son as my workout partner/trainee. This is also often the first time I check my phone for new text messages and personal emails and reply to them. For example, if someone sends a text message to me at 8 am, I probably won't see or reply to their text message until around 5 pm while I am working out in the gym.
 
 
9. Eat a post-workout meal, which is mostly just a big protein shake, and rest and recover from the workout.
 
 
10. Shower.
 
 
11. Practice salsa with my daughter.
 
 
12. Make dinner for my kids.
 
 
13. After dinner is where I schedule and/or complete weekly tasks that vary by the day of the week. For example, on Monday nights, I have a recurring business meeting with my partners in a local business that we are starting together. On Tuesday nights, I go to a salsa group class with my daughter. On Wednesdays, I usually do a movie night with my kids. On Friday nights, I go out salsa dancing (without my daughter) until after midnight. On many of the other nights, you will usually find me with my girlfriend.
 
 
14. I have a daily habit of doing a 15-minute daily stretching routine. I listen to audiobooks while doing that. Then I will sometimes take a walk while listening to the audiobook, especially if my smartwatch says I haven't gotten at least 10,000 steps yet that day. I'll also listen to the audiobook while doing any chores or miscellaneous tasks, such as cleaning up around the house or folding my laundry.
 
 
15. Meditate. In the winter, I usually go to my outdoor hot tub. In the summer, I sit outside on the porch for a while and drink a few cups of tea. I talk to the trees, both literally and figuratively. I talk to myself a lot during the day too, but the conversations with the trees, sky, and stars are more enlightening and healthy in my opinion.
 
 
16. When I get in bed, I typically do about 5–10 minutes of Spanish lessons using an app on my phone.

17. Then I eat ice cream in bed, usually while watching Rumble or YouTube documentaries on my TV. Yes, I typically eat ice cream in bed every single night. To be fair, it's a light ice cream (i.e. relatively low-calorie). My favorite thing to watch, at least if I'm alone, is mini-documentaries on YouTube or Rumble made by people with doctorates who I trust. Some of my favorites include:
 
- PBS Spacetime hosted by Dr. Matt O'Dowd
- PsycHacks hosted by Dr. Orion Taraban
- Science without the Gobbledygook by Dr. Sabine Hossenfelder
- Quantum Consciousness by Dr. Justin Riddle
- The Science Asylum by Dr. Nick Lucid
- PBS's Be Smart by Dr. Joe Hanson
- Veritasium by Dr. Derek Muller
 
That's just a small sample. There are a lot of experts in different fields that I follow.
 
 
 
17. I floss and brush my teeth, put in my dorky retainers, and then either watch more videos, listen to more audiobooks, or read in bed until I fall asleep.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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[Charlse Ochoa]

First, thank you Scott for bringing this opportunity to ask u questions, specifically, on the aspect of personal development. There is this skill I wish to learn. However, I have double mind in believing myself that I can actually know it well after taking the course. What do u think I can do to change my mindset and actually take a concrete decision either to go for it or let go of it.?

[Eckhart Aurelius Hughes]

First, thank you Scott for bringing this opportunity to ask u questions, specifically, on the aspect of personal development. There is this skill I wish to learn. However, I have double mind in believing myself that I can actually know it well after taking the course. What do u think I can do to change my mindset and actually take a concrete decision either to go for it or let go of it.?

Hi, Charlse Ochoa,

Thank you for your question. I have already answered that question with the following advice article of mine:

My HUGE TIP for decision paralysis: If it's that hard to decide, it doesn't really matter.


I also elaborated on the process I use to make decisions in the answer to the following question:

(Q&A) When you have multiple options to choose from and you must choose one and can only choose one, how do you choose?


You can find the above question in the full list of answered questions. So, in the future, please do first check the full list of already answered questions before asking a question to see if your question was already asked by someone else.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a.

[Eagle Adastra]

Waking up by 4 am. Drinking a lot of water. Doing my daily morning exercise. Following my daily timetable...

[Ezeakor Oliver]

What's the best way to start building a daily routine?

[Eckhart Aurelius Hughes]

What's the best way to start building a daily routine?

Hi, Ezeakor Oliver,

That question was already asked and answered earlier in the Q&A:

How do I maintain a regime or routine? How do I get rid of old bad habits and build new ones?


You are so productive and successful in so many different tasks. What is your daily routine that makes you so productive?


Moving forward, please do make sure to read all the previous Q&As before asking a new question to make sure the question hasn't already been asked and answered.


With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

[Gladis Ratish Kumar]

When you reflect on your past, what are the things you wish you could have changed?

[Thomas D Flowers]

I wish to write my first book and be a published author. I haven't written a book before. But what gave courage and wish for it is that I think I have talent in creative thinking and writing down my thoughts.

What advise do you have for me to make this a concrete reality?