Pattern-chaser wrote: ↑May 11th, 2025, 5:37 am
Sy Borg wrote: ↑May 9th, 2025, 5:05 pm
Yes, EQ is not only the ability to get along with others, but also to manipulate them.
I have been known to be cynical, or to express cynical views, but even to me, this
seems hard. Do you not recognise the, er, softer side of "EQ"?
This is a problem or surprise that I have encountered in almost all my attempts at philosophy. I have a destination in mind as I begin that is not necessarily where the train stops. I expect philosophy to tell me that I should want to be a good person, to tell me how to do so and why. I expect exposure to philosophy to reveal our flaws to us and to encourage us to fix them and make a better world and be happier.
However, when we come up with anything useful, someone will weaponize it. We made airplanes, and soon after we were dropping bombs on people from the sky. Similarly, philosophy and psychology can be weaponized.
So, for example, when I learned of cognitive bias, I was quite excited at the prospect of seeing through the biases and getting closer to objective truth. I soon realized with horror that: many folks had no knowledge of cognitive bias and saw little value in learning about it, and some folks saw the value in the concept as a method for using and abusing others.
Similarly, my instinct is to see learning about emotional intelligence as a means to treating others better, respecting them more, and helping both myself and others have a better time. Yet, I have to admit that it's not hard to see how someone could learn these skills as a means to taking advantage of others.
"If determinism holds, then past events have conspired to cause me to hold this view--it is out of my control. Either I am right about free will, or it is not my fault that I am wrong."