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[Surabhi Rani]

We should learn the value of assertive communication with our so-called others in space or our so-called others in time. Self-responsibility, self-discipline, and the principle of live and let live are the cornerstones of true happiness. Assertive means explicitly saying what we mean, being honest, having no unmet expectations, and being happy. These are great practical tips for life and represent a wholesome inner personality.

[Ike Kass]

I agree. I think everyone being assertive makes communication easier for humanity. Unassertive people need to change

[Wamboi Susan]

Being honest without expectations frees one's spirit, it has worked and continues to work for me with my relationship with others. Most of the times i have been in a misery, self reflection without bias revealed to me how my choice of communication contributed to it , always coming out in unassertive and aggressive forms. "The battle is mostly, if not entirely, inside". (Eckhart Aurelius Hughes)-In It together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All.

[Bethel Saint Bright]

This has been a wake up call for me since I read In It Together. This is one of the reason I believe that the book will help the reader see life from of the "Real You." The "Real You" is assertive and unaggressive.

[Mounce574]

I tend to be assertive because I say what I mean. By not being direct then I am setting myself up for failure because people can't read your mind. Passive aggressive people build resentment and people who are talked to in an aggressive manner will not respond positively.

Looking back on this, now that I have read In it Together multiple times, I think I would fall under the unassertive. How would you go from unassertive to assertive. Are there specific tips you can offer that will help someone, like myself, who is introverted and has difficulty with conveying what I want without coming across as rude?

[Ivon Ikunza]

Assertiveness is what we've been taught since our primary schools. It's okay to stand for what you believe in. It should be a value for all of us.

[Alice Glover]

I'm usually number 3, unassertive and unaggressive across space, but I'm sometimes number 2 across time. I make faces at my present self, blame my problems on my past self, and tell my future self she's out of luck if she expects help from either of us.

[Betsy House Mills]

First, I have to agree with Jennifer Coxon: "However, that doesn't mean that I don't drop into that passive person on occasion, driven by fear or tiredness. Are we ever truly just one of these categories, or are we always a mix?"

I am usually assertive. I speak my mind, as you may have already noticed. However, I do tend to be passive and not speak my mind when I fear it is going to "upset the apple cart." Like right now, I want to tell you that the only thing disturbing my inner peace is your daily tasks and that raffle. I STILL cannot post a reply to the review, but don't want to say anything again because I fear being labelled "whiny."
I feel like my children when I called them in to point out what they have done wrong when the moderator takes away my points because "The last X repost done was for the May 17th BOTD." This happened because I went back to check if I had reposted and clicked the wrong one (they are so close together); however, I HAD reposted the correct one. It was just BEFORE going back. I see an email from OBC and my heart sinks and I think, "Now what?"

I had to start the mentoring program over because I missed doing one thing on one day. May I ask, please, respectfully why there is absolutely no forgiveness or penance (maybe go back and read 10 of your old posts from 2020)?

I'm the older generation and can't do social media like the younger ones. I can't figure out how to tell if the Instagram posts are new or old. If anyone can explain that to me, I would be ever so grateful. Is there a chat room set up around here that I haven't found?

Was this too much assertiveness? I certainly hope it isn't read as aggressive, because that isn't how it is written. I'm already worrying that it is going to be read as complaining, and I'm not doing that either. I'm trying SO hard to follow all the rules while knowing I probably won't make it again.

Oh, by the way, if you want to hear more, ask me about my "In It Together" book review.

Betsy House Mills